T A I G A 2,251 Posted March 28, 2018 Share Posted March 28, 2018 So it's night here, and I was in the car with my mother and my little sister (who was in the backseat). I just wanted to ask her smth so I turned around, but then I saw her kissing...Her wrist. She had her other hand on her neck and she used tongue and all. So I just froze, and said nothing. Because what would I say? But then she saw me, and as soon as we got back home she flew to her room. She didn't even come to eat, and when my mother odered her to come down, she said she cut her hand. To our horror, there were cut marks on her wrist. I just don't know what to do. They weren't there before and those were obviously self-harm marks. I understood she did all this to make it look like she was just licking her blood back in the car and I'm perplexed. What should I do? Say nothing (because she's very shy and I'm scared she won't talk to me If I say smth) or tell her to never do this again, that it's not weird for her to self-kiss because it's all the hormones and we all did this at least once when we were kids? She's 13 btw. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baekhyyn 298 Posted March 28, 2018 Share Posted March 28, 2018 Why would she do that in the car lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Õ�weet 2,847 Posted March 28, 2018 Share Posted March 28, 2018 Talk to her and have sis to sis talk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T A I G A 2,251 Posted March 28, 2018 Author Share Posted March 28, 2018 Why would she do that in the car lol I really don't know. Maybe the passing scenery was romantic. Talk to her and have sis to sis talk I really want to do that,but she gets embarrassed so easily and it stays for so long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abra 40,910 Posted March 28, 2018 Share Posted March 28, 2018 Talk to her about it. There's nothing embarassing about what she did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanabsessed 64 Posted March 28, 2018 Share Posted March 28, 2018 you definitely need to talk to her. let her know that you're worried and just want to make sure she's okay. habits such as self-harm show internalized sadness and anguish, and it's better for her to know that you're there for her because you love and care for her. ignoring the problem would show her that even if you show people you're in trouble, they won't care, not even your family. even if she doesn't respond the first few times, keep trying to talk to her. not constantly if she's not open to talking, but definitely consistently. i also recommend trying to keep sharp objects like razors, scissors, and needles away from her if possible. not everything has just to do with age. sometimes it's mental illness. good luck, op. i'll keep your family in my prayers. ♥ ♡ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cake mf 1,737 Posted March 28, 2018 Share Posted March 28, 2018 Hmm I think ask her why she cut and then depending on the answer figure out what to do next. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Õ�weet 2,847 Posted March 28, 2018 Share Posted March 28, 2018 I really don't know. Maybe the passing scenery was romantic. I really want to do that,but she gets embarrassed so easily and it stays for so long. Then give her time, it is natural just say that to her or share some story of yours for her to understand.she did wrong cutting, that you shouldn't let go, you should tell her or tell your parents Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pirine 4,209 Posted March 28, 2018 Share Posted March 28, 2018 Talk to her.While its obviously best for her to stop, try talk to her and to understand why shes doing it and try your best to listen to her. Telling her to stop might make her feel bad and ashamed and close herself off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T A I G A 2,251 Posted March 28, 2018 Author Share Posted March 28, 2018 Talk to her about it. There's nothing embarassing about what she did. you definitely need to talk to her. let her know that you're worried and just want to make sure she's okay. habits such as self-harm show internalized sadness and anguish, and it's better for her to know that you're there for her because you love and care for her. ignoring the problem would show her that even if you show people you're in trouble, they won't care, not even your family. even if she doesn't respond the first few times, keep trying to talk to her. not constantly if she's not open to talking, but definitely consistently. i also recommend trying to keep sharp objects like razors, scissors, and needles away from her if possible. not everything has just to do with age. sometimes it's mental illness. good luck, op. i'll keep your family in my prayers. ♥ ♡[/size] Hmm I think ask her why she cut and then depending on the answer figure out what to do next. Talk to her.While its obviously best for her to stop, try talk to her and to understand why shes doing it and try your best to listen to her. Telling her to stop might make her feel bad and ashamed and close herself off.Thank you for all your replies. I'll definitely talk to her. Maybe subtly at the beginning and then go in deep when she's ready. She's always been worried about not having a boyfriend. Which really should not be her concern in my opinion but with how this generation is... Anyways thank you again. I was about to tell her right away but now I know the best decision is to take it slow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cake mf 1,737 Posted March 28, 2018 Share Posted March 28, 2018 Thank you for all your replies. I'll definitely talk to her. Maybe subtly at the beginning and then go in deep when she's ready. She's always been worried about not having a boyfriend. Which really should not be her concern in my opinion but with how this generation is... Anyways thank you again. I was about to tell her right away but now I know the best decision is to take it slow. I don’t like to psycho analyze ppl I don’t know but I know a girl that struggles with that same issue and let me tell you my observations. Said girl’s parents broke up at a young age but she always wanted them to have a perfect relationship, and takes it out on herself. Hence she shuffles between boyfriends and puts her self worth in having one, she’s a very lonely person. I don’t think it’s a problem of peer pressure, but rather something deeper. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winter Bear 9,460 Posted March 28, 2018 Share Posted March 28, 2018 I really don't know. Maybe the passing scenery was romantic. I really want to do that,but she gets embarrassed so easily and it stays for so long. savage, lol You have to talk to her, she hurt herself and that's not something that should ever happen if it can be helped. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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