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Update: I have this "forbidden fruit" thing going on with a guy in my dorm >.<


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#1 PhotoshopNubi

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Posted 12 January 2018 - 06:10 PM

So I have the update that no one asked for to this thread here: https://onehallyu.co...guy-in-my-dorm/

 

My first day back at uni this semester, he said he was trying to get a job at my place of employment (the dining commons), and I was like:

 

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So today I went to catch up with a friend and while there he showed up. I didn't speak to him and focused on the people I knew weren't possibly trying to use me. Long story short, I found out he has a girlfriend, after he said last semester he doesn't want one because he's broke. Now it makes sense why he's trying to get a job. Why get one where I'm working? Idk, he has other friends who work there (I'm trying not to make his job choice about me but it's hard).

 

So people here were right. I was only good for a possible fuck buddy, nothing more. Some other girl was able to make him change his mind about being broke and single, so congrats to that I guess. I had a good carbonated drink and almost got mad, but now I'm just sad. People lie. People are shitty. It's my job to forgive them for myself and know my worth. Thanks for all the good advice, I'm just focusing on my weight loss goals, school, and my job now. 

 

I think it's best if I just don't crush on anybody anymore for the duration of my life let's be real

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#2 flopluna

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Posted 12 January 2018 - 06:17 PM

Aww, OP I hope you get over him. It just seemed like he was using you - so he's really just a waste of space and time. If I were you, I'd remove him from my life - not literally. Just try to make less contact with him or just confront him about the situation and try to resolve the matter. People like him will just create a negative impact on your life. 




#3 KimJongBrosENT

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Posted 12 January 2018 - 07:32 PM

Op :( Remember, he shouldn't be worth anything to you, since it's clear that he was only trying to use you. It's best not to think about him too much, if anything, it's great that you avoided something that could've been a regretful situation. I know it's easier said than done, but it'll help int he long run. But he best thing about this? He won't pester you anymore (well personally, even though you have to see him at work, which blows :/) 

I hope you'll have a great school year op, and that you'll accomplish all of your other goals!




#4 PhotoshopNubi

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Posted 12 January 2018 - 07:45 PM

Aww, OP I hope you get over him. It just seemed like he was using you - so he's really just a waste of space and time. If I were you, I'd remove him from my life - not literally. Just try to make less contact with him or just confront him about the situation and try to resolve the matter. People like him will just create a negative impact on your life. 

 

 

Op :( Remember, he shouldn't be worth anything to you, since it's clear that he was only trying to use you. It's best not to think about him too much, if anything, it's great that you avoided something that could've been a regretful situation. I know it's easier said than done, but it'll help int he long run. But he best thing about this? He won't pester you anymore (well personally, even though you have to see him at work, which blows :/) 

I hope you'll have a great school year op, and that you'll accomplish all of your other goals!

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Posted 12 January 2018 - 09:30 PM

you dodged a bullet ! be proud, you didn't fall for his tricks. he seemed creepy tbh. I hope you find someone else that really respects you (by not constantly talking about your vcard) and likes you for who you are. Yes just focus on yourself girl. There are plenty of men out there for you.




#6 PhotoshopNubi

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Posted 12 January 2018 - 09:37 PM

you dodged a bullet ! be proud, you didn't fall for his tricks. he seemed creepy tbh. I hope you find someone else that really respects you (by not constantly talking about your vcard) and likes you for who you are. Yes just focus on yourself girl. There are plenty of men out there for you.

I've been repeating this to myself all day since it happened tbh I wanna start believing it smile.png




#7 CakeyMESS

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Posted 13 January 2018 - 01:04 AM

The only good way...is to rebound. But I know with rebounds, you should never make it serious, admire from a distance or be sure they’re not serious either.


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Posted 13 January 2018 - 05:21 AM

I need to hug you, dear.

 

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After some time you will sure get over him. He wasn't even worth your attention and now seems to be an even bigger liar (like, he suddenly changed his mind and found a girlfriend? wtf?). And I'm sure you will find someone who will admire you for your adorable personality and respect your opinions. 

 

For now try to not think about that guy - watch your favourite anime, eat your favourite cake, go out with friends, listen to your favourite group. It will be fine. deepstareplz.png




#9 PhotoshopNubi

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Posted 13 January 2018 - 10:08 PM

The only good way...is to rebound. But I know with rebounds, you should never make it serious, admire from a distance or be sure they’re not serious either.

I'm just chilling these day lmbo no rebounds for a while. But thank you for the advice!

 

I need to hug you, dear.

 

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After some time you will sure get over him. He wasn't even worth your attention and now seems to be an even bigger liar (like, he suddenly changed his mind and found a girlfriend? wtf?). And I'm sure you will find someone who will admire you for your adorable personality and respect your opinions. 

 

For now try to not think about that guy - watch your favourite anime, eat your favourite cake, go out with friends, listen to your favourite group. It will be fine. https://onehallyu.com//public/style_emot...

I will! And he's already forgotten about! He got in trouble for possession of alcohol on campus so karma came pretty damn quick!

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#10 CakeyMESS

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Posted 13 January 2018 - 11:32 PM

I'm just chilling these day lmbo no rebounds for a while. But thank you for the advice!

 

I will! And he's already forgotten about! He got in trouble for possession of alcohol on campus so karma came pretty damn quick!

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Posted 29 January 2018 - 05:29 PM

Hi again op! i just wanted to say that him getting a job doesn't mean he is more serious about his gf or not. Not that it matters, but maybe it affects your psychology and makes you feel you worth less. Most probably he felt it was about time to not be bound by the fact he had no money and wanted to start living his life having more choices. Plus he seemed he really wanted a girl
Most importantly I hope you are feeling okay and happy with yourself. If you force yourself to change who you are so you can be next to someone, it can never be a good match. You are a good person and I am sure God will send you a person that it feels right to have next to you. Just be smart and not naive! so many nice girls find themselves the worst possible guy, because he knows how to flirt and they have no experience, self confidence or real standards to turn him down


#12 PhotoshopNubi

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Posted 29 January 2018 - 08:34 PM

Hi again op! i just wanted to say that him getting a job doesn't mean he is more serious about his gf or not. Not that it matters, but maybe it affects your psychology and makes you feel you worth less. Most probably he felt it was about time to not be bound by the fact he had no money and wanted to start living his life having more choices. Plus he seemed he really wanted a girl
Most importantly I hope you are feeling okay and happy with yourself. If you force yourself to change who you are so you can be next to someone, it can never be a good match. You are a good person and I am sure God will send you a person that it feels right to have next to you. Just be smart and not naive! so many nice girls find themselves the worst possible guy, because he knows how to flirt and they have no experience, self confidence or real standards to turn him down

You are absolutely right. I've taken my time to enjoy being single and work on myself. I know I dodged a bullet in hindsight, and my self esteem is definitely higher after this whole ordeal. Thank you for the encouraging words! <3




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Posted 06 February 2018 - 02:12 AM

Aw I am so sorry to hear that... But think of it as it is for the best! He really wasn't the one for you, so it actually is good that nothing happened. You will find someone way better for you, I promise~ <3 Keep working on yourself, girl! You are wonderful~!







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