does anyone want to give me some friendship advice?

[westrocket]

so i've had this problem with my friend for a long time and there's not really anyone i can talk to about it. so basically i have a friend whom i met like 6/7 years ago in middle school and i feel like he doesn't understand me at all. it's like we're at completely different wavelengths so it takes a lot adjusting from my part to talk with him so it feels like in these years he's only known a small part of me.

 

and i really hate being misunderstood and judged by him so being his friend really stresses me out and i always feel like i don't really even like him. now i would just stop being his friend, but the thing is that his life sucks so bad in many aspects and he's dealing with major depression. i know that he has it super hard and i want him to have a happy life you know, but i just don't wanna be friends with someone who i don't match with. so i can't really talk about these problems with him because he's so sad and stressed out all the time and he would probably just hate himself more and he would think that i hate him.

 

i'm also scared of him relying on me too much cause he is close to being homeless and he's suicidal and i don't know what are the best ways to help him, not to mention i don't have the money or the emotional and mental resources to help him but at the same time like i don't want him to die or be homeless. and the worst thing is that the government won't help him cause he doesn't study or work and he can't get into a hospital cause he refuses meds.

 

so any thoughts? before anyone tells me that i am a bad friend, i can say that i already know that and it's because i don't really wanna be his friend in the first place. i know he really deserves someone who truly cares about  him but i can't be that person. anyways for now i just avoid talking to him for a while when i get really stressed (like now) but even that's difficult cause we play OW together. and in the end i always end up getting stressed anyways when  i talk to him again

[multiFandomaf]

I wouldn't say your a bad friend...but its hard because of what he's going through..but you also have to think of yourself...

[waffles8000]

does the government provide resources for people who are mentally ill? if you can get your friend to be diagnosed properly with a doctor or therapist, they may be eligible for subsidiaries because he is emotionally unable to work. idk if that's just in my country, but it's considered a disability in my country and if you are not equipped to work then they will provide you with some money to sustain a healthy life

[westrocket]

does the government provide resources for people who are mentally ill? if you can get your friend to be diagnosed properly with a doctor or therapist, they may be eligible for subsidiaries because he is emotionally unable to work. idk if that's just in my country, but it's considered a disability in my country and if you are not equipped to work then they will provide you with some money to sustain a healthy life

thanks, i will look into that. and man, i sure hope so