IrisButterfly 1 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I've been told that I'm emotionally cold and detached. I'm not sure how I can change this because I'm afraid of getting hurt from those who end up getting close to me. I get the feeling that I should change this aspect since I'm in a relationship but I'm not sure how. Am I the only one or are there anyone like this too? How do you overcome this issue? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elle 118 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I feel this too sometimes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PALEMOCHI 3,696 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 i know how u feel op Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriel Celeste 2,261 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 just have the courage/be brave to get hurt, Take the risks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rapperchoomTOP 79 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I think I should trust people more. I can only be completely honest with people in the internet, and that's because they don't know me . But my best friends don't know half of my life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrisButterfly 1 Posted April 23, 2014 Author Share Posted April 23, 2014 just have the courage/be brave to get hurt, Take the risks I know what you mean, but I find it hard to take the risks especially when I've been hurt as a result. I suppose the saying "once bitten, twice shy" applies here...? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohsogrey 474 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I think I should trust people more. I can only be completely honest with people in the internet, and that's because they don't know me . But my best friends don't know half of my life That's actually so sad. I feel for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seyoncé 320 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 A friend told me I'm never going to make it in life until I learn to trust people so... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoonCakes 767 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I feel like I am a very unlikeable person ;_; I also tend to feel left out a lot in social situations so it's my inability to mingle really. It's kind of getting to me to be honest. I feel like I am developing a social anxiety disorder or something Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Symphonyâ„¢ 11,329 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I think I should trust people more. I can only be completely honest with people in the internet, and that's because they don't know me . But my best friends don't know half of my life Me too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
d00b 1,376 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I feel like I am a very unlikeable person ;_; I also tend to feel left out a lot in social situations so it's my inability to mingle really. It's kind of getting to me to be honest. I feel like I am developing a social anxiety disorder or something But...i like you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoonCakes 767 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 But...i like you You do? :') Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Envied 5,831 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I think as we grow older we slowly change, sometimes without realizing it. People need to show that they can be trusted, I'm not going to give it to whomever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrisButterfly 1 Posted April 23, 2014 Author Share Posted April 23, 2014 I think as we grow older we slowly change, sometimes without realizing it. People need to show that they can be trusted, I'm not going to give it to whomever. I agree. Perhaps I am being paranoid and mistrusting of people, especially knowing that it can backfire on me once I've taken that a leap of faith and gave a piece of myself and my trust to them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Wine 1,540 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 If you plan to be involved in a long relationship, then trust is such an essential factor. If you're not ready to trust, maybe you should hold off on the relationship for a while. Take baby steps; trust different people in more minor situations, in bits and pieces, and gradually you may become more comfortable with it. If you want to change, then the first step is to resolutely decide that's what you want. There's no room for doubt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PornStar 237 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I've been told that I'm emotionally cold and detached. I'm not sure how I can change this because I'm afraid of getting hurt from those who end up getting close to me. I get the feeling that I should change this aspect since I'm in a relationship but I'm not sure how. Am I the only one or are there anyone like this too? How do you overcome this issue? you are just like me i always try to not be close with anyone around home/work/school/etc.. and i ended up hurting them :( i am not too close with my family & i don't have any friends cuz i lost them and i don't want to start again and be friend with anyone @ the end they will just show their real face. if you think you are comfortable with it then it's ok just be as you are!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lazy Daisy 732 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I've been told i'm selfish and my first impression is arrogant idk i just need extra time to get used to new people and circumstances so i usually just crawl into my shell and don't let anyone in. It's hard for me to change since i hadn't had any friends for 3 years or so i feel like i have -500 social skills. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
d00b 1,376 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 You do? :') Yessss! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoonCakes 767 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 Yessss! You don't really know me in real life but thanks a lot xD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoonCakes 767 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I've been told i'm selfish and my first impression is arrogant idk i just need extra time to get used to new people and circumstances so i usually just crawl into my shell and don't let anyone in. It's hard for me to change since i hadn't had any friends for 3 years or so i feel like i have -500 social skills. This is like reading the story of my life. I wish I can help you but since I'm going through the same thing and haven't found a solution yet, I have nothing to say but I wish you the best of luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamguu 374 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 i overcame an issue like this by deciding that i don't want to forcefully change myself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
d00b 1,376 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 You don't really know me in real life but thanks a lot xD I don't need to,i can feel you are a good person and have a kind heart Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lazy Daisy 732 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 This is like reading the story of my life. I wish I can help you but since I'm going through the same thing and haven't found a solution yet, I have nothing to say but I wish you the best of luck. It's nice to know i'm not the only one... i wish you good luck as well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrisButterfly 1 Posted April 23, 2014 Author Share Posted April 23, 2014 If you plan to be involved in a long relationship, then trust is such an essential factor. If you're not ready to trust, maybe you should hold off on the relationship for a while. Take baby steps; trust different people in more minor situations, in bits and pieces, and gradually you may become more comfortable with it. If you want to change, then the first step is to resolutely decide that's what you want. There's no room for doubt. Thanks for the advise. you are just like me i always try to not be close with anyone around home/work/school/etc.. and i ended up hurting them :( i am not too close with my family & i don't have any friends cuz i lost them and i don't want to start again and be friend with anyone @ the end they will just show their real face. if you think you are comfortable with it then it's ok just be as you are!! Same to you as well! I've been told i'm selfish and my first impression is arrogant idk i just need extra time to get used to new people and circumstances so i usually just crawl into my shell and don't let anyone in. It's hard for me to change since i hadn't had any friends for 3 years or so i feel like i have -500 social skills. I feel like I'm lacking social skills too T_T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Envied 5,831 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I agree. Perhaps I am being paranoid and mistrusting of people, especially knowing that it can backfire on me once I've taken that a leap of faith and gave a piece of myself and my trust to them. If you feel that someone betrayed you when you gave your trust to them, which I hold very high when it comes to anything, then it's natural to not want to put yourself out there like that. Don't try to force something like that, that has to happen naturally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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