Puppet&Puppeter 725 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 I think I read too much romance novels, but there's a common trait in most romance stories which makes me wonder and curious. I have yet to experience a long lasting love, most are just crush that will ended over time. So, in your opinion, is it possible for someone to love someone else after years has passed, let's say about 5 years or more. Have any of you experienced this kind of feelings? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thatoneuser 3,230 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 It is possible and I have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
You Need Some Milk 4,270 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 Yes ofc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
í� ! 974 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 100 Year Old Couple Celebrates 80th Wedding Anniversary. It's possible, but in this day and age of technology and social media, it is easy to lose sight of love and dedication to just one single person. It's quite sad actually that we seemed to have regressed in this particular area. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeeTee 1,719 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 I met my husband 6 years ago and we've been married for 3 years so it's definitely possible! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrazyAjumma 1,925 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 I have been married for 18 years and here is my opinion. Being "in love" and loving someone are two different things. The feelings of being "in love" are the effects of novelty, attraction, hormones etc. This fades. Loving someone is work, it is commitment, it is saying that you care enough about a person, about your relationship that you are willing to put up with dumb shit, with weight gain or hair loss, with bad days and bad attitudes, with periods of no sex, with them telling the same lame joke for the 15th time. Loving someone long term means you think that person is worth the time and effort you put into the relationship. And there are benefits for you because they are putting up with your shit too and still caring for you. You grow together through the good times and bad, and when it's bad and you are wondering if it's worth it then you remember the times you wondered before and the commitment you have to each other, and it works itself out and you are left with a stronger relationship because you know you could have left but you chose to stay. Because you love them, and they love you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NINI 16,268 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 ^ What Krazy Ajumma said. I realized that after 2.5-3 years that burning passion starts disappearing, it's inevitable (no matter how much you love or think to love the partner) - however, if love and respect are still there, so the base of the relationship, that passion can still be found. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archell 227 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 Yes, and I have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mon chan 4,645 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 Crush only lasts for months, uhm, after 2 persons get to know each other enough it converts to smt else, like you treasure that person and appreciate what you 2 have, s(he) becomes an important part of your life. And that's what I think love is, not the initial crush. With that meaning, yes, you can be "in love" for long *from my limited personal experience lol* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mutantsloth 556 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 I had this guy who had a very special place in my heart for six years. I can’t really describe what I feel for him, I can’t really say it’s love like in a normal BGR kind of love, but a part of me does love him cause he felt so special to me. I connected with him in a very deep and wordless way and I still had very strong cathartic feelings for him after six years. We never got together because I got together with one of our mutual friends instead during the ‘height’ of our connection. I think feeling so much for him at that time really scared me and I didn’t know what to do. I can’t say it wasn’t a mistake then but part of me also believes that we wouldn’t have worked out anyway. Both of us are still single today but I think we both think that we could have only worked out under different circumstances in kind of like a perfect parallel universe. I do think that he has ruined it for me in terms how much I might ever feel for somebody else but I’ve also accepted that my feelings for him will never have a resolution, and I’ll always just kind of keep it as a fond memory in my heart. Sent from my iPhone using OneHallyu Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yagura 12,799 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 Yes of course. I've never experienced it more than a year but I could have if we didn't end things I guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dove 442 Posted January 20, 2018 Share Posted January 20, 2018 Yes. Those couples that have been faithfully together for decades prove that it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joyvelvet. 1,008 Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 Yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starfire. 1,317 Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 Yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sungjins 676 Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 definitely possible Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CERT 6 Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cake mf 1,737 Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 I think after you love a person for a long time, you start to respect them more. You appreciate what they do for you and you can look beyond their flaws. But if the flaws become too much there’s a certain point where you stop loving them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jiayou 1,586 Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elscian 5,139 Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 ofc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edelgard 4,845 Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amorria 25 Posted February 20, 2018 Share Posted February 20, 2018 It may sound weird but when I was in the third grade of the elementary school, I had a crush on a classmate. I guess it's most likely due to him being nice to me (like, not making comments about how weird/quiet I am) and praising my drawing skills. This crush lasted for quite a long time - for around 5 years. I guess no one noticed it except one girl (who just noticed that I'm smiling a lot near that certain person). The crush ended up in the middle school when he changed for worse (like a lot of people). And honestly, I'm glad I lost these feelings. I saw him few days ago for the first time since middle school and yuck... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cobalt 2,914 Posted February 20, 2018 Share Posted February 20, 2018 I think I've been in love with my friend for over a year, during high school. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MasterOfCider 692 Posted February 21, 2018 Share Posted February 21, 2018 I think it's possible, but it's not easy to find. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iJungwha 1,120 Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 Yes, I believe so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heart and Seoul 1,218 Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 Speaking from experience of being in love for years without passion fading, if anything increasing over the years due to how much feelings have grown for that person (and knowing it's a strength of feeling I could never have for anyone else) I would very much say it is possible Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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