shefangirls 268 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 I am asking bc I have no idea what to do anymore... His friend already told him that I am only interested in him as a friend (but he wants to try a slow, longterm process to make me like him :/), I already sent all the hints I could think of: I have mentioned cute guys I want to talk to in class, called him a friend and shet, tell him that I am shy around guys I like (so he can see I am the opposite with him)... once he said he approached me first (bc I said I could not be able to talk to my crush unless he approached me first), and I replied: "yeah but you are just a FRIEND and you approached me in a FRIENDLY manner". After I made that comment I thought I had made it clear, but that night I was supposed to hang out with his friend, and we couldnt bc the guy told his friend that he would prefer that he did not hang out with me alone until he decided what to think of me or some shet like that. He will make his big decision tomorrow that we are hanging out and I need advice on how to friendzone him bc I honestly dont know how to get more direct. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
90's Baby 5,035 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 Just be more direct and clear about it. Tell him that you don’t like how he does all this stuff for you when you already made it clear that you just want to be friends with him. If he truly cares about you, he will respect and understand your decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UMJI MOODS 11,520 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 He sounds like the type who may not take anything but no for an answer. You may have to be blunt. Not a nice choice, but perhaps the most likely to succeed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
081396033197 167 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 Just tell him to knock it off or just end the friendship. You don't sound like you enjoy his company anyways, so why even have friends whom you can't even deal with? There's no point. So don't even be friends with him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CareBear08 7,527 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 Stop beating around the bush and tell the truth. This guy obviously makes you uncomfortable and if you don't feel safe then what's the point of holding back? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
puellarum generatio 3,628 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 at this point I think you should straight up tell him there is no chance Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
htttps 45 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 be clear about you want tbh. rude even. sometimes thats the only way it works. i personally dont believe the friendzone exists, because when most people say they've been friendzoned it means "i started a friendship with this person but only because my goal was to be with them, but it didnt happen" aka they wouldnt even be your friends if they didnt think they had a chance to be your boyfriend/girlfriend if you "friendzone" him, make sure he understands that he will remain a friend and NOTHING MORE. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
one-hoe wonho 2,496 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 don't make hints or indirectly tell him that you only want to be his friend. i think that's why the way you have said it, didn't work and didn't fully understand you. you need to be direct and clear, some people are just too dense to understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jessinwonderland 1,844 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 Don't just send hints. You have to straight up say, "You're a good friend but it can't go further than that. I only see you as a friend and that wont change." ect ect Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunshinersforcedlaugh 1,267 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 You cannot, some men and women can be friends, but you and him have already gone past that point when he made his interest in you known. Regect him and move on, don't try and be friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shishimato 796 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 You should just start with blaming him for interfering in your business and asking the other dude to drop his plan with you, this was a shitty move and you need to address it ,I think you'll find the right words once you're at it. As everyone said above you'll need to go straight to the point, just to clear up your side. If he chooses to still hang out with you then it's ok I guess? You can totally ignore his attempts until he grows bored of trying. You don't have to ruin your friendship with him over this issue, just be clear and do whatever you want after. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seras 2,657 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 I've been in a similar situation before and if you've tried being nice about it and he still refuses to back off, then you just need to tell him up front to cut the shit out. Don't sugar coat it. Because what he's doing now is really disrespectful to you, especially this part: After I made that comment I thought I had made it clear, but that night I was supposed to hang out with his friend, and we couldnt bc the guy told his friend that he would prefer that he did not hang out with me alone until he decided what to think of me or some shet like that. Like the fuck? Who is he to dictate your life and the people you can hang out with? Looool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur Morgan 3,556 Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 Sounds like an insecure asf guy. Just keep saying youre busy when he asks to go out and he'll eventually get it after the first few times Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joyvelvet. 1,008 Posted April 2, 2018 Share Posted April 2, 2018 Go straight up and tell him you are not interested. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kookiestealer 92 Posted April 3, 2018 Share Posted April 3, 2018 Tell him "You are like a brother to me" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoneyBee12 33 Posted April 3, 2018 Share Posted April 3, 2018 I was similar as well..... kept giving hints that I wasn't interested and also rejected his approaches etc... and then he was very persistent for a few years... now he has stopped approaching? But I think I am falling for him now!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeachyKeys! 599 Posted April 3, 2018 Share Posted April 3, 2018 You need to directly tell him. Don't hint. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted May 31, 2018 Share Posted May 31, 2018 End the friendship. No point if he doesn’t see you as a friend. Sent from my iPhone using OneHallyu Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted June 9, 2018 Share Posted June 9, 2018 Just keep telling him you're not interested in him and keep up like you've done until he desists. Some people are just that stubborn and masochist so there's not much you can't do about it aside from being extra clear whenever you need to. You could also try to ignore him, like it's not even worth it to keep him as a friend if he's going to be such a pain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cobalt 2,914 Posted June 9, 2018 Share Posted June 9, 2018 Block him. He's obviously not interested in a friendship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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