waffles8000 541 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 ive been having a really shitty day and idk how to move on from it but basically, i'm in a pretty big group of friends at school (theres 8 of us) and it seems like as time passes, they like me less and less,.... they all went prom dress shopping today and i wasnt invited.. lol and they posted snaps onto the group snap too so they knew i would see it i don;t mind feeling lonely but the worst feeling of loneliness is when you are with other people, and you love and trust them but they don't care about you... i feel like i have no friends left and there are a couple months of highschool left so there isnt much i can do except suck it up until it all ends it'll be hard to switch friend groups at this point in time and i really don't want to end the friendships ive made with a huge fight and be alone for the rest of the year i'm not really good at being open about my feelings and confessing them... i'm just terribly lonely and i find it so hard to socialize with people... and all i want to do is be happy but it really hurts when they are purposely leaving me out what can i do to resolve this in a nice way? or should i just deal with it for the next couple months? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jessinwonderland 1,844 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 Tell em how you feel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TriHard 255 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 Tell them to catch dem hands if they don't invite you again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FARRAH 665 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 Maybe it's you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
B612 22,399 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 get the clue and drop them already I have been through that and now I don't even remember their names, just save yourself from this childish game and leave them on a high note. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ezaspie 87 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 tell them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cake mf 1,737 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 Tell them to catch dem hands if they don't invite you again tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rendezvous 1,472 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 Tell them and drop them ain't gonna do you any good if you stay around any longer than necessary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
checkandmate 1,814 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 tbh if i was in ur place i would suck it up bc i'm just that scared of conflict. But saying that, i think you should still voice ur feelings, and remember that you will meet ppl after hs so in the end these "friends" won't even matter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pace 1,459 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 Before doing anything, I think you should mentally prepare yourself for the various possibilities that could happen. This is so that no matter what happens, you can accept it and move on. You can go about this in a direct or indirect way. You can hint to them that you want to be included. If they talk about the prom dress shopping again, you can mention that you would have loved to come or say something like "let's eat out together before heading to prom" or whatever else. You can just directly let them know that you felt left out. There is a possibility that they didn't mean to. There's also the possibility that they have some kind of misunderstanding about you. If you don't want to talk to them face to face, you can do it through message. Write out everything you want to say before you send it. I've also got two more things to say: 1. One of the differences I noticed about high school and college was that in college, I didn't feel there was as big an emphasis to be with friends all the time. In college, people eat by themselves, study by themselves, etc. There's no big pressure to just always have others around you. I think it helps to realize that even if people are physically not with others, it doesn't mean they're lonely. Learn to be okay with being by yourself and realizing there's nothing wrong with that and that it can be a positive thing to just have your "me time." 2. A tough thing to digest is being able to drop friends that aren't worth your time and energy. It will suck a lot, but over time you really will see that it was for the best. There is no point in keeping friends that want to shut you out and make you feel excluded. You will find better friends that will most definitely not make you feel that way. Good luck with getting the closure you need. I hope it ends well for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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