parkyeols 754 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 cr. tbh the wife is going overboard imo,she should take care of herself (t/n: picture not included and he is NOT the actor OP is talking about, we just took the picture so you guys can "visualize" it, we picked a popular actor looking through comments of a previous post we wrote today!)Yesterday, we had a huge fight and I'm writing this post after agreeing to my wife's ideaWe've been married for 8 years, we also have 2 kids and we're a couple in our 30'sMy wife is a die hard fan of a certain actor (t/n: let's call him A)I know it's common for girls to have 1 or 2 celebrities they really like,but she liked that one celebrity ever since she was single all the way to nowShe would watch A's dramas and movies and look for articles about him after...You probably think that this is something normal to do right?But my wife is seriously like those teens sasaengs levelWhenever she leaves work, whether it's weekend or weekdays (T/n: in Korea, you work until Saturday) she would find A's schedule and follow him all the way to airports, press releases and even his shooting scenes areasOf course, it doesn't only eat up all her time, but also her bodyEven though she's sick, she would go follow A aroundShe obviously participates in the fan cafe's activities until late night or overnight and she also writes articles about A and posts comments all aroundShe even creates and edits fan videos of him, and she would contribute to his tributes, and I'm not talking about modest amounts of moneyThere are even members of the fan cafe would recognize my wife's ID right away,and I'm pretty certain that A himself knows about the existence of my wife to some extent that's how over the top her craze is for himMy wife and I have similar earnings and we're a double income family so I can understand the stress that comes with it and the need to have a hobby to compensatebut this doesn't feel like an energizer, as someone who is married and as a mother, do you think it's even possible to balance house work, looking after the kids, earning money, and fangirling all the time?Just doing one of those for a living is hard enough, isn't this the reality?Some people might misunderstand what I just wrote, but the house work that we have to do at home is pretty exhausting and once we get off work, we have to bath the kids and prepare food for them, we have to also clean the house and wash the clothes, I help her doing all of thoseBut I'm not complaining about thoseThe question is that we still have to have family time together at the end of the dayMy wife is so obsessed with making money that her time spent with the kids have became so smallIt's also hard for my wife to have time for herself tooSo the more I see my wife fangirl on A, the harder it gets because I feel the divisionThis is the truthI can understand that you like a celebrity,but this should only be a hobby,I also don't want to marry a girl who only does house chores, this is not what I wantbut I think that she should at least be family-orientedThe way she wants to spend her spare time on celebrities she likesand follow him to the airports or wherever she wants, is seriously getting on my nervesI would rather spend this time so we can travel somewhere with our familyWhat do you guys think?I know that this place has a lot of tension between male and female netizens and I'm worried that I might get sworn at so I tried to convey my opinion with a lot of cautionLet's change perspective, if I was an ajussi in my late 30's who follows female celebrities to their filming spots and concerts as soon as I finish work and I just follow them around and use my money for their tributes and fan-cafe. Or that I write posts about them all the time, will you guys like it?I thought that she would 100% understand me, but she just denied everything and kept doing her own thing.The older one is going to school this year and we have to give a lot of attention to her/him.I'm trying to do my best as a dad of a boy and a girl but I have my limits,There are times when our kids also need their mom.And seeing this tears me apart.This is something she is not willing to do and it'd require 2 or 3 times her bodyWhat should I do, I need your helpI want to get other opinions that is not from my side. My wife has already written her post and she has uploaded it (t/n: we didn't find it :S)t/n: so the end of the post is just the husband and the wife each writing a "follow-up" the the incident, they said they both read all the comments and the wife acknowledges it, and she'll try her best to fix it post response: [+731][-40] original post: here 28ë…€ |2018.01.03 11:18 ì‹ ê³ í•˜ê¸° Even as a girl, I pity this husband. .I pity the kids too. . She should be spending time with the kids prettilyㅜㅜ Being a celebrity is a job, they pamper themselves and get conditioned to smile in front of the fans and act kindly in front of everyone. Think about how as an employee, you have no other choice but to act obedient and submissive towards your superior, that's the same logic that applies between celebrities and fans. They treat us well only because we're the reason they get to lay food on the table. Please don't get disillusioned with ulterior motives, I'm single, but from what my mom told me, as kids grow up, you won't be able to gain back the time you were supposed to spend with them. This is exactly your situation right now. Once the kids hit adolescence, they would just spend time among themselves and your wife will not be able to spend time with them, let's not throw away this precious moment 추천319 반대12 ë‚¨ìž ã…¡ã…¡ |2018.01.03 10:54 ì‹ ê³ í•˜ê¸° I know that teens and single people only have their own body to take care of but if you decide to follow celebrities around, it's your studies that will take the blow. And when you get back to work the next day, of course it'll affect your work. I hope kids out there have a reality check after seeing his wife, please think about your kids. That celebrity will not take care of you after you get a divorce 추천248 반대11 웃겨 |2018.01.03 11:24 ì‹ ê³ í•˜ê¸° To be honest, I don't know who the celebrity is, but I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel pleasant to have an ajumma with 2 kids fangirling over him... He's probably swearing internally. He probably has a lot of young ladies who are single fangirling over him, why does it have to be an ajumma.... Please just fangirl on your kids instead 추천245 반대183 아휴 |2018.01.03 17:22 ì‹ ê³ í•˜ê¸° 100% one of you will lose it ã…‹ã…‹ You can tell your wife kindly as possible to fangirl lightly, but all I see is a childish ajumma. And that actor too.. He must be thankful to have her.. since she's basically his ATMã…‹ã…‹ã…‹ 추천131 반대6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinn 1,981 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 All of us in 5-10 years tbh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NINI 16,268 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 This is obsessing over someone, not liking someone. I honestly feel bad for this man and the kids Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teal 2,285 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 wow this is too much. she crosses every single line. she needs help. edit: i doubt she'll change too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cho 942 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 Poor husband :/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No1 6,262 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 She needs to grow up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wookietis 920 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 i feel bad for the husband Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idontlikekpopanymore 2,087 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 Where does this wife find the time? That's what impresses me the most. I was responsible for my brothers (and a cousin) and my father's house for a week, and I didn't even have time to get on the internet. Imagine when I have my children, work and my home to take care of? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
parkyeols 754 Posted January 4, 2018 Author Share Posted January 4, 2018 Where does this wife find the time? That's what impresses me the most. I was responsible for my brothers (and a cousin) and my father's house for a week, and I did not even have time to get on the internet. Imagine when I have my children, work and my home to take care of? I guess the wife has different priorities? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saint Rose 9,391 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 The husband is right to feel that way. Maybe he needs to remind her that her favorite actor one day will move on in his life, he'll have his wife and his kids and focus on them- while she's missing out on her family and putting a strain on her husband long term. Plus their kids are small, so she needs to realize that they're only that small once and she does not want to be m.i.a in that aspect of their lives. She'll get older and regret not spending time with her children while their small because when they get older they're going to want their own space and become more distant (as a lot of teenagers do). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starlit Night 375 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 With work, husband, and kids, I barely have time watching drama, let alone fangirling. The wife is lucky to have an understanding husband like that but she shouldn't overdo it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkle dust 1,841 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 She needs to grow up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
First Order 1,026 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 Married another one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
parkyeols 754 Posted January 4, 2018 Author Share Posted January 4, 2018 Married another one ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeoksi_xo 844 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 this is heavy.. i wonder if the actor would be able to stop her lol but sasaengs don't even seem to listen to their faves she needs psychological help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestea Iced Tea 2,313 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 How does she have time to do all of that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dead rat 16 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 All of us in 5-10 years tbh really? ;; I'd rather advise you to save your future husband the stress of not getting married to you,please Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinn 1,981 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 really? ;; I'd rather advise you to save your future husband the stress of not getting married to you,please I was being sarcastic but lowkey i still see myself possibly being a fan of my bias years from now. I probably won't like kpop, maybe stop following exo, but I think I'll always have a place for kai in my heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
� redie � 2,849 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 Honestly I would feel so jealous, it's already not right for her to neglect the family to fangirl but I would feel awful if I was a man whose wife spent all her free time following another man, and when you factor in the kids its pretty sad... Once you have children you accept a responsibility to try and be the best parent you can be so she is really being selfish and insensitive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
parkyeols 754 Posted January 4, 2018 Author Share Posted January 4, 2018 Honestly I would feel so jealous, it's already not right for her to neglect the family to fangirl but I would feel awful if I was a man whose wife spent all her free time following another man, and when you factor in the kids its pretty sad... Once you have children you accept a responsibility to try and be the best parent you can be so she is really being selfish and insensitive. jealous of? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wookookie 1,038 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 Hope she wakes up before the kids grow up. Once they grow up, she will never manage to fix her relationship with them. The time she didn't spend with them will never come back. I feel bad for the husband but I feel really bad for the kids. When you're young, your parents are your whole world, if they're not there, you can grow with a resentment that will be hard to overcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caridee 5,322 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 She is embarrassing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Serechan 1,482 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 She needs to tone it down. She doesn't have to completely give up on being a fan (okay to watch his dramas) but she can't be following him around. That over top even if she was single. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeachyKeys! 599 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 All of us in 5-10 years tbhI only ask that you don't curse me in this year of 2018. But yeah, im glad she agreed to tone it down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
youtrieditduh 4,575 Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 she need to get herself together, she needs to spend time with her kids and husband before she regrets . her kids will probably ignore her in the future when she's old Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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