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Do you have things you dislike, or, just find it hard/stupid to do in your culture?

 

I'm french, and to greet people you have to kiss them on the cheek. I don't know if it's because I'm so into the asian culture but I somehow stopped doing it automatically? Now it's gotten me in so many awkward situations...

 

Of course I do it when I must, but I don't do it when I spend the weeknd at home so much? And my family always has to point it out, they say they feel I'm not living with them when I'm there (im always in my room so it doesn't help). 

 

When I go to uni, I don't kiss people if they don't come to me to do it first? Even with my close friends, I don't. It's a bit awkward when I see my circle of friends and just wave hello to them and then someone else comes and kisses all of them lmao, but they're used to it.

 

Today too, it was so embarrassing. I was absent-mindedly checking my time table on the bulletin board and one girl I share classes with who I got to befriend was right next to me, I guess she was about to peck me but I unconsciously jerked my head away? I just tried to get the conversation going afterwards but it was sooo awkward.

 

Idk I just find the greeting itself, useless? I mean who came up with this? When I visit my relatives for a family lunch and we're late, and they're like 156984 of them, I have to kiss EVERYONE to be polite. Sometimes you just fuck up and kiss someone on the lips and

 

I don't want to do that, god.

 

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Do you have things you dislike, or, just find it hard/stupid to do in your culture?

 

I'm french, and to greet people you have to kiss them on the cheek. I don't know if it's because I'm so into the asian culture but I somehow stopped doing it automatically? Now it's gotten me in so many awkward situations...

 

Of course I do it when I must, but I don't do it when I spend the weeknd at home so much? And my family always has to point it out, they say they feel I'm not living with them when I'm there (im always in my room so it doesn't help). 

 

When I go to uni, I don't kiss people if they don't come to me to do it first? Even with my close friends, I don't. It's a bit awkward when I see my circle of friends and just wave hello to them and then someone else comes and kisses all of them lmao, but they're used to it.

 

Today too, it was so embarrassing. I was absent-mindedly checking my time table on the bulletin board and one girl I share classes with who I got to befriend was right next to me, I guess she was about to peck me but I unconsciously jerked my head away? I just tried to get the conversation going afterwards but it was sooo awkward.

 

Idk I just find the greeting itself, useless? I mean who came up with this? When I visit my relatives for a family lunch and we're late, and they're like 156984 of them, I have to kiss EVERYONE to be polite. Sometimes you just fuck up and kiss someone on the lips and

 

I don't want to do that, god.

 

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It's a European thing. You exchange 3 kisses on the cheek. I think its perfectly fine. I do it all the time with relatives of both sexes and with female friends. 

 

I recently came back from Europe and what I had hard time adjusting to is calling people by their last names like Mr Jones or Mrs. Jones because I am so used to calling people on first name basis. I met some relatives that I haven't seen in ages and I didn't know whether to call them aunt or uncle or by their last names so I just called them by their names and they were perfectly fine. 

 

What I found extremely odd when I was younger was that there were people who used to kiss the ring of a priest/bishop. I thought it was so freaking weird, and I still do. I'm not sure if anyone does it nowadays but it was just odd.

 

Oh and another thing, and this is such a Polish thing and I dont even know why but when you fly with Polish airlines everyone on board claps when the plane lands. It so weird and strange. 

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It's a European thing. You exchange 3 kisses on the cheek. I think its perfectly fine. I do it all the time with relatives of both sexes and with female friends. 

 

I recently came back from Europe and what I had hard time adjusting to is calling people by their last names like Mr Jones or Mrs. Jones because I am so used to calling people on first name basis. I met some relatives that I haven't seen in ages and I didn't know whether to call them aunt or uncle or by their last names so I just called them by their names and they were perfectly fine. 

I know it's fine, I think it's me the problem. I just don't want to do it. As for relatives I call them uncle/aunt followed by their first name

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I feel you, I'm not European but whenever I meet non Asian people I feel uncomfortable doing the whole kissing and hugging thing. It's even weirder cause they do it even when you meet them for the first time. 

I don't like sharing food. I just had a lot of chinese new year lunches and everyone eats out of the same dish which I don't really like

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Young people here don't want to kiss either anymore, although we don't do it like you French people, we kiss just once but still I don't wanna do it either. I think the tradition will just die, people are learning to understand if you want some space too so it's all good.

 

I think it's more related to a generational thing millennials are getting than our increased exposure to other cultures, related to a change in the concept of personal space and stuff.

 

I don't know if it's because I'm so into the asian culture but I somehow stopped

 

As long as you don't start bowing or strongly respecting your elders... you're fine lol

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1) There is no such thing as Asian culture. 

 

2)

 

a) Alright, so this has more to do with the fact that I am a third-culture kid, but my home country is super laid back, social norms-wise, and it kinda annoys me in certain situations. Like, store clerks aren't my friends and neither are my profs, so I don't like the former talking to me informally nor do I enjoy calling my teachers by their first names (it's just weird). 

 

b) Super overbearing retail folks. Either leave me the fuck alone or actually answer my question properly. 

 

c) Tip culture. Fuck that shit. 

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I'm not European bu i think you can explain the way you feel so thst others can adapt their behaviours towards you.But if K Fans are looked down on in your country, well good luck then....

The thing i find annoying in my country is that my friends call people a few years older than them by their first names which makes me annoyed.Normally we do hawe words to call older people just like oppa/eonni of koreans but my friends seem to ignore it...

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