shefangirls 268 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 very loooong I am sorry, tried to keep it as short as possible but I feel that the detail was important this time I met this guy and we instantly clicked from the very first second. We are complete opposites but at the same time we have a lot in common, it is a perfect mix. We get along super well and we've already told each other a lot of things. He is so fun, we have literally spent ten hours straight without getting bored or awkward, and it is always so fun. I really like him as a friend. Here's the thing: this guy is a complete flirt. From day one he has been flirting with me and we actually make out and cuddle in my bed to talk about stuff sometimes when we hang out. I know I only like him as a friend... I am obviously attracted to him but I know that my feelings will never become something romantic. And he is in an open relationship (something I was actually not aware of during the first time we made out, and still feel a bit weird about... we did make out once after he told me, but rn I am limiting our physical contact to cuddling until I decide what I feel about that), so I am 100% sure he is not into me either. They've been together for almost two years, (edit) and yes she knows about how it is an open relationship, he even showed me proof. However, I really like him as a friend, and I don't know if he is in the same page as I am or if he is just waiting for a hook up. He knows I am waiting for marriage (lol), he actually guessed it from day one, and he is still sticking around. I honestly don't know if he is doing that bc he thinks that I will give in, though...? Maybe I am overthinking, but sometimes I wonder if that's the reason why he does some stuff. Like one night he told me that to him kissing on the lips/having sex is nothing intimate, but that stuff like kissing a girl on the cheek is an action that he considers very intimate. Later on that same day he did just that. Also, when we cuddle and talk after making out, he does very tender things like caress my face or hold my hand. I make a joke out of it and he says he didn't even notice he was doing that, but I don't know if I believe that lol. The part of me that distrusts guys leads me to believe that it is all just a way to target my over-sentimental self and get me to have sex with him. I really do like him as a friend, and if there is a chance that he does not think of me like that and will drop me after realizing that I really won't have sex with him, then I would like to know to just be prepared and don't let myself get too attached, bc I always get really attached to my friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Wavy- 1,376 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 Okay. I'll get downvoted or whatever, hate me too. But girl... really? You'll wait till marriage but you're MAKING OUT with a dude IN A RELATIONSHIP? Side piece much? And lmao. Does the other girl know it's an open relationship? And you're kidding yourself. If this guy is really just a friend, why are you posting about him and thinking you're overthinking if it's just that? You obviously have some type of feelings for him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur Morgan 3,556 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 he wants the V Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deâ„“phina 14,904 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 Rule 1 of relationships: men always fuck up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shefangirls 268 Posted April 7, 2018 Author Share Posted April 7, 2018 Okay. I'll get downvoted or whatever, hate me too. But girl... really? You'll wait till marriage but you're MAKING OUT with a dude IN A RELATIONSHIP? Side piece much? And lmao. Does the other girl know it's an open relationship? And you're kidding yourself. If this guy is really just a friend, why are you posting about him and thinking you're overthinking if it's just that? You obviously have some type of feelings for him. It is an OPEN relationship. And the girl knows, she also hooks up with other people. My only feelings for him are as a friendship, honestly, I can't imagine myself in a relationship with him. But I really like him as a friend and I just don't want to be surprised if he one day begins to ignore me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FARRAH 665 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 U make out with ur friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geminimoon 274 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 If you want to stay friends with him then I suggest you let him know that, because it seems that he wants to be more than just friends with you. It’s almost as if he wants you to be apart of that open relationship thing that he has going on, or something similar to it. But if you DO want to stay friends I suggest you stop doing those things. I don’t think just friends can do such tender things with one another like caressing one another’s face. You’ll continue to be in this situation if you don’t stop, like a situation of questioning where you stand. Cut out all that extra stuff. Find someone you do like if that’s what you want. U make out with ur friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ixa 577 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 he just wants to fuck, sorry.. and don't be surprised if he drops the friendship act if you don't hook up with him. honestly, I wouldn't trust people in open relationships.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seras 2,657 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 I know I only like him as a friend... I am obviously attracted to him but I know that my feelings will never become something romantic. Gurl you sound confused about your own feelings tbh. Maybe take a break from him for a second or something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
V I V I 120 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 open relationships are so foreign to me, honsestly, how even? but whatever floats your boat, get the feeling he might drop your friendship if you're heavily umm physical and he only likes you that way rather than truly liking you as a person, and he comes off as he had said himself, as not thinking close intimacy is a big deal so about him caressing your face nd stuff I think is something more 'superficial' that actual tenderness, conclussion. he obvs trynna get in your pants, and I would rather advise you to stop this before getting attached, tell him that you don't want physical contact and see if he stick around without any weird intentions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted April 8, 2018 Share Posted April 8, 2018 Stop this now. If you only see him like a friend, then act like one. Don't flirt or make out with him, it doesn't matter if he is in a open relationship, if you're both not serious about each other, theres no point going there. Also, have you actually talked to him about it, what is he looking for out of being with you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
littlestarbeast 5 Posted April 12, 2018 Share Posted April 12, 2018 from my experience, there is no true friendship between girl and boy, they might be "friends" unless one of them likes another Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChungJoJo 31 Posted April 12, 2018 Share Posted April 12, 2018 Rule 1 of relationships: men always fuck up. Wow sexist much??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cake mf 1,737 Posted April 12, 2018 Share Posted April 12, 2018 U make out with ur friends For real tho. Are you delusional or just naive op, he’s made it obvious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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