TrueColors 582 Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 Alright, so I need some unbiased advice. The guy I've been dating, yes I met him on Tinder, but please don't stop reading from here. I met him right before I went back to college after the end of winter break. We went on 3 dates in one week and really hit it off. He was supposed to come visit me for Valentine's Day, but my friends made me paranoid that he just wants to f**k and then he's gonna dump me. So I dumped him first before he even came up. During the conversation, I said that we needed to talk about something serious. His first instinct was to call me, because he thought I was in trouble or something. I felt really bad here, cause my friends kept egging me to dump him. They just get the feeling that he's a f**kboy but he has been nothing but sweet to me. I asked him what was he really looking for, because I just wanted to get a straight answer out of him. He said that he wasn't sure. After this I did decide dump him and I told him that I don't want to waste my time cause I'm looking for something serious. He said that he understood, but then he kept begging me to stay in contact with him and that we should be friends. I said fine whatever. Well, that night I was super bummed that I dumped him and I regretted it, so I decided to get really drunk and take a bunch of snaps partying hours after I dumped him. Well, he saw my snaps and then he deleted me off of all of his social media. 11 days of us not talking, he returns and says that he actually does wants something serious with me and he didn't want to not ever speak to me ever again. Now we are on good terms and I'm going to go home to see him this weekend. Do you guys think that he's genuine? For some reason my friends don't like him, even though they have never met him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abra 40,910 Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 He seems genuine imo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
junmyeonsnoodle 1,074 Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 Just do what you want to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starfruit 4,746 Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 do you like him? your friends can give all the advice they want but in the end its you whos making the decision to get back with him be careful though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ncting 1,061 Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 you should go with him! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clay 11,273 Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 why are you trusting your friends that much ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grape Soda 12,004 Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 I mean your friends aren't going through your experiences or know how you and this guy feel. A friend of mine met a guy on tinder and they've been dating a few months now. There is a possibility that you could be used by anyone. I think youre hanging too much on the fact you met on tinder. If you feel it's a good thing go for it. I mean you're counting days that you haven't talked so you must like him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrueColors 582 Posted February 22, 2018 Author Share Posted February 22, 2018 why are you trusting your friends that much ? Yeah I rather go with my gut now. I think he's a good man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 Its not your friends who are in a relationship with him, their opinion shouldn't matter too much since they have never even met him. Just be careful, try not to take things further too quickly, just go with your gut, you know him better than anyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 If this has happened only after 3 dates and you're so impressionable by your friends (and potentially OH users) then I think this can only get worse over time. He obviously wanted to sleep with you on valentine's day and he also should have dumped you as well after that so there's that and make what you want from that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrueColors 582 Posted February 23, 2018 Author Share Posted February 23, 2018 If this has happened only after 3 dates and you're so impressionable by your friends (and potentially OH users) then I think this can only get worse over time. He obviously wanted to sleep with you on valentine's day and he also should have dumped you as well after that so there's that and make what you want from that. I know he wants to sleep with me, he's a guy lol. I just want to know if he's genuine about wanting to be more. Cause I was the one who dumped him and he asked me to give him another chance. He's an attractive guy he would have no problem finding anyone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cake mf 1,737 Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 He seems nice honestly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrueColors 582 Posted February 23, 2018 Author Share Posted February 23, 2018 He seems nice honestly.I'm just paranoid that I'm being played, but I'm gonna give him the benifit of the doubt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 I know he wants to sleep with me, he's a guy lol. I just want to know if he's genuine about wanting to be more. Cause I was the one who dumped him and he asked me to give him another chance. He's an attractive guy he would have no problem finding anyone else. In love those type of declarations are meaningless and the only way to figure him out you'll need to get to know him and keep dating him, if you're interested in doing so. The 'risk' is always there when knowing someone new and is up to you to consider if it's worth giving it a try. For your posts it appears you do want to date him so if I was you I'll probably just go by that, if things go bad you can always dump him again, it doesn't seem you have a problem doing that so there's really nothing to be afraid of. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mutantsloth 556 Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 You can always give him a chance. Just protect yourself. You don’t have to sleep with him if you are not sure. Make him wait. If you two are gonna work out you’ll find out and waiting is not gonna be an issue. If you two don’t work out the sex shouldn’t be smth to mask over any problems and keep you both together anyway. Sent from my iPhone using OneHallyu Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrueColors 582 Posted February 24, 2018 Author Share Posted February 24, 2018 In love those type of declarations are meaningless and the only way to figure him out you'll need to get to know him and keep dating him, if you're interested in doing so. The 'risk' is always there when knowing someone new and is up to you to consider if it's worth giving it a try. For your posts it appears you do want to date him so if I was you I'll probably just go by that, if things go bad you can always dump him again, it doesn't seem you have a problem doing that so there's really nothing to be afraid of. Yup he tries to be a f**kboy I will dump his a** again lol. I already told him straight up that I'm looking for something serious so he knows. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur Morgan 3,556 Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 you both sound extremely insecure this is gonna probably be a disastrous relationship Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrueColors 582 Posted February 24, 2018 Author Share Posted February 24, 2018 you both sound extremely insecure this is gonna probably be a disastrous relationship how are we insecure? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SakuraMatcha 777 Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 I don’t think insecure is the right word, maybe they meant unsure? Neither of you seem like you’re sure about turning this into a serious relationship, but that’s fine because there’s uncertainty at the start of most relationships anyway. Anyway it sounds like your friends are biased because of where they know you met the guy (off Tinder) but that the guy seems interested in you beyond just hooking up. If you like him too and you can see yourself in a relationship with him, I’d say go for it. Definitely give it a try. Because it sounds like he was upset at your seeming lack of regret the night you dumped him (getting drunk, partying and having fun), and now he’s returned because he misses you. Possibly. Either way it sounds like he cares, and he wouldn’t bother if it was just sex he was after. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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