KohSung 76 Posted February 6, 2018 Share Posted February 6, 2018 https://nextshark.com/traveling-while-asian-and-sexual-fetishes/ Just thought I'd share. It's about a half-Asian woman's experiences dealing with people as a half-Asian woman. Some interesting insights she has and her experiences: "It wasn’t until I realized that it’s impossible to parse out the fetish from actual love with men who have historically used Asian women as sexual slaves. Men have gone to war in the process of colonizing Asian countries, only to come back with Asian wives who were prevented, by either culture or language barrier, to speak on what was happening to them" ​"However, the Asian mentality is so colonized, that I’d bet a lot of those women felt privileged to be with a White man. A White man means economic stability and opportunity compared to their Asian male counterparts who were stuck dealing with the aftermath of wars started by White men. And unfortunately, this process still continues in many Asian countries: where travelers take advantage of economic differences, and continue the sexual oppression that Asian women born in the West may not have ever seen or experienced" "In college, fetishism has gotten downright dangerous for me. A 230-pound athlete flirted with me in the cafeteria, asking leading questions towards a date. Knowing this person exclusively dates Asian girls, I said no. It was clear why he was attracted to me and it wasn’t for my brain. Maybe my rejection was an ego bruise, but it resulted in a flurry of loud Asian slurs that attracted an audience. I had never experienced this before. But this was not the first time I’ve had to fight a man. So it seemed natural to recite similar slurs back to him, since we were going there. I think he was mostly shocked those words came out of my mouth. Is it because Asians are supposed to be domicile and submissive? He then threw a drink at my face. Did I mention it was also my birthday? I blacked out. There was scuffle, I pulled out a knife, other people got involved, the police were called. One of us was no longer welcome at school." ​​Share your thoughts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OhGosh! 1,855 Posted February 6, 2018 Share Posted February 6, 2018 Half-Korean here and I think being fetishized for that isn't much different than anything else. Long hair, short hair, dark hair, blonde hair, whatever. I guess maybe the main difference would be because it's not something I have control over, but people also like short girls as well? I think it does draw a completely different group of guys (who generally ask me about my favorite Anime and if I speak Japanese) but I've never had any kind of reaction like that. I dunno, at worst it's been a slight annoyance for me and only an occasional one at that. edit: I've actually had worse experiences with Asian guys who are into me because they're into white girls and I guess I'm close enough? But then they'd ask me to try to 'look more Asian' if I were going to meet their parents. That's so gross... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winter Bear 9,461 Posted February 9, 2018 Share Posted February 9, 2018 Half-Korean here and I think being fetishized for that isn't much different than anything else. Long hair, short hair, dark hair, blonde hair, whatever. I guess maybe the main difference would be because it's not something I have control over, but people also like short girls as well? I think it does draw a completely different group of guys (who generally ask me about my favorite Anime and if I speak Japanese) but I've never had any kind of reaction like that. I dunno, at worst it's been a slight annoyance for me and only an occasional one at that. edit: I've actually had worse experiences with Asian guys who are into me because they're into white girls and I guess I'm close enough? But then they'd ask me to try to 'look more Asian' if I were going to meet their parents. That's so gross... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KohSung 76 Posted February 9, 2018 Author Share Posted February 9, 2018 Half-Korean here and I think being fetishized for that isn't much different than anything else. Long hair, short hair, dark hair, blonde hair, whatever. I guess maybe the main difference would be because it's not something I have control over, but people also like short girls as well? I think it does draw a completely different group of guys (who generally ask me about my favorite Anime and if I speak Japanese) but I've never had any kind of reaction like that. I dunno, at worst it's been a slight annoyance for me and only an occasional one at that. edit: I've actually had worse experiences with Asian guys who are into me because they're into white girls and I guess I'm close enough? But then they'd ask me to try to 'look more Asian' if I were going to meet their parents. That's so gross... That's bad. Asian guys who are into you because of race is as bad as white guys who are into Asian females because they're Asian. I hope you find better Asian guys in the future that will love you because of your personality and how you click with them in terms of hobbies/likes/etc. which is what is most important in the end. Would you liken it to white worship? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OhGosh! 1,855 Posted February 9, 2018 Share Posted February 9, 2018 Would you liken it to white worship? I don't think I can answer that. I kinda have an idea of what it is, but... well, My dad is Korean, born in America. My mom is Scandinavian, also born in America. The closest they got to sharing their culture with me is giving me a Scandinavian and a Korean name (which they both got wrong, btw ). I was raised in an area where there just weren't any other Asians around for me to absorb any culture from. To me, being Asian meant "I'm short, have dark hair, and my eyes are dark/less-round", while my Scandinavian side was just "Fair skin and boobs". I never really identified as either. So I don't think that I'm Asian enough to have an opinion on that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KohSung 76 Posted February 9, 2018 Author Share Posted February 9, 2018 I don't think I can answer that. I kinda have an idea of what it is, but... well, My dad is Korean, born in America. My mom is Scandinavian, also born in America. The closest they got to sharing their culture with me is giving me a Scandinavian and a Korean name (which they both got wrong, btw ). I was raised in an area where there just weren't any other Asians around for me to absorb any culture from. To me, being Asian meant "I'm short, have dark hair, and my eyes are dark/less-round", while my Scandinavian side was just "Fair skin and boobs". I never really identified as either. So I don't think that I'm Asian enough to have an opinion on that Alright I respect that. It's a shame you couldn't be around other Asians where you were raised. But you've got plenty of time to experience Asian culture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OhGosh! 1,855 Posted February 9, 2018 Share Posted February 9, 2018 Alright I respect that. It's a shame you couldn't be around other Asians where you were raised. But you've got plenty of time to experience Asian culture. Getting into kpop in the first place is taking care of that no matter how I feel about it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arietta 789 Posted February 10, 2018 Share Posted February 10, 2018 I'm half Korean and I don't want to say that every guy that talks to me has an Asian fetish, but it does cross my mind with some of them... My friend told me that this one guy was only talking to me cause he wanted to have sex with an Asian And another guy told me not to change how I dress because he likes that I dress like a "korean" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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