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I should have probably posted this on the support thread instead of here but I just wanted to ask that.

 

Just in case some of you don't know, I am big SHINee fan, especially a big key and jonghyun fan, they're my second fave group of the sm and one of the first groups that got me into Kpop after bigbang.

I feel guilty and I feel I could have done so much more, even though I know it's not my fault and I understand that when you have depression (I do have it) sometimes words aren't enough and it's something extremely complex that won't just go away, regardless of that I still feel some sort of guilt, even though I was up to date with his solo releases , I feel like I neglected him a little, I wish I could have tweeted him I love you more, I wish I wouldn't have missed his last ig live, I wish I could have commented on all his ig pics with support words, I did all of that but I feel like I could have done so much more, if I could turn back time I would have done this, now I feel regretful because jonghyun is gone and this guilt is here, I love you jonghyun, I am sorry I took you for granted, maybe I didn't deserve you, sorry I wasn't the best fan, sorry you were feeling this way, it won't compensate but I promise you that I will check up on your members a lot more, it won't bring you back but it's the least I can do, I will love you until forever and maybe a little more after that.

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it is completely normal to be feeling guilt

 

you should know that it is completely not your fault though. it's likely that there is not much you personally could have done, unfortunately. jonghyun knew he was loved by people all over the world. but he didn't love himself, and unfortunately that's all it takes.

 

that being said, it's okay to feel guilty, it's completely normal. but try not to let the guilt consume you; just keep supporting your artists and keep trying as best you can to live your life, and hopefully with time, the feelings of guilt will ebb away

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Yes, I do. I feel like I should've supported him more and gave him more love (along with the rest of SHINee). It makes me feel like a failure :(

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I'd say it's normal but not because you really were in guilt but because people tend to understand how precious their loved ones are when they lost them the most. I still tell myself that I should had been a better grand daughter and show my love to my grandparents when they were still alive but I sometimes treat like shit to my parents but I'll regret it when they're gone :( But I had reasons to be not the best grand daughter back then (such as I was a good student focused on her studies and didn't have time to visit them etc). I'm sure you also have these kind of reasons (being a multifandom for ex.) so it's normal yet, in fact, you were not in guilt.

I hope this made sense.

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There is nothing much fans could do in the endohdearplz.png

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