enchante 4,542 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 I know a lot of people feel guilty right now, whether it is for the fact they think they could have done more or that they themselves have said malicious things about idols in those past For those who think they could have done more - I commend you guys, your hearts are so full of love and so empathetic. But you can't save everyone, you loved Jonghyun and supported him, you did all you could do. Please remember the good things now, Jonghyun wouldn't want you blaming yourselves. For those who have bashed idols - Forgiveness is a really big step to take and I genuinely hope you guys get there, today was a very rude awakening for a lot of people and I am so proud of you guys. It takes so much bravery to openly admit you were wrong. I have all the love in my heart for you guys and if you need to talk please come to me. If anybody at all needs to talk I always have an ear open Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pirine 4,209 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 I just feel so awful that there's nothing I could have done. He helped his fans so much, but there was nothing we could do in return. I just heel so hopeless now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Auri 1,964 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 I honestly hope that what happened won't be forgotten and we all try to be better after such a big wake up call. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 Thank you for this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anki_tao 11,208 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 i feel...like a hypocrite. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enchante 4,542 Posted December 18, 2017 Author Share Posted December 18, 2017 I just feel so awful that there's nothing I could have done. He helped his fans so much, but there was nothing we could do in return. I just heel so hopeless now. Jonghyun wouldn't want you to blame yourself, you loved him and supported him. In the end it was his decision to go, but we can't hold that against him or be angry. I honestly hope that what happened won't be forgotten and we all try to be better after such a big wake up call. Me too, I hope we all come away from this incident a little kinder, it isn't the first time an idol has taken their life due to online pressure but i'm hoping it will be one of the last. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
breadbutter 2,550 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 I watched them debut. Instead of supporting them, I said negative things. They're an amazing group, and Jonghyun was an amazing member. His music is great, and I rewatch their Happy Together, Weekly Idol and KB episodes for him when I study. I really wish I'd been more respectful to them. I'll do better from now on. Thank you for your kind words! I hope Shawols can't get through this. I also hope his family is OK. His poor sister... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enchante 4,542 Posted December 18, 2017 Author Share Posted December 18, 2017 i feel...like a hypocrite. We've all done things we regret, recognizing that is the first step. The world isn't perfect and recovery isn't linear but hating yourself won't get you anywhere, what's done is done, the best you can do now is change for the better. I watched them debut. Instead of supporting them, I said negative things. They're an amazing group, and Jonghyun was an amazing member. His music is great, and I rewatch their Happy Together, Weekly Idol and KB episodes for him when I study. I really wish I'd been more respectful to them. I'll do better from now on. Thank you for your kind words! I hope Shawols can't get through this. I also hope his family is OK. His poor sister... I'm really happy to hear that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Habu Mizuho 76 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 I feel so sorry and I want to become a better person now... Thank you for this message. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belkiss 22,803 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 I am not saying that I was evil cz bashing idols was a big no no for me since the beginning but I am not a saint either cz I am pretty sure that in one of my arguments with some users here, I made some feel upset, sad or even angry I am so sorry to anyone who somehow got offended from my words I am sorry if that happened to anyone here I am sorry and I love you all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enchante 4,542 Posted December 18, 2017 Author Share Posted December 18, 2017 I feel so sorry and I want to become a better person now... Thank you for this message. It's okay to feel sorry, actively speak love into peoples lives and you'll find it's far more rewarding than negatviity I am not saying that I was evil cz bashing idols was a big no no for me since the beginning but I am not a saint either cz I am pretty sure that in one of my arguments with some users here, I made some feel upset, sad or even angry I am so sorry to anyone who somehow got offended from my words I am sorry if that happened to anyone here I am sorry and I love you all I really commend you for this, it takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anki_tao 11,208 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 We've all done things we regret, recognizing that is the first step. The world isn't perfect and recovery isn't linear but hating yourself won't get you anywhere, what's done is done, the best you can do now is change for the better. no...its not because i bashed him .. i didnt ever. its because...i didnt know him. personally... he doesnt affect my life directly... yet i am making posts abput how sad i am...what do I..... a mere stranger have to say about what a "loss" he was..... is this real grief? i feel like i am disrespecting his life and death and making this about myself.... and how sad I am. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Passerine 2,018 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 you know I never fight in real life.. but sometimes I fight with people online who bash idols.. I know my faves are not saint ,they did mistakes .but they are the persons who helped me fighting my own depression, so I feel so angry when I see some users in this forum say horrible things to them like rapist,pedophile,murderer without even thinking the weight of their words,,, as a fan I know some of the members are suffering from depression and went through horrible experiences...some even thought about suicide. so I just beg you if you don't like them just avoid them.. they are also human.. I am sorry, I just wanted to say this... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enchante 4,542 Posted December 18, 2017 Author Share Posted December 18, 2017 no...its not because i bashed him .. i didnt ever. its because...i didnt know him. personally... he doesnt affect my life directly... yet i am making posts abput how sad i am...what do I..... a mere stranger have to say about what a "loss" he was..... is this real grief? i feel like i am disrespecting his life and death and making this about myself.... and how sad I am. No honey no. Don't say that, you are allowed to grieve. You may have never met him but you supported him, he made your life better and you are allowed to grieve him. You're not making this about yourself by mourning him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anki_tao 11,208 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 No honey no. Don't say that, you are allowed to grieve. You may have never met him but you supported him, he made your life better and you are allowed to grieve him. You're not making this about yourself by mourning him. thanks... but rn I need to come to terms with this myself. sometimes this world is horrible... so horrible.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ego ista 1,344 Posted December 18, 2017 Share Posted December 18, 2017 I just feel bad that I don’t really feel that much towards it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enchante 4,542 Posted December 18, 2017 Author Share Posted December 18, 2017 I just feel bad that I don’t really feel that much towards it People grieve in different ways, you don't have to be devastated to sad for his death and empathetic towards those who knew him more than you. It's okay, don't beat yourself up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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