Hyojinsoul 17 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 Like you keep thinking about childhood past, how do you stop thinking about the horrible moments that happen to you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kayden411 6,540 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 It's hard but I have trained myself to have the mindset that whatever people did to me in my past, they can't do to me now. I want a happy and healthy future and I have to think if I try to live a life that brings me more days filled with happiness than the days I had filled with sadness then I can make it through one more day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sooyoung's Wife 3,713 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 honestly i never stop thinking about it. it's like the memories haunt me, but i also think how that was the past and none of that is going to happen now. what's happened has happened and there's nothing i can do but i can make damn sure that the present and future is better for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rinamy 1,442 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 You make other things the focus of your life. You won't be able to stop thinking about them 100%, but you can make them not be the focus of your every day. The way I see it, living a life comfortably with as many little joys as I can find and trying to give other people a little bit of happiness through small gestures is a good way to claim victory over having a shitty childhood. Don't let the people who hurt you win by dwelling too much in the past. Once you've escaped it, try to make yourself see that there's a lot of little things to live for. Make goals for yourself not just for success but for stuff you've always wanted to do, big or small, and make that what you work toward. If you're looking outward, you're not setting yourself on a course of destruction by obsessing with bad shit inside. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teal 2,285 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 I was in therapy for years then I woke up one day and it was like I'm even close-ish to one of my parents now who really caused a lot of the bad drama in my childhood, it's so crazy, but we changed so much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hosh 1,349 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 honestly i never stop thinking about it. it's like the memories haunt me, but i also think how that was the past and none of that is going to happen now. what's happened has happened and there's nothing i can do but i can make damn sure that the present and future is better for me. tbh this. i'm not over it but i know it's over and i can't go back so i have to just keep moving forward and trying to be happy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
miss_sushi 2,847 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 I just change my train of thoughts whenever I think about it. I am happy, I don't care about bad stuff. I set goals, try to do as many activities as I can (watch a lot of movies...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovely_me 3,237 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 I struggle every day with as much new shit that i dont have time to think abt the past. There are o/c moments when it still hit me but i focus more to go tho the actual day, whats hard enough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pinky Winky 1,232 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 It's in the past and there's no use thinking about it again. That's what I'm always trying to tell myself. I'm not gonna pretend it doesn't haunt me, cause I do think about my past a lot fml. It doesn't help that I'm really self-deprecating which makes me blame myself for a lot of things. I just try to focus on my future and the present. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oenjjogeuro 64 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 I’m 28 now and I have learned to cope with my horrible childhood. I have found that what helps the most is talking about it. I went to counseling but it didn’t do anything for me, one of my counselors used to fall asleep on me when I was talking but at least I was able to talk about it so maybe it helped a little. I feel that I missed out on so much in my life and I used to cry all the time but I’m happy now and content with what I have achieved which doesn’t seem to be too much to other people and family but is good enough for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iceprince 2,268 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 I accepted them and move on. Past is past for a reason. I still think those times every now and then but i also think because of those things im now here enjoying a better life and being stronger and happier than ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sakurahanabira 6,633 Posted February 5, 2018 Share Posted February 5, 2018 I don't linger on them. Plus if you keep your mind occupied throughout the day you'll be less inclined to think about them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Enki91 91 Posted February 6, 2018 Share Posted February 6, 2018 Talking about it really helped for me, whether with a therapist, friends or even just opening up to strangers in this forum, it gets the thoughts out of my mind and helps me to accept that it's the past, those things are done and shouldn't hold me back now. I won't act like i'm alright now, it still fucks me up sometimes but atleast it got more bearable. In the past i've tried to drown the thoughts with alcohol and drugs, without success. Let me assure you or anyone else reading this that it won't work, you won't be able to just forget years of abuse or other wrongdoings and things will only end up getting worse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted February 6, 2018 Share Posted February 6, 2018 I still think of the incidents from time-to-time and they still affect me in some ways on a daily, but I've learned to live with it and be happy anyways Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edelgard 4,845 Posted February 6, 2018 Share Posted February 6, 2018 its in the past and i mostly put it behind me so i don't think about it much anymore. it made me the person i am today and i focus on the present and work towards my future Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blond jenissi 676 Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 I can't stop thinking about it tbh. I try not to but my brain doesn't seem to do what I want. I go through the day imagining nice things that could happen even though I know they won't and when I'm at my worst I look at pictures of my grandma, it helps me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wildflowerr 58 Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Bad present. And I don't really deal with it anymore, I guess. I vent to my siblings. I laugh it off as if it's all a bad meme. Tbh, nothing feels real to me anymore, anyway and that helps me to care less about what happens next. I go through my days feeling as if I'm watching a very long, shitty movie titled My life. I'm in a daydream state 24/7. It's a strange feeling, but it helps me cope and I don't want to go back to being the nervous wreck I used to be ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 Like you keep thinking about childhood past, how do you stop thinking about the horrible moments that happen to you? I just not think about it. Sometimes when it’s too painful you kind of repress it anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kish 2,929 Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" It might be cheesy, but heck, it's true. I'm still here. And right now, I'm actually still facing another downhill. The last time I felt like this was when I was in 10th grade, and then it went up by 11th grade, stable in 12th grade, pretty good on the first half year of my college, but after my 2nd year of college, almost pretty much everything was a mess. The reason why I'm still here, living, and even writing this was, although most of the time I felt lonely, but I kinda love it when I'm with my friends, laughing, I feel like my presence around them are one of the reason why our circle feels so alive and bright and mostly positive ). Oh, and I often said this to myself "In the future, I'd be thankful that I've ever been in this kind of situation before" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyojinsoul 17 Posted February 8, 2018 Author Share Posted February 8, 2018 I just not think about it. Sometimes when it’s too painful you kind of repress it anyway. For instances, your memories come back to something really bad for example u were abused as a child or molested as a child how would you cope with that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Why Gay Exist 0 Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 dont give a fuck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adina kim 484 Posted February 9, 2018 Share Posted February 9, 2018 i never stop,everyday i planning my revenge the day when they start involving my family ,i know i cannot stop and im in it for life.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
нex 96 Posted February 14, 2018 Share Posted February 14, 2018 I try to stop thinking about it, but idk if there's an specific method to stop those thoughts... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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