BigEast 158 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 I'm a male and I'm 24 years old now.Actually I'm a bi but I prefer men mostly. (well %95 ) I wont say this to my family never but should I come out to my friends? They are not homophobic but still I'm not sure. What should I do? Please tell me your opinions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArseneLupin 4,475 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 If you think they arent homophobic go ahead Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krystal Meth 11,336 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 Idk put your happiness first Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuckJohnny 14,775 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 If you think they arent homophobic go ahead And if they are you are better off without them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sungel 181 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 I'm a male and I'm 24 years old now.Actually I'm a bi but I prefer men mostly. (well %95 ) I wont say this to my family never but should I come out to my friends? They are not homophobic but still I'm not sure. What should I do? Please tell me your opinions hmmm well you definitely should come out when you feel ready. And don't let yourself get pressured into it. Take your time. Also, when you decide to come out, make sure it's at the right time and place, and talk about your feelings with them... They'll probably understand this way rather than just saying "I'm gay get over it" or something like that. I'm a 19 year old lesbian and have been out to my family and friends for about 9 months. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holke 2,349 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 Does it matter if you "come out" or not? Sexuality is really just a social construct anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
____shawnee 4,118 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 Only if you feel you need to/want to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fgt 1,210 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 I dunno if that 5% really counts much, harhar. anyway, if you feel comfortable and it's something that is annoying you... go for it. personally, I wouldn't come out unless one, it was driving me insane, or two, I got into a relationship. your friends, especially at your age, will most likely accept it. those who don't? you don't deserve them in your life. even I have homophobic friends. I was so scared that by coming out would lose them, but since they respect and love me so much, they worked their way around. if you're an only child/male, then your parents won't react so well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
김민주 16,324 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 And if they are you are better off without them. This. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PALEMOCHI 3,696 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 only if you feel you're ready Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sakura IS FEARLESS 192 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 Does it matter if you "come out" or not? Sexuality is really just a social construct anyway. ppl come out to be fully themselve....free~~....theyll never fully feels comfortable with ppl around them if they dont imo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlette007 5,232 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 There is no right or wrong answer to your question. I know coming out will always be a process. My biggest concern is in regards to your own comfort and safety. You're at the age where you are becoming independent but still are dependent on family. Will your disclosure impact your personal safety? Also, you mentioned you are ready to tell friends. Do you have a friend in mind you know through experience is open/accepting? If so, that could be a starting place. Just keep in mind that once you start coming out there is a chance whether you want to or not your parents could find out. To have a strong social support is key. But, please just don't listen to me as I am only trying to recall what my friends have told me about their coming out journey. Good luck in whatever you chose to do - do it at your own pace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Come Back Sand Unplugged 1,042 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 When you feel like there's no way out, love is the only way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bitch 1,286 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 most often, like 90% of the time, they know. trust me. might as well come out. but don't feel pressured. i mean, you should do it for yourself, not others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leo's Candy Jelly Ho 3,458 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 If you feel like you can't be yourself in front of your family and friends because they don't know then I think you should tell them so that you can feel like a huge weight got taken off your chest lol besides, you said they aren't homophobes.... You should ask them what they think about homos then give them little hints here and there do a slow transition and then tell them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sitaraMVP 1,107 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 if you feel like its something to share with your friends and youre ready, then by all means, go for it. hope everything will be well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoveYouRight.EXO 159 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 Don't you want to have a kid lol nvm !!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigEast 158 Posted April 14, 2014 Author Share Posted April 14, 2014 My family hates homosexualty. A year ago they were suspicious about it and still asking me "Do you have a girlfirend?" or "We cant wait your marriage, so dont you think you should find a girlfriend?" *sigh* I cant imagine myself like "Hey dad/mom do you know I prefer men more than girls.So yeah I cant marry with a girl" *shivers* About my friends...They are not bad but can it be different when it comes to their own friends? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Exzime. 2,080 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 Sure. If you think it will make you feel free, there shouldn't be any trouble. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Kami_removed Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 no Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Exzime. 2,080 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 But just remember, come out to your friends who you think you can trust. Because believe me, sometimes domino effect will occur. One will tell another and another will tell another. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
denizen mars 5,911 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 if that's what you want to do, then do it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigEast 158 Posted April 14, 2014 Author Share Posted April 14, 2014 You guys are really kind. Thank you so much for replies ! I'm afraid and confused.I'm not ashamed because I dont see anything wrong about my preference Sometimes I feel like I cant take this anymore ,I should tell my friends but then I'm afraid... Oh god I think I'm going crazy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlette007 5,232 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 It isn't an easy decision and it can be frightening. Are there any gay & lesbian support groups/meetings/socials you can go to for support, guidance, and concerns? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oompa loompa 1,921 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 Just follow your heart Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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