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When did your parents give you "freedom"?


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So, when I say freedom, I mean when did they start letting you go out with your friends or go to another place by yourself without you having to confirm it with them or fear them saying no? 

I'm asking this because, at the moment, I'm 21 and want to go to another city for a day or two (it's mostly a day but I'm staying the night there because I don't want to come back home at 3-4 am).

I want to go to that city because they're having their annual kpop night (haha yes I know but I really want to see the artists that are performing and I've never been before otl). The event usually happens around spring break, but I missed last years kpop night because I had already bought my ticket 3 months before spring break (I was living in that city because I attended school there). rlytearpls.png Also, I was too scared to asks my parents if I could switch my ticket for an earlier date so I could go back to school and attend the event. 

I already mentioned it to my mom, and she seemed to be more open to the idea of me going by myself and staying with my friends. But I haven't asked my dad yet, because I feel like I'm gonna get slapped with a no before I can even finish my sentence. 

They've always been super protective of me (mostly dad), but I feel like I'm responsible enough to be trusted in another city for a day. Plus, I'll be staying in my friends apartment and I'll be with them throughout the whole time I'm there. 

Did any of you guys grow up with overprotective parents, or where they more lenient with you? How did you get them to trust you more and let you leave the house lmao. 

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my parents always gave me freedom

 

i mean, they let me go all by myself to london last summer and i was your age imstupid.png

I'm over here stressing about going to another city, I couldn't even fathom asking them to let me go out of the country 0u0plz.png

 

I am 24 and my parents pretty much allow me to what I want because I am old enough xD But because I still live with them, I still have to tell them where I am going and who I am going with 

 

I wish it were like that for me otl. I always have to name drop certain people because apparently I make "bad friend choices" lmfaoo

I can totally understand you. I am 17 so I still don't have that freedom yet warstarplz.png  they will not even let me live in dorms next year when I go to college. so annoying smh 

Dude omfg I'm so sorry. Luckily I was living in a different city so the dorms were the only choice I had otl. But when I brought up living in an apartment with my friends they wouldn't hear of it lmfao. Maybe they'll change their minds by your second year? 

 

For me Mom was suuuper overprotective dad was easygoing but they gave me the so called freedom when i entered college 

I legit think I have to move out in order to get that freedom otl

 

by the time i was 16 i had like almost complete freedom.

rlytearpls.png at 16 I was still being treated like I was 10 lmao

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Dude omfg I'm so sorry. Luckily I was living in a different city so the dorms were the only choice I had otl. But when I brought up living in an apartment with my friends they wouldn't hear of it lmfao. Maybe they'll change their minds by your second year? 

 

yea they told me that I am still young at the age of 18 and I need to be at least 19-20 so I can live on my own in the dorms. "Hopefully" in the second year 

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They (and my grandparents too, since I lived with them like 5 years) were overprotective but I still did what I wanted and went where I wanted lol

Instead of asking to go somewhere I'd just go (they were at work/somewhere else and couldn't stop me) and then when they'd see I'm missing they'd call me and I would say I'm at z's house or wherever I was

 

The first few times they got annoyed and I got grounded, but after a while they noticed I'm not doing anything bad and pretty dependable

and since they changed I did too and started letting them know where I'm going before leaving

around 14 I guess

 

and right now I'm 19 and living with my best friend in a rented apartment in another city

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I wanted to move alone last year at 19 but my parents didn't let me.. rip

 

"you will not last" they said

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Nothing like a good old "you won't last" to shatter your dreams lmfao

 

12-13

Whatever trust they have in you, I want that

 

Mom is overprotective in terms of me and my sister's health (we both have illnesses that affects us a lot), but when it comes to other things she is lenient in a sense. 50% of the time she wants me to tell her where I am going and other times she just wants me to explore so, yeah

Ahh okay I can understand her reasoning for that. But at least she wasn't one of those mom that kept you and your sister in a bubbled life because of your health problems. 

 

Never rlytearpls.png

 

Unless it's when I'm here at college where they can't stop me za5g21G.png

skfakdfakfkjfajfjk that was me omfg. Like, I went to my first sleepover/concert/music festival because as far as I was concerned, my parents couldn't stop me if they didn't know anything about it lool

 

they gave me freedom since very young, I was left to my own devices without any guidance, it wasn't the right time imo.

I feel like there are positives and negatives to that kind of freedom. On one hand, you can explore anywhere as much as you want without any restrictions, but on the other hand....there's no one there to guide you, so it can get messy at times (I just know this from what my friends told me who had that type of freedom too) 

 

I think it was when I learned to drive. So, I would say around 17 years old.

I learned how to drive around 15-16 but I still can't go anywhere without them knowing where the place is otl

 

they never really ‘gave’ me freedom it’s more like i rarely ever even went out by my own accord that when i finally started asking if i could go out with friends they were like ‘oh thank god youre socializing’ LOL

rlytearpls.png My parents always tell me that I need to socialize more and that I lock myself in my room too much, but the moment I bring up wanting to go out then it's "with who, where, what time, why, how, etc...." 

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I had a deal with my dad, that when I turned 18 (a little over a year ago) he would start treating me like an adult. He's been pretty alright at that, not really making any big decisions for me, and stuff. My mom on the other hand, still treats me as if I'm 12 .

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18 or so

 

 

around 15 

 

I always had it tbh.

 

Can I be y'all? 

 

yea they told me that I am still young at the age of 18 and I need to be at least 19-20 so I can live on my own in the dorms. "Hopefully" in the second year 

I hope everything works out for you! Trust me, living in a dorm is so much better than go to school from home. 

 

My parents are like that too

But I had to move on to another city to continue my studies.. so that was when they gave me "freedom"

I'm 21

That was how it was for me when I moved to another city for college. I honestly regret leaving now that I think about it...

 

I'm almost 20, I still need permission for everything first and no is no

The internet is my freedom no one checks that

 

 

Same for me..ohdearplz.png

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