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But he or she really just sees you as a friend.

 

I have tons lmao Sometimes, I even double think if I'm taking advantage of it. Then, I realize as long as I don't put meaning to it, it's all good.

 

To name a few, I can get warm hugs if I ask for it 😂, get exclusive photos from them, create memories while I'm trying to move on lmao, get unexpected hugs haha, get to talk till midnight, friendly flirts that stings a little xD, they think of me to share stuff like funny, sad, happy, disturbing events that happened before meeting you and receny ones. They and I can share feelings to confide in. Also, helped me with my depression :)

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Yeah, I see what you're saying. 

 

Not gonna sugar coat it because it never ends well for both if it keeps going that way 

 

You secretley want her/him while he/she thinks you're being their friend

 

It ain't fair cuz you're not being comletely honest with that person 

 

And when he/she finds someone whom he/she will be attracted to 

 

if you haven't moved on by that time - you'll get hurt and it will suck

 

Those perks you mentioned are nothing in comparison to what you could've had if that person actually liked you the way you want her/him to like you

 

So be honest before you'll get hurt even more or keep saying to yourself that it is ok

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which just worsens my depression but im glad it helped yours :)

I understand, if you don't know who to confide in, you can try 7cups.com (the people I chatted with were truly nice), keep a journal, draw, write poems about them and your feelings, try to be busy with recreational activities that you find fun. Or do you want to share? I'm not a good adviser tho if it's fine with you.

 

And thank you, tbh, they're constantly on mind, I really want to see them and be able to confess, but it will never happen. I think I realized that it got to a point where it is unhealthy and so I'm really trying to move on so I won't ever do something that I will regret.

 

It's been really hard, huh. I'm hoping that both us of can finally see the world with only light hearts.

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Yeah, I see what you're saying.

 

Not gonna sugar coat it because it never ends well for both if it keeps going that way

 

You secretley want her/him while he/she thinks you're being their friend

 

It ain't fair cuz you're not being comletely honest with that person

 

And when he/she finds someone whom he/she will be attracted to

 

if you haven't moved on by that time - you'll get hurt and it will suck

 

Those perks you mentioned are nothing in comparison to what you could've had if that person actually liked you the way you want her/him to like you

 

So be honest before you'll get hurt even more or keep saying to yourself that it is ok

Honestly, thanks. It really hurts, but I'm too of a coward. I do think they're aware though. I mean, I was pretty obvious. I'll never know.

 

A few months back, let's call them K, K shared that they found someone hot and tried to hit on them but failed. I realized there that I'm too inlove and will only hurt and recently since we are apart and I'm sure there will be others that will be interested in K. So, I decided to move on since undeniably in person, I'm someone that tells, but holds back half the stuff.

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Honestly, thanks. It really hurts, but I'm too of a coward. I do think they're aware though. I mean, I was pretty obvious. I'll never know.

 

A few months back, let's call them K, K shared that they found someone hot and tried to hit on them but failed. I realized there that I'm too inlove and will only hurt and recently since we are apart and I'm sure there will be others that will be interested in K. So, I decided to move on since undeniably in person, I'm someone that tells, but holds back half the stuff.

Get really really drunk together with that person at home watching netflix or something and go for it to the end base but make sure the person shows consent and doesn't resist if the he/she will reject you right away say sorry blaming the drink)

 

It's a one time safe way to make sure he/she does or doesn't want it from you

 

You never know

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I understand, if you don't know who to confide in, you can try 7cups.com (the people I chatted with were truly nice), keep a journal, draw, write poems about them and your feelings, try to be busy with recreational activities that you find fun. Or do you want to share? I'm not a good adviser tho if it's fine with you.

 

And thank you, tbh, they're constantly on mind, I really want to see them and be able to confess, but it will never happen. I think I realized that it got to a point where it is unhealthy and so I'm really trying to move on so I won't ever do something that I will regret.

 

It's been really hard, huh. I'm hoping that both us of can finally see the world with only light hearts.

Thank you! Im doing the journal thing and its effective

 

I hope so too laugh.png

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It's bittersweet indeed. You enjoy the bits of attention you get from them but you know it can never be more than that. Maybe it also feels like you're just using them to get your 'needs' fulfilled. 

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It's bittersweet indeed. You enjoy the bits of attention you get from them but you know it can never be more than that. Maybe it also feels like you're just using them to get your 'needs' fulfilled.

We'd definitely feel guilty... We occasionally put meaning...

 

 

 

There are no perks. You’re just miserable.

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Right?

 

If I think you’re hot you better believe I’m going to make it 100% clear I just want to be your gf from day 1.

It's probably because we started off as friends? Or because I'm in the process of moving on so I start to think those are perks lol I can't deny that I approached K first to see if we can be thing tho 😂

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Get really really drunk together with that person at home watching netflix or something and go for it to the end base but make sure the person shows consent and doesn't resist if the he/she will reject you right away say sorry blaming the drink)

 

It's a one time safe way to make sure he/she does or doesn't want it from you

 

You never know

Don't worry, I won't do that :) Plus, I can't drink alcohol. I will literally drop dead 😂

 

Though, I came back from hanging out for a few days with friends and K was there too. Annnd, I tried to drive our conversations to our nonexistent romance and K was blocking it or didn't want to talk about it. I joked that I had liked them. K would suddenly turn silent. So, I guess that's it. K doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. And there was no chance from the beginning. Immediately showed me the person K was interested in rn. I am now truly working on moving on. I just hope I stop thinking about K 24/7. It just hurts so much in other days, sometimes I enjoy spending time with K.

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