Bi people, when did you realize you were bi and have you experienced any discrimination based on it?

[enchante]

Just a casual survey. I think I realized I was bi around last year. I'd struggled with my sexuality for many years before I was like "oh....I like both." Firsthand i've never experienced any discrimination based on it but i've heard some people around me say some demeaning stuff.

[Nsfw]

I've only experienced discrimination when dating another female

[Park Joy]

Around the age of 14, I only came out to my close friends last year. One of them wanted to cut ties (she didn't say it but I'm pretty sure she was uncomfortable around me) so our 5 years friendship ended. I was pretty hurt back then but I don't need her in my life

[Grape Soda]

Ive always thought girls were attractive like I did guys. I was maybe 10 (?). my grandma was dating this guy, he also had a granddaughter, we got along very well and I thought she was pretty. When we went on vacation me and her ended up sharing a bed, idr how but we fooled around and we fooled around every weekend we were both over there until they broke up. even though I was 10 or 11 one of my best sexual experiences.

 

I've only come out to close friends and my brothers, so I haven't had that issue.

[sungjins]

I was really young, around 10 or 11? my first kiss was a girl in my class who also came out as bi a few years later to her parents. we both really liked each other and didn't think it was weird just because we were the same gender. and I haven't as of yet

[shooter]

when i was like 13/14, i was starting to realise it but i was in complete denial. once somebody jokingly said i should date a girl and i got really defensive saying "i'm not a fucking lesbian". i wasn't homophobic but i didn't want people to think that i could like the same sex as mine.

 

after a while, i just accepted reality and decided that i was bi. it's funny because now i'm 100% certain i like the same sex but i'm not so sure if i really do like the opposite sex, i guess i have a preference?

 

anyway, i haven't experienced discrimination because i haven't told anyone besides internet friends. i'll probably just tell people if it comes up in conversation (kinda scared though so i'm not sure) or if i actually date a girl.

[honeybaymax]

I accepted I was bi 3 years ago. I’ve been attracted to girls too since middle school, but I was in denial. I haven’t really experienced discrimination since in rl only my best friend and a couple of acquaintances know. But I’ve heard my family say things that made me uncomfortable, which is why I haven’t come out to them.

[Kiiona]

i realized with 11 and was pretty okay with it right away, but then i got into a weird (?) denial stage -- i just didnt think about it anymore that i like the same gender as well, if this makes somehow sense? either way, around beginning of high school i came to terms with it again but i haven't told anyone besides my internet friends about my sexuality 

[plutto]

While I always knew that I am attracted to females, I only came to terms last year.

I'm still confused tho, Idk if I'm really attracted to men...

And I've not experienced discrimination specifically for being bi

[Frell]

Around 12/13. I met a girl a few years older than me who was pretty open about being attracted to girls. We had a thing together. She was my first and last kiss. I always liked her as a friend but I realized that I liked her more than I normally liked people, and I liked being around her. I just loved the way that she looked though it seemed effortless to her.  

 

Unfortunately my family are incredibly religious and I met her at church, so we snuck around. No one knew about our relationship. When people found about her sexuality she had a hard time. She ended up moving away due to some other issues and I haven't seen or heard from her since. I still think about her sometimes. It's funny because she was mixed and looked a lot like Seventeen's Joshua to me, just with long black hair. I kind of gasped when I saw him lol. Whenever I see him I think of her. Their smile is the same.

 

I ended up telling my mom a few years later about my bisexuality and she was very upset, and I ended up crying. A bible was involved. Since then I've just remained in the closet around my family due to them saying homophobic things. I'm not in the closet around friends, though. 

[Solarbeam]

I just came into terms with it months ago, but I am going into a denial stage. I only came out to two therapists, a psychiatrist, an my friend who lives in Brazil (I think she is pansexual; she doesn't put labels on things). I always knew I liked guys (most crushes on people I usually interact with on a daily basis are guys , but over time (teens) I started finding girls attractive. 

 

Whenever I saw porn, I would mostly pay attention to the girl and how I wanted to have sex with her because she was hot.

 

At first, I thought I was biromantic homosexual, but then I thought I was heteroromantic bisexual. Now I realize I do have a sexual attraction to men but I have more of a sexual attraction towards women. In terms of romantic attraction, it flip flops.. Sometimes I want to be with a girl in romantic relationship, but a lot of times I also want to be in one with a guy sometimes more than with a girl. 

 

Towards me, I have been discriminated once by my mom when I told her I like girls. She immediately asked if I was lesbian which I said no because I'm not, but I am bi. She acted weird towards me for the end of the night. I have seen lesbians on the internet said how they won't date bi women because they're "slutty" and other stereotypes

[ShuaFlowers]

i found out i was bi when i was 13, i realised that i liked girls just as much as i liked guys but i didnt know you could be attracted to both UNTIL i came across the term "bisexual" and i felt comfortable and i kinda felt triumphant? LMAO

i've had discrimination from people i'm close to, especially back then when my sisters were uncomfortable about it sadly /: but now they're ok with it! i never had a partner who was judgmental/ unsupportive of my sexuality.

[Chae(forever)young]

Maybe last year-ish? I just remember thinking there's no way I'm a lesbian because I like boys also, but I have an attraction towards girls as well so that can only mean 1 thing...

 

I've never experienced discrimination because of it, but that's because I've very quiet about my sexuality to other people and the people I surround myself with are very open-minded

[HBIC Jennie]

Ive always thought girls were attractive like I did guys. I was maybe 10 (?). my grandma was dating this guy, he also had a granddaughter, we got along very well and I thought she was pretty. When we went on vacation me and her ended up sharing a bed, idr how but we fooled around and we fooled around every weekend we were both over there until they broke up. even though I was 10 or 11 one of my best sexual experiences.

 

I've only come out to close friends and my brothers, so I haven't had that issue.

u were 10 - 11? lol thats some weird shit right there

 

and no it's not weird that you felt something for the girl it's weird that you had a sexual experience with someone at the age of 10

[Baekhyunlovesmyass]

Bi people doesn't generally face any shit compared to homosexuals...

[sevendays]

when I was like 12 I realized I was gay

I got the whole dyke lesbian thing thrown in my face, but lesbians would act like I was below them just bc I was bi 

[enchante]

Bi people doesn't generally face any shit compared to homosexuals...

I agree the level of discrimination is different but bisexuals are often isolated even within the lgbt community. It’s unfair to say we don’t face anything.