Gloupsidou 2,047 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 After taking a personality test like the one in here http://onehallyu.com/index.php?/topic/62350-i-took-up-16personalities-test-and-the-result-was/ and finding out your type, do you believe the relationship description fits you? Mines: ENTP: People with the ENTP personality type tend to be very spontaneous, and they often seek dating partners who complement that trait. Their ideal relationship includes looking for new things that both partners could experience together. This means that the ENTP’s partner should have similar priorities and intellectual capacity. The ENTP will do their best to push the boundaries and traditions in any romantic relationship, even during the early dating phase. (They often test their potential partners to see how open-minded and spontaneous they are.) That being said, the unwavering enthusiasm of the ENTP is likely to be very beneficial in the relationship, both strengthening and deepening it. ENTPs constantly challenge both themselves and those around them, always looking for new ideas and ways to improve their understanding of the world. This is evident in their romantic relationships as well. Even when they are still looking for a dating partner, ENTPs think about how they would be able to develop and grow together with that person. Such a relentless pursuit of growth can be taxing, but it also strengthens the relationship considerably. ENTP personalities would keep trying to surprise their partners in a pleasant way, keep finding new aspects to improve, keep looking for innovative ways to connect with those close to them, etc. Dating an ENTP or living with them is never boring. Some personality types might get a bit tired of this constant pursuit of growth after a while, but if they do not, the flame of their relationship will always burn brightly. This trait is especially evident in intimate situations. ENTP personalities tend to be very curious and enthusiastic sexual partners, keen to seek exploration and development in this area. ENTPs are likely to encourage their partners to try new things and enjoy intimate situations without limiting themselves in any way. Such traits make ENTPs very attractive dating partners—once the relationship moves into that stage. However, it is unlikely that the ENTP will define intimacy in emotional terms; they tend to see sexual acts from the physical rather than spiritual perspective. ENTPs know how to direct their enormous enthusiasm and genuine desire to improve things into further refinement and development of the romantic relationship. However, ENTPs should take care not to overlook their partner’s feelings and also avoid excessive immersion in new non-romantic ideas or opportunities. While that sincere excitement can certainly be very attractive, the never-ending stream of ideas pouring from the ENTP’s mind would eventually frustrate even the most patient dating partner. Preferred partners: INTJ and INFJ types, as their Introversion (I) and Judging (J) traits counterbalance ENTPs’ Extraversion (E) and Prospecting (P) traits. All those are true. 99% I look for an introverted partner and wanna do lotssssssss of activities. ESTP: ESTP personalities tend to be enthusiastic, often unpredictable individuals who know how to enjoy the present moment and have fun regardless of what they are doing; this applies to their relationships as well. People with this personality type are very good at improvisation, and this trait is usually clearly visible, especially when the ESTP is still dating. Whatever happens, their partners will never be able to complain that the relationship was boring. ESTPs enjoy practical, fun activities and encourage their partners to explore them as well. It is very unlikely that someone with this personality type will enjoy long conversations revolving around philosophical topics; rather, they will come up with yet another little hobby or an interesting idea. However, the ESTPs’ need to feel excited can also endanger the stability of their relationships. If someone with the ESTP personality type gets bored, they will naturally seek other sources of excitement, and this may result in them looking for a new partner. As ESTPs also tend to be very charming and popular, this is rarely a daunting task for them. This does not mean that all ESTPs are unfaithful in romantic relationships. While they are more likely to engage in risky behavior than most other personality types, they are also rational thinkers and are able to control those urges if they choose to. Besides the thirst for excitement that ESTPs are known for, people with this personality type also dislike long-term planning and prefer dealing with things as they come, taking everything day by day. This attitude permeates their relationships as well. ESTPs simply reevaluate their commitments on a daily basis and adjust their behavior accordingly. From the sexual perspective, ESTPs simply like to have fun and enjoy the bond with their partner from the physical perspective. People with this personality type also tend to be very sensual and willing to experiment. They usually find it easy to separate sex and love, which can also cause some tension in the relationship. Many other personality types see intimacy as one of the best ways to express their love, expecting their partners to verbalize their feelings or at least express them in a non-verbal way in such situations. In contrast, ESTPs tend to approach intimacy from the purely physical perspective. ESTP personalities are very perceptive, able to notice even the slightest change in their partner’s mood or behavior. Even though they are not very sensitive or emotional, that impressive perceptiveness makes it easier for ESTPs to recognize their partner’s needs and desires. And, as already mentioned above, an ESTP will always know how to surprise their partner. Their unpredictability and curiosity will always keep the flame of the relationship burning—as long as the ESTP is willing to put in the effort. Preferred partners: ISTJ and ISFJ types, as their Introversion (I) and Judging (J) traits counterbalance ESTPs’ Extraversion (E) and Prospecting (P) traits. Another interesting website is this one https://www.personalitypage.com/html/relationships.html Lists quickly the main points. ENTP: Typically good-natured, upbeat and laid-back, ENTPs can be delightful people to be around. They get a lot of enjoyment and satisfaction from interacting with others, and especially enjoy discussing and debating theories and concepts which interest them. They may be prone to initiate arguments because they so enjoy the debate. They are generally fun-loving and gregarious, and can be quite charming. They have a problem with sometimes neglecting their close relationships when they become involved in the pursuit of a new idea or plan. ENTP Strengths Enthusiastic, upbeat, and popular Can be very charming Excellent communication skills Extremely interested in self-improvement and growth in their relationships Laid-back and flexible, usually easy to get along with Big idea-people, always working on a grand scheme or idea Usually good at making money, although not so good at managing it Take their commitments and relationships very seriously Able to move on with their lives after leaving a relationship ENTP Weaknesses Always excited by anything new, they may change partners frequently Tendency to not follow through on their plans and ideas Their love of debate may cause them to provoke arguments Big risk-takers and big spenders, not usually good at managing money Although they take their commitments seriously, they tend to abandon their relationships which no longer offer opportunity for growth ENTPs as Lovers "To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May ENTP's goals for their intimate relationships are similar to their other personal goals: improvement and growth. They constantly ask themselves questions such as: How can the relationship be improved? Where is the relationship headed? Am I growing in the relationship? They are likely to enthusiastically embrace new ideas and projects for themselves and their mates which they feel will propel them along their goal for growth and knowledge discovery. The ENTP's general enthusiasiam and good intentions are usually quite positive and healthful in a relationship. A problem area for ENTP's is their tendency to not follow through on their schemes. This can be frustrating to their mates. It may also create a "boy who called wolf" syndrome in their relationships, with their partner never believing that the ENTP will actually do what they say they'll do. Another potential problem area is the ENTP's general tendency towards "wildness" and willingness to take risks. They may lead the family into uncomfortable financial situations, which can be quite stressful on intimate relationships. Sexually, the ENTP is enthusiastic and interested in positive, constant growth for both partners. They're likely to be very attentive, involved, and questioning. They enjoy spontaneity rather than fixed schedules, and fully embrace new ideas and adventures. They're likely to approach intimacy as more of a physical act which conveys affection, rather than as an opportunity to explicitly express affection. In general, ENTP's childlike enthusiasm and genuine interest in the health and direction of the relationship makes them willing and able to promote healthy, growing relationships with their significant others. They need to watch out for their tendency to be unaware of what others are feeling, and to inadvertantly neglect their relationships when faced with exciting possibilities that are external to their personal life. ESTP ESTPs are gregarious and fun-loving individuals who want to make the most of every moment. They love action, and always seem to be doing something. This enthusiasm is carried over to their personal relationships, which they approach with the desire to make the most of their relationships on a daily basis. They tend to get bored easily, and may be prone to switching relationships frequently unless they find an outlet for their boredom elsewhere. They approach life on a day-by-day basis, so long-term commitments are not naturally comfortable for the ESTP. They may feel tremendously committed, but they want to take their commitments day by day. ESTP Strengths Can be quite charming Witty, clever, and popular Earthy and sensual Not personally threatened by conflict or criticism Excellent and clear-headed dealing with emergency situations Enthusiastic and fun-loving, they try to make everything enjoyable As "big kids" themselves, they're eager, willing and able to spend time with their kids Likely to enjoy lavishing their loved ones with big gifts (both a strength and a weakness) ESTP Weaknesses Not naturally in tune with what others are feeling Not naturally good at expressing feelings and emotions May inadvertantly hurt others with insensitive language May be very good with money, but highly risky with it as well Living in the present, they're not usually good long-range planners May fall into the habit of ignoring conflict, rather than solving it Don't naturally make lifelong commitments - they take things one day at a time Prone to get bored easily More likely than other type to leave relationships quickly when they get bored Likely to enjoy lavishing their loved ones with big gifts (both a strength and a weakness) ESTPs as Lovers "To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May ESTPs are enthusiastic and friendly people who approach everything in a Big way. They can be extremely charming, especially in the beginning of a relationship. They're also quite generous, and known for "sweeping their partners off their feet". They're very sensual and earthy, and are usually live fast-paced lives where their focus is on the present moment. They bring a lot of fun and energy into their personal relationships. Commitment is not a strong point for the ESTP. Living almost entirely in the present moment, they're not comfortable with making plans far in advance for their future. If this tendency is not addressed in the ESTP, they may fall into a pattern of jumping from relationship to relationship without ever making a real commitment. If this is okay with the ESTP, then that behavior is fine. Most people at some point in their lives do wish to settle down. If the ESTP reaches that point, there's no reason they can't make a commitment as long as they consciously renew it to themselves daily. Sexually, the ESTP approaches intimacy as a tangible, fun way to make the most of the relationship in the present moment. They're keenly aware of their senses, and so are very sensual and earthy lovers. They are likely to view intimacy from a lighter, physical perspective rather than as an opportunity for expressing a lot of verbal affection and affirmation. If partnered with someone who has the Feeling preference, they should consciously make the effort to sometimes verbally express affection during intimacy. ESTP's are not naturally in tune with what others are feeling, and may lack in the areas of giving affirmation, gratitude, and support to their partners. They tend to believe that actions speak louder than words, and so don't understand the need to say things which should be obvious. Types with the Feeling preference require positive feedback in a way that ESTPs don't. The best gift that the ESTP partner can give to their Feeling mate is often the expression of their love. 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maryan 11,519 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 i took the actual MBTI exam last month and got ESFJ which fit me fairly well. but where do you get the r/ship part from? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haus of Tzu:Lai 5,450 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 I'm ESTJ so apparently my preferred partners should be: ISFP and ISTP types, as their Introversion (I) and Prospecting (P) traits counterbalance ESTJs’ Extraversion (E) and Judging (J) traits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupsidou 2,047 Posted April 15, 2014 Author Share Posted April 15, 2014 i took the actual MBTI exam last month and got ESFJ which fit me fairly well. but where do you get the r/ship part from? http://www.16personalities.com/esfj-relationships-dating Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
duhleenuh 485 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 I basically stalk anything relating to MBTI so here I am Even though romantic relationships and dating are inherently difficult for INTPs, people with this personality type take them very seriously. The main problem that INTPs are likely to face in this area is that they are not naturally sensitive or emotional individuals. Consequently, understanding another person’s feelings or expressing their own is not something that an INTP is well equipped to do. Furthermore, INTPs strongly dislike being at the centre of emotionally charged situations. As interpersonal conflicts are virtually inevitable even in the happiest romantic relationships, INTPs may find those situations quite frustrating and consequently try to avoid or ignore emotional conflicts in their relationship, especially during the dating phase. If there is no escape, the INTP will try to find a solution but will likely rely on the analytical approach, which can be very different from what their partner [especially if they belong to one of the Feeling (F) personality types] might expect. INTP personalities should try to include this in their thought process, especially when it comes to dealing with conflicts in the earlier stages of the relationship. These weaknesses aside, INTP personalities tend to be very loyal and faithful partners. INTPs are also unusually direct and honest, even if they have just started dating someone. People with this personality type always stick to their commitments and are actually quite easy to date and live with—they have simple daily needs and do not demand much from their partners. However, despite seeking simplicity in dating and romantic relationships, INTPs do not lack passion or romantic feelings. On the contrary, people with the INTP personality type tend to be extremely creative individuals whose vivid imagination allows them to always remain very enthusiastic and passionate in romantic relationships. Anyone dating an INTP may be quite surprised by this sometimes. INTPs’ simple daily needs are completely opposite their inner world, which is bound to be very complex and colourful. However, there is a certain logic behind this: INTPs purposefully seek simplicity in the “real†life so that they can focus all their mental power on the inner world. People with the INTP personality type are likely to use their rich imaginations to achieve as much as possible in intimate situations. While their enthusiasm can be very impressive, INTPs should be aware of their tendency to prioritize the inner world. It is entirely possible that an INTP will imagine an intimate situation in a very exciting and interesting way but will choose not to reveal that to their dating or long-term partner. Another potential issue that someone with the INTP personality type should try to resolve is their tendency to overlook their partner’s emotional needs. As already mentioned above, INTPs are not naturally sensitive or emotional, but their partner might have a very different personality. It is important for an INTP to try to understand their feelings and communicate on the emotional level, instead of simply relying on commitment and dedication and believing that this is all that is needed. Of course, their partner should also be aware of INTP personality traits and quirks, and try not to demand a constant flow of emotions from the INTP. Preferred partners: ENTJ and ENFJ types, as their Extraversion (E) and Judging (J) traits counterbalance INTPs’ Introversion (I) and Prospecting (P) traits. I think that the "oblivious to emotions" part could have applied to me maybe five years or so ago, but I feel like I've developed that side of me over the years and I feel more in-tune with people's emotions. However, I really can't do people who are too emotionally needy and I intentionally start ignoring emotional and social cues. And I've been attracted to a couple ENFJ's, so I know that part to be somewhat true. The only thing is that unless if you're considered valuable in their eyes, they can be a bit patronizing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fgt 1,210 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 I am ISTJ, close enough to what you're looking for http://www.16personalities.com/istj-relationships-dating I agree with 1/2 of it about me, but I completely disagree with this: Preferred partners: ESFP and ESTP types, as their Extraversion (E) and Prospecting (P) traits counterbalance ISTJs’ Introversion (I) and Judging (J) traits. extroverts? dating them? no thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanityless 327 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 Apparently I'm an ESFP and should date introverts. Hmm... I really don't mind what kind of people I date, as long as they're nice and respectful, but I've never pictured myself with an introvert, more like the opposite. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shimjoohyun 1,137 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 an INFP,and the relationship descriptions are almost 100% accurate for me Recommended partners: ENFJ and ENTJ types, as their Extraversion (E) and Judging (J) traits counterbalance INFPs’ Introversion (I) and Prospecting (P) traits. representing 2 and 3% of populations....my chances for mr.perfect are low Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oompa loompa 1,921 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 ISFPs are realistic, well-grounded relationship partners, willing to spend a lot of time and effort making sure that their significant other is cared for and feels special. People with this personality type have excellent listening skills and are, generally, very interested in knowing how their partner feels. Logic, rationality, and strategic planning are not their strongest suits, and most ISFPs are more than happy to let their partner take the lead in those areas. However, they are perfectly capable of holding up their end of the relationship, especially when it comes to emotional matters. Recommended partners: ESFJ and ESTJ types, as their Extraversion (E) and Judging (J) traits counterbalance ISFPs’ Introversion (I) and Prospecting (P) traits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Salty Pretzel 942 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 I'm an INTJ and it says I should date ENFP or ENTP. Yasss @ ENFP tho. I think a lot of the folks i've had a thing for fit this category. 7% of the population apparently falls under ENFP .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guitargeekette 5,960 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 I am ISTJ, close enough to what you're looking for http://www.16personalities.com/istj-relationships-dating I agree with 1/2 of it about me, but I completely disagree with this: Preferred partners: ESFP and ESTP types, as their Extraversion (E) and Prospecting (P) traits counterbalance ISTJs’ Introversion (I) and Judging (J) traits. extroverts? dating them? no thanks precisely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
denalichen 403 Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 INFP. says I should date ENFJ and ENTJ type. I sometimes feel I need someone who will help me come out of my shell, but I don't know what I'd do with a very energetic partner, I think they would wear me out! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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