kookiestealer 92 Posted April 13, 2018 Share Posted April 13, 2018 I have a crush on my friend, but I don’t think he sees me as anything more. He is reserved but not shy. He plays sport on a professional level so doesn’t drink and party that much. I have invited him out to join me and other friends (people he has never met) two times before but has declined. Typically his responsive is this: Of course you are out tonight ;) I don't think I will be heading out, but fight on little soldier 💪 When I do text him or talk to him, he is very responsive and upbeat. We have classes together, so I see him very often. We sit together (in class and at lunch), and I feel we are close friends. I have invited him and some of our mutual friends out next Saturday, and his response was: "Maybe, I need to check my schedule first". I could be more direct with him next time and ask him out (alone) or try hinting at it, but I feel I'm deep in the friendzone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UMJI MOODS 11,500 Posted April 13, 2018 Share Posted April 13, 2018 Definitely sounds like friendzoning to me. You have to make a choice yourself. You can try to take it to another level and maybe get rejected and possibly make things overly uncomfortable. Or if your friendship means too much leave things as they are. Only you can know which one is the choice for you. Good luck either way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Repeat 1,397 Posted April 13, 2018 Share Posted April 13, 2018 It really sounds like he's not into you...sorry. Especially this message " Of course you are out tonight ;) I don't think I will be heading out, but fight on little soldier " I don't think you'd call someone you're into "little soldier" I think you've got two choices: 1) ask him out directly, don't hint anymore. But also be prepared for him to say no and your friendship to not be the same. 2) move on romantically with someone else and keep him as just a friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clover. 10,048 Posted April 13, 2018 Share Posted April 13, 2018 Ask him to go somewhere during the day like hm the movies or have lunch together and you don't really need to tell him if y'all going alone or not. Treat the whole situation like something casual between two friends and see how it will go from there. I don't think you should risk and ask him out directly, yet. Test the waters first. Sometimes, love and attraction develop within time and you need to be alone more often for that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kookiestealer 92 Posted April 14, 2018 Author Share Posted April 14, 2018 Definitely sounds like friendzoning to me. You have to make a choice yourself. You can try to take it to another level and maybe get rejected and possibly make things overly uncomfortable. Or if your friendship means too much leave things as they are. Only you can know which one is the choice for you. Good luck either way. It really sounds like he's not into you...sorry. Especially this message " Of course you are out tonight ;) I don't think I will be heading out, but fight on little soldier " I don't think you'd call someone you're into "little soldier" I think you've got two choices: 1) ask him out directly, don't hint anymore. But also be prepared for him to say no and your friendship to not be the same. 2) move on romantically with someone else and keep him as just a friend. Yeah, our friendship means too much for me... I don't think I would want to risk it Ask him to go somewhere during the day like hm the movies or have lunch together and you don't really need to tell him if y'all going alone or not. Treat the whole situation like something casual between two friends and see how it will go from there. I don't think you should risk and ask him out directly, yet. Test the waters first. Sometimes, love and attraction develop within time and you need to be alone more often for that. Great advice! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krystalized 1,843 Posted April 14, 2018 Share Posted April 14, 2018 Yeah... Maybe hes not into you. I had a situation with a friend but even when I was flirting (I think he didnt reciprocate the flirting so I moved on) now. He wants the V but im like you lost your chance hahaha like I guess if you both are mature enough it shouldnt affect the friendship Good luck , whatever you choose to do (a bold move or just friends) just dont make it awkward after that... Aka try to get rid of the feelings if things [[don't end the way u wanted]] Edit: theres a phrasal verb for this but I totally fogot I hope u caught my idea. Anyway, good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geminimoon 274 Posted April 15, 2018 Share Posted April 15, 2018 Ugh is he a Scorpio or some hard to read sign? But yeah it seems that he’s not into you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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