Being born as an ugly woman, my life was already over before it began

[WestWorld]

All my life I was bullied and torture relentlessly because of my looks. What crime did I commit except being born with a face I didn’t ask for me? I did my best to still treat others well even when they destroyed all my happiness and self esteem. Why? Because my face is not pretty enough. You know there’s a language exchange app. I never showed my face there. But I received confessions from people after they talked to me. They all told me they liked my personality, I was so nice, I was funny and caring and kind. There were two men I met on the app (different times) that said the same to me. And I liked them too. I really liked them. But after I showed them my picture, they blocked me. They blocked me even though they knew how insecure I was. They blocked me even though they knew I was bullied all the time. And that’s when I realized in this shitty world, personality doesn’t mean anything. This is what the people around me has taught me. The kind of person I am doesn’t matter to anyone. Because I am stuck with an ugly face I will never become happy. Yes I came to accept it so I will kill myself. I never asked to be born, why do I have to suffer?? I don’t want to be in pain anymore. Everyone please treat others kindly no matter their appearance. It hurts so badly

[cake mf]

Gurl pls seek help.

 

Nobody is ugly, ppl are just mean to you bc they’re jealous little hoes. You could have body image issues you need to get help.

[Ðœimi]

omg please don't say that

you are worthy to live and you are beautiful

[FactMan]

I am sure you can make it work, don't give up!!!

[UMJI MOODS]

Personality always trumps looks. You could be gorgeous but have a horrible personality. Beauty fades with time, where a good person can stay that way until the day they die. People meeting people on apps are not looking for a long term relationship so that is no way to judge. Get yourself out in public and be confident. There is a person waiting to meet you. Much love to you.

[Ronnie Mars]

I've been in your position too. I even considered taking my own life but I couldn't do it. I couldn't bring myself to it. And I came to realize that the world is indeed shitty, yet there are still people out there who can make you happy. I haven't found them yet, but I still have hope. So I pray that you have hope as well.

 

Be strong and hang in there.

[car door guy]

There is no such thing as an ugly woman. For real. I am not saying this to be nice but I see beauty in every woman. We all have that lil thing that makes us pretty and you should capitalize on it. 

Get out in the real world and find someone with whom you will match on that attraction. 

[Hormones]

Listen. I agree with what you are saying. But this world is jaded. Me and my gay peers were considered ugly growing up and look at us now everyone wants to ask us out. People are hypocrites what may considered ugly for some people but for others attractive. You are not ugly, the guys you are asking out are period. Just pigs honestly. Don't get discouraged. You will get through this. Everyone has a soulmate. I believe in you <3 

[Hormones]

Listen. I agree with what you are saying. But this world is jaded. Me and my gay peers were considered ugly growing up and look at us now everyone wants to ask us out. People are hypocrites what may considered ugly for some people but for others attractive. You are not ugly, the guys you are asking out are period. Just pigs honestly. Don't get discouraged. You will get through this. Everyone has a soulmate. I believe in you <3 

[Thirsty]

i mean if u hate ur looks that much u could always get surgery? or just learn to love and embrace what u look like

[piapentagon]

society is just hard on women. they tell us we have to be the perfect image of what they see as "pretty" but its okay for men to be ugly. its okay for men to be fat, to be old, to be balding, to have gray hair, to be short, to be scrawny, etc. Magically everything THEY do and however THEY look, is ' a-okay and they're still worthwhile as people. It's only US who have to look perfect or we're worthless trash.

 

You're not ugly. We just live in a woman-hating world. A world that denies who we are for what we look like. You have to rise above that system and love you and your looks because you are deserving.

 

it know it sounds like shit to say that when you love yourself others will follow but that is how it works. They rejected you because they could. You showed them your weakness and they used it against you. Because they were small. And because they were shallow

 

Any man who wouldn't want you doesn't deserve you. you think these men aren't ugly? They are. All my friends' boyfriends are ugly. But they demand my friends be gorgeous and get surgery etc. I refuse to be a part of it.

 

i'm not exactly what men would call perfect looking but i have a certain appeal and i'm very very confident so i keep them coming after me, but men will never be my focus. my focus is my work and the things i want and want to give to myself.

 

men expect to be the center of a woman's life and they want winning their approval to be your life's purpose. once you take that away from them, they no longer control you, can no longer make you feel bad, and they no longer have the right to judge you.

 

and surprisingly enough, that's when they decide they want you - the moment you decide you don't CARE what they think

 

so my advice is focus on yourself. never call yourself ugly. fuck society's standards of beauty. they're very restricted and unfair anyway. they don't MEAN anything. if you dont fit those standards it doesn't mean that you're ugly and someone else is better than you. that's just what men want you to think. the way they treat women like prizes and meat, is the way they've kept us down for CENTURIES

 

i say resist. have pride in your looks and love for your appearance even though they say you dont deserve it. because you do deserve. everyone deserves love from themselves and from others. and if any any man go against you, fuck him. you will always see some stupid men out there who can't recognize a good thing when its right in front of them. ignore men like that. they're not worth your time and they're not worth feeling bad over.

[polygon]

I'm sorry you're hurting right now OP. You're very precious and you do have a beautiful personality and I'm sure you're beautiful on the outside as well. Beauty is purely subjective, but personality will always matter more. I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm here if you want to talk so please leave a PM if you'd like. I have been in your position as well.

 

Please have hope- things will get better. please don't hurt yourself. I know that this may sting and things might be hard now, causing you pain. But, a good day will come and you will find someone to appreciate you. Time can change things and you don't know what will wait you in future as there is a person out there for you. Give yourself that chance as you deserve it.

 
I'll also mention that one of our mods, Kayden, is a counselor. If you want her contact info, it is on her profile. Stay strong OP <3 
 

[Hormones]

society is just hard on women. they tell us we have to be the perfect image of what they see as "pretty" but its okay for men to be ugly. its okay for men to be fat, to be old, to be balding, to have gray hair, to be short. magically everything THEY do and no matter how THEY look, its' a-okay.

 

You're not ugly. We just live in a woman-hating world. A world who denies who we are for what we look like. You have to rise above that system and love you and your looks because you are deserving.

 

it know it sounds like shit to say that when you love yourself others will follow but that is how it works. They rejected you because they could. You showed them your weakness and they used it against you. Because they were small. And because they were shallow

 

Any man who wouldn't want you doesn't deserve you. you think these men aren't ugly? They are. All my friends' boyfriends are ugly. But they demand my friends be gorgeous and get surgery etc. I refuse to be a part of it.

 

i'm not exactly what men would call perfect looking but i have a certain appeal and i've very very confident so i keep them coming after me, but men will never be my focus. my focus is my work and the things i want and want to give to myself.

 

men expect to be the center of a woman's life and they want their approval to be your purpose. once you take those things away from them, they no longer control you, or make you feel bad, and they no longer have the right to judge you.

 

and surprisingly enough, that's when they decide they want you

 

so my advice is focus on yourself. never call yourself ugly. fuck society's standards of beauty. they're very restricted and unfair anyway. they don't MEAN anything. they mean that you're ugly and someone else is better than you. that's just what men want you to think. the way they treat women like prizes and meat, is the way they've kept us down for CENTURIES

 

i say resist. have pride in your looks and love for your appearance even though they say you dont deserve it. because you do. everyone deserves love from themselves and from others. and if any any man go against you, fuck him

You are an angel 

[Thirsty]

its okay for men to be fat, to be old, to be balding, to have gray hair, to be short. magically everything THEY do and no matter how THEY look, its' a-okay.

 

 

umm..who told u that? ugly men get shamed all the time. short men get rejected all the time. 

[BITE MY CLIT]

There is no such thing as an ugly person, only broke people. Once you invest in yourself through exercise, makeup etc. you will definitely see improvements and your self esteem will rise as well. I'm not saying that you have to do all these things to feel beautiful but they help and once your self esteem goes up you will also feel better about yourself and just stop giving af overall. There is hope honey.

 

And as someone mentioned beauty fades. What may be stopping you from finding someone right now is probably your lack of confidence, there will always be someone more beautiful (and people that are more conventionally unattractive as you are as well) - you just need to be yourself.

[Hormones]

There is no such thing as an ugly person, only broke people. Once you invest in yourself through exercise, makeup etc. you will definitely see improvements and your self esteem will rise as well. I'm not saying that you have to do all these things to feel beautiful but they help and once your self esteem goes up you will also feel better about yourself and just stop giving af overall. There is hope honey.

 

And as someone mentioned beauty fades. What may be stopping you from finding someone right now is probably your lack of confidence, there will always be someone more beautiful (and people that are more conventionally unattractive as you are as well - you just need to be yourself.

 

I agree once you invest in yourself you look better honestly.

[piapentagon]

You are an angel 

 

thank you! i'm glad you understand what i was trying to say

[Saint Rose]

everyone deals with people who finds them unattractive/attractive. I've met guys who found me hot, i've met guys who did not and straight told me to my face that's the bliss of being a normal person. There's men out there that find you pretty, but are too shy to tell you because they themselves have confidence issues and pretty much everyone gets teased for their looks, believe me, it's waaaaay more common than you think. 

 

You'll be surprised at how any "beautiful" people feel insecure over their looks

How many celebs get plastic surgery? Even our fave idols are out here feels insecure, Celebs literally compare themselves with other all the times

 

Hell, Beyonce was asking her fans not too unflattering pics of her? Fucking beyonce feels insecure over "unflattering" pics- Imagine that.

 

Do not kill yourselves over some fucking idiots, do not waste you precious life and potential over some fucking blind ass idiots

 

You know whats the perfect revenge, finding a good ass whole man who treats you right find you beautiful and love your personality!

 

But before you do that, you need to love yourself first. 

[lil yuzi]

you need to define your own standard of beauty that is revolved around YOURSELF. Whatever feature is on your face right now is the epitome of beautiful to the person whos approval matters most - your own. Who dares call you anything short of beautiful? Lemme tell you they are unintelligent, tactless, and sadly shaken up beings. let's pray for them to one day experience good and clear vision because lord knows they haven't yet. I know things may seem bleak now, that life isnt fair and allodat, but trust, the character you build throughout your trials of self acceptance is SO much more beautiful than whatever superficial appearance ppl be lusting over now. If conventional beauty is all someone can appreciate then their energy is a boring waste of time and youre the one who deserves better than that.

[adina kim]

there no such this as ugly women,just a lazy one,if u fat go for some work out.

if u really dat ugly,learn make up or do PS(if u dont have money to do ps or buy makeup,work hard get that money)

[Lolly21]

STAY WOKE BABY.

 

Being beautiful is so overrated! 

Believe when I say this: there is someone out there for you. Do not rely all your emotions on love. Be proud and secure of yourself first; everything comes second. YOU and ONLY YOU is the most important. Invest time in yourself and in self-love.

 

Also, I've seen all kinds of couples in my short life: the "uglies", the "hot ones" and etc. But that's crap. Looks are not everything. A pretty face is just that, a pretty face, but personality is what makes people stay.

 

Be strong. We're supporting you  

[earthtolori]

Those people are shallow and aren't worth your time if they leave for something as petty as that. People can be so cruel but just know that most of them are probably just projecting their insecurities onto you because they have something that they don't like about themselves. Those types of people are always the most miserable no matter how hard they try to hide it and act like they aren't. Just keep doing you and you'll come across the right people eventually. Looks can always change and be improved on but if you have a shitty personality you're a lost cause in my book. Keep your head up, sweetheart! 

[Doc Noir]

 

 

i'm sorry but that's just bullshit

 

society expects you to be good looking person, no matter whether you're a man or a woman

 

it's okay for guys to be ugly you say? lmao, sure. in what world? there are male standards men have to meet, and there are female standards women have to meet 

 

there's no fucking magic, according to society if you're an ugly guy you're trash, if you're an ugly woman you're trash. i've never in my entire life saw a balding, fat, hideous dude get a pass just because he's a guy, and i've never seen guys of that caliber go around with a perfect chick

 

if kpoppas were ugly do you think they would've been where they are now? bullshit. i don't like lookism as a comic very much, but it's a perfect example (although sometimes over the top) of how others treat you based on your outwards appearance

 

it's not a woman hating society, it's a human hating society cause we absolutely fucking love to self-destruct

 

op, i hope you're doing fine. there are all kinds of people, which is what made me keep going through the though times. the world is different, and it's ugly, but at the same time it's very beautiful. those who achieve perfection will only fall into their demise because perfection is infinite and could not be reached, there'll be always someone better than us, or more appealing than us, or smarter than us. i hope you find your happiness from within yourself. i'm shit at comforting when i don't know the person, but i wish you best of luck

[piapentagon]

i'm sorry but that's just bullshit

 

society expects you to be good looking person, no matter whether you're a man or a woman

 

it's okay for guys to be ugly you say? lmao, sure. in what world? there are male standards men have to meet, and there are female standards women have to meet 

 

there's no fucking magic, according to society if you're an ugly guy you're trash, if you're an ugly woman you're trash. i've never in my entire life saw a balding, fat, hideous dude get a pass just because he's a guy, and i've never seen guys of that caliber go around with a perfect chick

 

if kpoppas were ugly do you think they would've been where they are now? bullshit. i don't like lookism as a comic very much, but it's a perfect example (although sometimes over the top) of how others treat you based on your outwards appearance

 

it's not a woman hating society, it's a human hating society cause we absolutely fucking love to self-destruct

 

op, i hope you're doing fine. there are all kinds of people, which is what made me keep going through the though times. the world is different, and it's ugly, but at the same time it's very beautiful. those who achieve perfection will only fall into their demise because perfection is infinite and could not be reached, there'll be always someone better than us, or more appealing than us, or smarter than us. i hope you find your happiness from within yourself. i'm shit at comforting when i don't know the person, but i wish you best of luck

 

i understand that you don't agree

but when you disagree with others it would have more weight if you were at least respectful about it

telling people their honest views on life, society and beauty are just "bullshit" doesn't really make you come across looking particularly wise/deep and it doesn't make the person you disagree with particularly willing to hear or entertain your counterview. in fact, i didn't read your reply because it started off very disrespectful. But what I did skim of it it came off as bitter, negative and off-base

 

my advice is to think on the things i've said over time. don't just automatically accept what everyone else says, but do think about others' views without immediately batting them down as 'bullshit.' maybe given time you will come to some of type of understanding as to what i'm trying to say and why i may see things the way I do, but i promise you - i have my reasons. you may never fully agree with me, but over time you might find that you see my reasoning.

 

we all experience these issues differently and we have our own ways that we try to comfort people. the things i've said were said with honesty and the intent to help and heal. so i don't see why i need to be attacked by you for that

 

have a good day

[Oppa did mean it]

I'm a dude so I don't know if my opinion will be taken into consideration but looks aren't the be all to get someone, from my college group of female friends the one that I have seen has the most guys that want something with her is the "ugly one", she's short, fat, has a really ugly nose, etc., but she's the most popular one because she's really nice, she's really social, and like people mention above she invest in her looks, she wears nice clothes and changes her hair constantly, she's really cool overall, the only reason I personally wouldn't go out with her is not because of her looks but because she's lazy AF, like legit I have to help her do her homework or else she would have already failed at school lol.

 

Don't worry about it, being pretty will attract more people but if you're a bitch no one will stay with you for the long run, on the other hand if you're really nice.

 

Also if I can give you little advise for your future relationships, don't mention to a guy that you are not confident, in most cases lack of confidence is a bigger turn off than looks, it's better that you tell your "weaknesses" to someone that you already have a relationship with than someone you  are just getting to know.