a question for people with dating experience

[binsbins]

do you think it's better to like your s.o more than they like you, or to have them like you more than you like them?

i think ideally both parties would like each other about the same amount, but it's often not the case

i used to think it was better to be liked more, but then i went through that situation with my ex, and it was just very uncomfortable and awkward

i just felt kind of guilty all the time? like i wasn't trying hard enough or something (it was one of the main reasons i broke up with him tbh)

have you ever experienced this sort of situation? how did you handle it?

[B A R B I E]

i believe equity is best but obviously like u said, its not the case in most relationships so i believe being loved more is better than loving someone else more

[eriy.m]

Being loved more makes you suffer less than the opposite. But it doesn't mean it's better tbh. Both suck. That's why I prefer friendship, it's the best.

[MeiLyn]

I've experienced both and to be liked more is better imo cos when I like someone I go all out and he later took it for granted. There should be a balance somehow and as long as one  appreciates the other and doesn't take them for granted it's all good

[UMJI MOODS]

Being liked more is tiring. Equity is best.

[deobizone]

idk both feel equally bad.

 

from my experiences...

i have been cheated on a few times, so when it happens like that, liking them more certainly doesnt feel good ._.

and in relationship i wasnt cheated on, jealousy was a big problem and caused a lot of problems. plus overbearing people, i really cant handle them, being hovered over all the time. it makes me too uncomfortable. it actually reason i broke up with her, because she got mad i was hanging out with my friends for awhile & not answering her messages. 

 

if im honest, considering this, i dunno really what i'd chose. i suppose liking them more, im used to it at this point lol

[binsbins]

idk both feel equally bad.

 

from my experiences...

i have been cheated on a few times, so when it happens like that, liking them more certainly doesnt feel good ._.

and in relationship i wasnt cheated on, jealousy was a big problem and caused a lot of problems. plus overbearing people, i really cant handle them, being hovered over all the time. it makes me too uncomfortable. it actually reason i broke up with her, because she got mad i was hanging out with my friends for awhile & not answering her messages. 

 

if im honest, considering this, i dunno really what i'd chose. i suppose liking them more, im used to it at this point lol

 

oh man, jealousy is definitely one of the biggest deal breakers for me

i think trust is the basis for any sort of relationship - not just romantic relationships either, just any sort of stable relationship with another person. if i'm with someone who doesn't trust me (or someone i can't trust), it's just too exhausting for me

[Haêra]

being liked more

[geminimoon]

I would really prefer it to be an equal amount of love and care. It’s whats best and more comfortable for both people involved. If you don’t love someone the same amount, you possibly can’t give to them everything that they are looking for or maybe you can’t give them anything at all because you don’t like them to begin with. But if you love them more than it just hurts lol. Been there done that, atleast I felt hag I loved him more. Apparently that wasn’t the case but idk.

[edelgard]

i rather have someone like me more bc i was always the one who likes more but i get that it could get suffocating for some people

[Vanille]

I've been in situations (with my ex but also in friendships) where I liked the other person more and the moment you find out is so painful and you start to question everything

I can imagine being liked more will make you feel guilty and I don't like breaking hearts

 

The best relationships and friendships are those with balance, if there's no balance, work on it or end it

[Chinaline]

So how do you measure love?

[ernie8]

i have this experience...

being loved more sometimes make you uncomfortable but if you loved someone more you'll get more hurt than loved.

 

equity is the best but till now i can't find it... 😢😢

 

in that situation i just enjoy being loved but dont took for granted. when i tired of him ill just make excuses and escape from him for few days ☺