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What were some things you realized when you matured?


Serenee

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Sounds cliche, but it was only these last few months when it hit me...the fact that it's only my family who will actually love me unconditionally and care for my well being and for my personal growth. And that would help me if I ever needed. That's why I realized I should be more considerate towards my family members.

 

 

I realized that there is always a person or a group of persons pulling the strings behind closed doors, always.

 

 

That having people skills and being informed are the most useful things in life.

 

 

What about you?

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there's more viscious people than you'd think, who will not hesitate to take advantage of you in any way they can if you don't affirm yourself from the start 

which is just fucking sad really

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To be honest, I wouldn't consider myself fully 'mature' yet because I still feel like I don't know that much and that I can come off as naive sometimes. But I definitely agree with the fact that my family deserves more love and attention from me. Sometimes I get in an argument with them over something silly and irrelevant and in that moment, I never truly realize how dumb those arguments are. Usually I realize these things after watching one of those ubiquitous sad Asian commercials about the importance of family.

 

I find that it's even more immature of me afterwards though, because why does it take a commercial for me to realize how much love my family deserves? It's a bit depressing but I realize that now and I always show appreciation whenever there's an opportunity to.

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Not everything need my comments. Shut up when it is necessary. And I found out that I'm a better listener as I grow. I used to talk without any regards of other people's feeling. Now I just listen

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That I cant fix the world, or anyone for that matter. I used to think that because I understood how someone felt that Id be able to help solve their problems. But in reality people have to fix their own problems for themselves and outside help can only get them so far. Plus only ever giving to other people without taking care of myself was killing me and making me so unhappy.

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that i'd rather be real and hated for who i really am than pretend stuff and build things on a castle of glass

 

and that if you want to be the fuck whatever you want, you have to say it and affirm yourself this way from day 1, to EVERYONE. sell your fish. want to be a writer? write every single shit out there no matter what, create and write stories out nothing, tell everyone you'll have a writing career and become a best seller one day, whatever. that's just an example, but the headline is: if you want to be someone stick to it and have a real attitude.

 

and if you insist on whatever you want, it will pay. no matter what it is. the universe will pay you if you insist and invest on it, but the payment can be negative or positive, it depends on the actions you did for it. and that real rewards takes a really long time to come, but they're worth it, so patience is the key.

 

also if that if you dont use your voice someone else will speak for you instead. and that self belief is the only safety in this fucked up but beautiful world. jk, these two i borrowed from madonna.

 

 

but the most important imo, is that we shouldnt care about other people's opinions for a pretty simple reason: if you believe yourself that's more than enough, because the rest of the world will feel inclined to agree with you sooner or later, since you're the only one who's really in charge of yourself and no else is able to speak for you. that's why when we dont trust ourself it seems like the whole world is skeptical about you.

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Appreciate the small everyday things in life. Eventhough the big moments are the ones that we always aspire towards they're few and far between, it's the everyday things which actually makes up your life. A good cup of tea, getting to watch a pretty sunset, a stranger giving you their seat on the train, it's the small things that matter.

 

Things can change really fast. Have dreams and hopes for the future but don't make those dreams and hopes form only one possible road for you to take. Try to have both big and small hopes and dreams, and even if you have a couple you may never achieve in life make sure to have some that you truly believe you're capable of reaching. And when the time comes for you to reach towards those hopes and dreams do so with all your might.

 

Failure isn't always something negative. It might actually be something which makes you grow, change and learn the most. Failure doesn't mean that you're stuck at the same place as when you started, you always come out of a failure a changed person (which I consider to be quite a big step forward).

 

Tell the people that matter to you that you love them as often as you can. You never know when the day comes when you won't be able to tell it to them anymore, no matter how much you wish you could. Ask the questions you want them to answer, listen to their stories and thoughts as much as you can while you have the chance.

 

Being compassionate and being a doormat are not the same things, make sure that you don't get the two mixed up when dealing with people. Be kind, don't be a pushover.

 

The most terrible thing I've learned as I matured is how to truly say goodbye. It's painful like nothing else can ever be and it's taught me that sorrow doesn't dissappear with time, you just learn to live with it.

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