how to find passion and motivation

[redheart]

I never had the opportunity to get proper dancing or singing lessons and everything that I learned especially when it comes to dancing I learned on my own and at some point, I think 3 or 4 years back I had a lot of determination and self discipline like I could easily dance for 4hours straight without a break being proud of myself even I though sucked at the time lol

 

but these days I don't know why I can't find the energy in myself to do these kind of thing anymore like, it all just seems... pointless I feel like it won't take me anywhere, sometime I would try to hype and motivate myself and I still dance not as much as before though but after a while I just give up again, not because I'm not getting the moves right but just because I keep telling myself that it's pointless that it's not taking me anywhere anyways and that I'll never be good enough

 

same for singing, I singing all the fucking time but as soon as I start to try to go any further like recording myself or try to actually sing along an instrument I just start getting stuck and sounding bad... It's all very frustrating because these things especially singing I feel the happiest when I do them but at the same it makes anxious and as time goes by it's getting harder and harder to get my motivation and passion back I admire these people that can just trough them self into what they like and get lost into it, hate myself because I just can't seem to be able to do that anymore

[Blink Once]

Fuck... that's me, too. It's literally the worst.

[Moonbyun]

It's okay to do things you feel won't serve a purpose or won't make you move forward. If you're enjoying yourself while doing them, it's not wasted time, and your passion is naturally gonna push you towards greater achievements anyway. Just focus on what you feel like doing at the moment, and not if you're good enough to do it; it doesn't matter if you are or not.

 

Artists eventually get stuck in the very place you're at currently, it happens even to the most talented ones. Don't think about the things you feel you're not able to do, think only of the things you want to do! And If you try and it doesn't work, that doesn't mean you won't succeed the next time you try.

 

If you're not interested in those type of things anymore, that's alright. But make sure it's because you're less passionate about it anymore and not because you're just scared of not eventually achieving what you strive for. What you will be able to accomplish later in life doesn't matter, what matters is what you try to accomplish today.

 

I don't know if that helps but I'm cheering for your success!!

[tang]

awh man.. i know that feel ):

[kaibibi]

I think one way to help is to share your passion with others. When others cheer you on and give you criticism, it will help push you forward.

 

At least that's the case for me.

[redheart]

It's okay to do things you feel won't serve a purpose or won't make you move forward. If you're enjoying yourself while doing them, it's not wasted time, and your passion is naturally gonna push you towards greater achievements anyway. Just focus on what you feel like doing at the moment, and not if you're good enough to do it; it doesn't matter if you are or not.

 

Artists eventually get stuck in the very place you're at currently, it happens even to the most talented ones. Don't think about the things you feel you're not able to do, think only of the things you want to do! And If you try and it doesn't work, that doesn't mean you won't succeed the next time you try.

 

If you're not interested in those type of things anymore, that's alright. But make sure it's because you're less passionate about it anymore and not because you're just scared of not eventually achieving what you strive for. What you will be able to accomplish later in life doesn't matter, what matters is what you try to accomplish today.

 

I don't know if that helps but I'm cheering for your success!!

 

you is really helpful it actually made me tear up a little because all you're saying is true, sorry this is going to be long

 

 

what really want to do is to be a performer, since I was very young that's all I thought about but I always shied away from it because I'm scared shitless. When I graduated from high school I was free to go into that direction but I hid behind the fact that my family wouldn't support me so I went into economy and law instead but that first year of college was the worst one yet in my whole life I was badly depressed and I would cry myself to sleep more often than not, I lost a whole lot of weight too so when the school year ended and I realised that I could not take another year like that, I was faced with the opportunity to pursue why dream again but once again I shied away from it and went into visual art instead to study graphic art because it could give me a stable job. 

 

I was doing okay in art school, but last year I had to stop because I was struggling financially, I didn't stop because I wanted to so for the past few months I've been working small jobs and it actually gave me some time to rest and do some thinking and I thought to myself that this could be the right time to at least try to take proper singing and dancing lessons since I won't be going back to art school till October. Still I didn't do anything about it even when it came to the dancing I did on my own it became hard for me to keep doing it and I kept being stuck because I'm just really scared and anxious about it. It's hard for me because this what I really want to do and makes me happy so why is it so hard to overcome my fear? even doing it just for fun like I used to became impossible.

 

I think what other people said about it is playing into my fear I guess because the few times I mentioned it people would laugh to face and said yeah sure, you're a good dancer but you could never take it that far. Also when I was in high school I was part of a band and we did a concert in front of the whole school, for the school festival and my voice cracked... during practice I was doing just fine but once I was in front of the crowd, I panicked and It was awful, especially because the other bands who performed before us did amazing. 

 

my skills could use some improvement, I know I need lessons but I'm just very scared and I feel like I can't do it and I hate myself so much for it

 

 

[Myr]

i'm sort of in the same boat  as you. always wanted to do something with respect to the arts. I was actually sort of confident when I was little. actively participating in dancing, singing and acting and thoroughly enjoyed it but then I just stopped.. now i'm just depressed and boring doing something that i'm not interested in..

 

i'm in no way qualified to give you advice, however, just keep at it. don't compare yourself to others( it makes you think you're not good enough), just work on bettering yourself and you seem like a hard worker. 

[Moonbyun]

 

you is really helpful it actually made me tear up a little because all you're saying is true, sorry this is going to be long

 

 

what really want to do is to be a performer, since I was very young that's all I thought about but I always shied away from it because I'm scared shitless. When I graduated from high school I was free to go into that direction but I hid behind the fact that my family wouldn't support me so I went into economy and law instead but that first year of college was the worst one yet in my whole life I was badly depressed and I would cry myself to sleep more often than not, I lost a whole lot of weight too so when the school year ended and I realised that I could not take another year like that, I was faced with the opportunity to pursue why dream again but once again I shied away from it and went into visual art instead to study graphic art because it could give me a stable job. 

 

I was doing okay in art school, but last year I had to stop because I was struggling financially, I didn't stop because I wanted to so for the past few months I've been working small jobs and it actually gave me some time to rest and do some thinking and I thought to myself that this could be the right time to at least try to take proper singing and dancing lessons since I won't be going back to art school till October. Still I didn't do anything about it even when it came to the dancing I did on my own it became hard for me to keep doing it and I kept being stuck because I'm just really scared and anxious about it. It's hard for me because this what I really want to do and makes me happy so why is it so hard to overcome my fear? even doing it just for fun like I used to became impossible.

 

I think what other people said about it is playing into my fear I guess because the few times I mentioned it people would laugh to face and said yeah sure, you're a good dancer but you could never take it that far. Also when I was in high school I was part of a band and we did a concert in front of the whole school, for the school festival and my voice cracked... during practice I was doing just fine but once I was in front of the crowd, I panicked and It was awful, especially because the other bands who performed before us did amazing. 

 

my skills could use some improvement, I know I need lessons but I'm just very scared and I feel like I can't do it and I hate myself so much for it

 

 

 

People are scared of seeing others succeeding because it makes them feel bad about what they could've done themselves, but haven't. Those who mocked you didn't want to see you become a great performer: if they did, they would've said your actual talent needs improvement, not that you could never take it far. Your passion was impressive to the point of making them uncomfortable. Please don't let their words have any power on you.

 

Even in the scenario where your talent was lacking at that moment, artists are rarely born as geniuses. The celebrities that are idolized all over the world were not as talented as they are now when they first started, they themselves met people who tried to discourage them, but they kept on going because they loved what they were doing - no matter how well they were doing it.

 

Your level of talent right now is not the one you're gonna end up at in a few years if you keep on practicing often. The world's best singers and performers started with an okay-level talent that became a lot bigger with all the tries, the fails and the practice they got. If you're not satisfied with what you can do at the moment, that's fine: use it to feed your passion. "There are so many other things I want to try and do, even if I'm not the best at them at first. I want to go further than where I'm at right now."

 

The best artists all have bad days where they don't perform as good. The best singers still get voice cracks, the best dancers still make mistakes. It's normal, and those bad days are not in any way a representation of the artist's potential.

 

If you want to get lessons, do it. If you don't do as good as you hope you would during a lesson, that is completely okay and normal. The motto of every artist is "Practice every day" for a reason! Concentrate on what you love about singing or dancing. How it makes you feel. Don't focus on your actual talent, focus on where you want to take it.

 

(english isn't my native language so sorry if there are sentences that are hard to understand)