Kim Seolhyun 7,303 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Last night I found myself, completely sober, uncontrollably crying myself to sleep while reminiscing the times when I was 13-15 years old and completely obsessed with him, not knowing what was to come years later. I don’t know how I would have acted if the eighth grade or the 10th grade me where to have that type news thrown in my face... I still have his group name written all over my vanity with his name spammed all over, enclosed in a heart. His first name is still the password to old desktop, I still have inactive accounts with him in my username and display picture... he was very prevalent in my life for a few years but I distanced myself from him and the news of him passing is still too mind blowing and crushing. It’s as if a part of my life was destroyed... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BraveRabbit 104 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Totally normal, i feel you man!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seola 2,080 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 sometimes i still cry thinking about him too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doki-doki 21,660 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 it's completely normal and okay, wishing you strength. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Waves in the sand~~ 3,269 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Don't worry, it's normal. I hope you can feel better somehow... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Usagi. 13,668 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 It is, truly. Don't worry about it, take your time, people have different ways of going through it and there's no "right or wrong". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jinsus 846 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Completely normal. Last night I broke down for 3 hours, just crying my eyes out. It's hard. We can get through this, some of us just have a harder time accepting and letting go. And thats ok. Best of luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shota 564 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 The grieving process is different to each one of us and may take a long time. Don't worry, it's totally normal, just be a little patient. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Velveteer 2,595 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 people grieve in different ways; it’s completely fine to feel this way, especially since it sounds like he was a really big part of your life today is my birthday and i listened to his song “happy birthday†at midnight as per tradition, and it made me break down in tears. i can’t even begin to imagine how his friends and family feel... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exoztao 362 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 yes...100%. everybody grieves in different ways, and it takes different times to heal for each individual. really hope you feel better soon op <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WenSuelRene 5,626 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Of course it is. Sadness over a loss isn't something that goes away quickly. I pray that you find strength. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sierraanderson 19 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 · Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread Get over it Link to comment
Mister Dove 10,782 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 it is normal and natural, let it happen. actually when my father passed away, the sadness and devastation took time to sink in. it takes time to miss people who are not around any and to realize they will never be around anymore. i still miss him and cry 11 years later but what really overpowers sadness after a while is fond memories and love. i am sure there will come a time when the same happens to you. stay strong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sierraanderson 19 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 it is normal and natural, let it happen. actually when my father passed away, the sadness and devastation took time to sink in. it takes time to miss people who are not around any and to realize they will never be around anymore. i still miss him and cry 11 years later but what really overpowers sadness after a while is fond memories and love. i am sure there will come a time when the same happens to you. stay strong. How can you compare the loss of a parent to the loss of an idol who didn"t even know u existed ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosinante 588 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Its normal, everyone heals differently Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mister Dove 10,782 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 How can you compare the loss of a parent to the loss of an idol who didn"t even know u existed ? i was just telling how the mourning process was with me. i don't want to compare the depth of the feeling but the process might be similar for many people regardless of how close they were to the person they lost. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim Seolhyun 7,303 Posted January 12, 2018 Author Share Posted January 12, 2018 · Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread Get over itCURED now you get over your creepy teacher :3 Link to comment
Sierraanderson 19 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 · Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread CURED now you get over your creepy teacher :3 I did thanks Link to comment
Kim Seolhyun 7,303 Posted January 12, 2018 Author Share Posted January 12, 2018 · Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread I did thanksThen why you writing shit to the board tho? But I can’t cry? Fuck you Link to comment
Sierraanderson 19 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 · Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread Then why you writing shit to the board tho? But I can’t cry? Fuck you By writing shit to the board I got rid of him My concern is bigger than yours because I actually knew the person Fuck you too dude Link to comment
Jcey 7,752 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 I think we will always remember him and it will always be bitter sweet. He is engraved in our memories of youth, happiness and sadness. The times that will never come back. Remember him for the days he made you happy. Remember him for all the good he brought into your life. I don't think he was the type of person who will want the other person to cry everyday. Its okay to cry everyone in a while tho. Some time later I hope you will mostly smile in his memories. At times like you can get so immersed in your emotions and feel like your world is getting smaller and you keep thinking about the sad things. I hope you are meeting up with other people to remind you that there is so much more for you to do and enjoy in your life and I hope Jonghyun becomes a part of your life that provides you with strength. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim Seolhyun 7,303 Posted January 12, 2018 Author Share Posted January 12, 2018 · Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread Hidden by MadameVastra, January 12, 2018 - Derailing the thread By writing shit to the board I got rid of him My concern is bigger than yours because I actually knew the person Fuck you too dude Aight “My-problems-are-worse-so-fuck-yoursâ€-headass. Typical self centered cunt. Link to comment
jinsouljin 36 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 yes it’s completely normal. i hope it gets easier for you soon Sent from my iPhone using OneHallyu Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinkpanda_spirit 14,647 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 It's completely fine OP, I feel exactly the same way as you do.. I was around 12, he was also my 1st bias, I still have pics of him all over my facebook profile, old gaming sites, old phones etc. He was a very important person in my life that's why I feel even more heartbroken. But I want to live only thinking about happy memories I had. I hope you will overcome this OP. But if you wanna cry, just cry. It can ease your pain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Last Duchess 285 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 It's normal. I was just crying last night. I think it'll get better as time passes by. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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