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Long story short, the person I was dating just told me that he is seeing somebody else and that it is starting to get serious. That person he is seeing happens to be one of my closest friends, who I confided everything to and who even knew I was dating him and still chose to go behind my back and talk to him. I just feel so heart broken, I feel like my world is crumbling, I invested so much time and effort into this. I feel so depressed. Please help me feel better.

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wow i am sorry you have to deal with that. cut those snakes out of your life. there are other people out there for you, even if it hurts now. focus on yourself and don't let this beat you down.. <3 stay strong dear. it's okay to cry it out too... if you need someone to talk to you can always pm me. it can be tough dealing with someone romantically and being let down

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let him know you don't need him and find another guy to make him jealous. Let's see which one he will choose between you and her. Well at least that's what I would do tho

 

I should have stated, we are all gay men, but thank you very much. I wish it were that easy, my luck in the "love" department is pretty much non-existent. This was my first guy I had dated seriously since 2015.

 

 

Thanks so much! I'll post my sad pathetic lover story there too.

 

sorry to hear that :/ but you can do so much better (seriously). if he can't see the good in you then he isn't worth it.

 

idk how to make you feel better? do you want a spam of something? 

 

Thank you so much, just that alone makes me feel a little better. A spam of K-Pop girls slaying the stage seductively, K-Pop girls being dorky and making "ugly faces," K-Pop boys being cute and adorable to each other and K-Pop boys ripping their shirts off would be the perfect spam though.

 

wow i am sorry you have to deal with that. cut those snakes out of your life. there are other people out there for you, even if it hurts now. focus on yourself and don't let this beat you down.. <3 stay strong dear. it's okay to cry it out too... if you need someone to talk to you can always pm me. it can be tough dealing with someone romantically and being let down

 

I really should. What makes it even worse is that he (the guy I was dating) said he still wanted to talk to me as a friend and still wanted to go with me to the anime convention next spring (we were supposed to go as him as Link and me as Sheik so it was a couple kind of thing) and he even said that he hopes i don't play the victim when I shouldn't be, well I am not playing anything when I AM THE FREAKING victim! I will surely pm you if I need more words, I cannot even begin to describe how much my heart hurts I feel like dying

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I should have stated, we are all gay men, but thank you very much. I wish it were that easy, my luck in the "love" department is pretty much non-existent. This was my first guy I had dated seriously since 2015.

 

 

Thanks so much! I'll post my sad pathetic lover story there too.

 

 

Thank you so much, just that alone makes me feel a little better. A spam of K-Pop girls slaying the stage seductively, K-Pop girls being dorky and making "ugly faces," K-Pop boys being cute and adorable to each other and K-Pop boys ripping their shirts off would be the perfect spam though.

 

 

I really should. What makes it even worse is that he (the guy I was dating) said he still wanted to talk to me as a friend and still wanted to go with me to the anime convention next spring (we were supposed to go as him as Link and me as Sheik so it was a couple kind of thing) and he even said that he hopes i don't play the victim when I shouldn't be, well I am not playing anything when I AM THE FREAKING victim! I will surely pm you if I need more words, I cannot even begin to describe how much my heart hurts I feel like dying

 

awww warstarplz.png  that's horrible

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i hope you start to feel better soon hun! yeah you are definitely the one that has been wronged >:[ i know it may be hard but i don't think you should give him that satisfaction thinking he can just be your friend and you're supposed to just be cool with all of that. some people are real jerks when it comes to dating and think they can just step on anyone's feelings. you seem like a super sweet guy and i'm sure you will find someone who will respect you and treat you nicely. maybe things weren't meant to be. you should still go to the convention, but with someone else. maybe in the meantime you should do things to try to keep your mind off it for some time (i know its impossible to completely forget about it) ... & wow @ your "friend" ohpressor.png yes pm me anytime <3

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CUT THAT SNAKE OFF SHE AINT A FRIEND SHE A FRAUD

 

Exactly. I deleted him off of Facebook and he wanted to know why...

 

awww warstarplz.png  that's horrible

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i hope you start to feel better soon hun! yeah you are definitely the one that has been wronged >:[ i know it may be hard but i don't think you should give him that satisfaction thinking he can just be your friend and you're supposed to just be cool with all of that. some people are real jerks when it comes to dating and think they can just step on anyone's feelings. you seem like a super sweet guy and i'm sure you will find someone who will respect you and treat you nicely. maybe things weren't meant to be. you should still go to the convention, but with someone else. maybe in the meantime you should do things to try to keep your mind off it for some time (i know its impossible to completely forget about it) ... & wow @ your "friend" ohpressor.png yes pm me anytime <3

 

How in the world would anyone think this would be ok? I am completely devastated. I wasted six months of my time and effort on this dude and he thinks being "just friends" is going to be that easy? I just think he wants validation to make himself feel better, sorry but no, you hurt me, you deserve to feel bad for what you did. Thank you so much you have been so helpful.

 

i don't really know any good fan cams rlytearpls.png  how about my favorite Japanese pranks?

 

 

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BO9XQlNYrwY

 

Not going to lie, as depressed as I am. This has made me laugh immensely. Thank you so much.

 

Some friend lmao. You dun need any of them, you have other friends and other hot guys lol. Now you just need to confront your ex friend and cuss them out lol.

 

I deleted him off of Facebook and he messaged me "Wait. Why are we not friends on Facebook? What happened?" and I responded, "You know what happened Chris, don't play stupid." To which he said, "Mitsu, I never meant to hurt you, please talk to me." And I replied, "Go talk to your new boy that you decided to take away from me, don't waste my time anymore." And I blocked him on my phone and on Facebook. He has been asking our mutual friends to ask me to call him or talk to him but they are all on my side saying he was in the wrong and that don't get them involved in the mess he created.

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Exactly. I deleted him off of Facebook and he wanted to know why...

 

 

How in the world would anyone think this would be ok? I am completely devastated. I wasted six months of my time and effort on this dude and he thinks being "just friends" is going to be that easy? I just think he wants validation to make himself feel better, sorry but no, you hurt me, you deserve to feel bad for what you did. Thank you so much you have been so helpful.

 

 

Not going to lie, as depressed as I am. This has made me laugh immensely. Thank you so much.

 

 

I deleted him off of Facebook and he messaged me "Wait. Why are we not friends on Facebook? What happened?" and I responded, "You know what happened Chris, don't play stupid." To which he said, "Mitsu, I never meant to hurt you, please talk to me." And I replied, "Go talk to your new boy that you decided to take away from me, don't waste my time anymore." And I blocked him on my phone and on Facebook. He has been asking our mutual friends to ask me to call him or talk to him but they are all on my side saying he was in the wrong and that don't get them involved in the mess he created.

Ohhhhh you’re savage lmfao. Good thing your other friends are being true friends and not taking that fboi’s side. What’s he think he gonna do anyways? Keep both you and your friend as fuckbuddies? Have a threesome? I’m crying lol.

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Ohhhhh you’re savage lmfao. Good thing your other friends are being true friends and not taking that fboi’s side. What’s he think he gonna do anyways? Keep both you and your friend as fuckbuddies? Have a threesome? I’m crying lol.

 

I can get pretty savage when it comes to me (or people that I know) being wronged. This is just the beginning of what I am capable of doing. Something tells me that shit is about to hit the fan. I am still super depressed about this because of all the time and effort I put into this, but rest assured while I believe in karma, that girl takes too long to do it so I tend to take matters into my own hands at times and just sit back and watch the shitstorm envelope. *drinks tea*

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I can get pretty savage when it comes to me (or people that I know) being wronged. This is just the beginning of what I am capable of doing. Something tells me that shit is about to hit the fan. I am still super depressed about this because of all the time and effort I put into this, but rest assured while I believe in karma, that girl takes too long to do it so I tend to take matters into my own hands at times and just sit back and watch the shitstorm envelope. *drinks tea*

hurrplz.png hurrplz.pngGood luck, ur "friend" sounds like a real son of a bitch. So does the other dude lol.

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omg the same thing happened to me!! Cut those bitches off. You've given an explanation and that's all they need- if you're willing to be petty I would really go off if they send you any more messages and then block.

 

The hilarious thing for me was for months, my friend knew how much I liked this guy, I even said "isn't he cute?" etc and she would say hmm nah, or no he isn't. but she was a snake and secretly getting close to him and eventually started dating. I didn't know how to react, and it was so awkward bc I worked with both of them (my friend has left to a different city for university tho). I still hate seeing him but he was a serious fuckboy so I got over it. Time will heal you but there's a lot of snakes out there. stay strong. 

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Time to find another guy

 

For some reason, why do scorpio always end up getting hurt? They sit in the sidelines and never truly reveal how they honestly feel

 

I wish finding another guy was that simple, it took me about two years to even find somebody to open my heart up to again and look at what happened when I did. I feel so torn apart. I really have no idea why Scorpios seem to get the worst scenario in terms of the dating world and I am not saying that just for me, but in general, it seems to happen to a lot of Scorpios too. I used to just stay back and never truly show how hurt I was, but this was just too hurtful for me to back down on.

 

omg the same thing happened to me!! Cut those bitches off. You've given an explanation and that's all they need- if you're willing to be petty I would really go off if they send you any more messages and then block.

 

The hilarious thing for me was for months, my friend knew how much I liked this guy, I even said "isn't he cute?" etc and she would say hmm nah, or no he isn't. but she was a snake and secretly getting close to him and eventually started dating. I didn't know how to react, and it was so awkward bc I worked with both of them (my friend has left to a different city for university tho). I still hate seeing him but he was a serious fuckboy so I got over it. Time will heal you but there's a lot of snakes out there. stay strong. 

 

I am sorry to see that this has happened to you as well, I would never wish this kind of feeling and torment on anyone, not even my own enemies. It hurts me so much right now, I honestly cannot even think about anything else. I could barely sleep last night and when I did I just had constant dreams of being abandoned and mocked at, though I vaguely remember what for but I am pretty sure it was for opening my heart up to somebody after years of being afraid to.

 

I honestly feel so terrible, and I have no idea what to do with myself. I came into work to try and get out of bed and not mope around all day but it is harder to be around people. I just want to cry and cry and do nothing else. It doesn't help that so many people in my company are always so cheerful and friendly when I really just feel so down and depressed.

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I am sorry to see that this has happened to you as well, I would never wish this kind of feeling and torment on anyone, not even my own enemies. It hurts me so much right now, I honestly cannot even think about anything else. I could barely sleep last night and when I did I just had constant dreams of being abandoned and mocked at, though I vaguely remember what for but I am pretty sure it was for opening my heart up to somebody after years of being afraid to.

 

I honestly feel so terrible, and I have no idea what to do with myself. I came into work to try and get out of bed and not mope around all day but it is harder to be around people. I just want to cry and cry and do nothing else. It doesn't help that so many people in my company are always so cheerful and friendly when I really just feel so down and depressed.

 

aw thank you. yeah I know...it really does suck. I know the feeling of being mocked when you try to open up to someone, but no one sees you as a mockery- they are the idiots who didn't make anything clear to you and snaked you. It will either play on their conscience, or they won't think anything of the situation at all.

 

It's definitely fine (I'd recommend it tbh) to have some time alone when you're not at work, time to cry, listen to music etc and just get it all out of your system tbh. This shitty feeling will pass, but you need a time to heal. Do you have to see these two on a daily basis? Or is there anyway you can cut them off easily irl as you can online?

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aw thank you. yeah I know...it really does suck. I know the feeling of being mocked when you try to open up to someone, but no one sees you as a mockery- they are the idiots who didn't make anything clear to you and snaked you. It will either play on their conscience, or they won't think anything of the situation at all.

 

It's definitely fine (I'd recommend it tbh) to have some time alone when you're not at work, time to cry, listen to music etc and just get it all out of your system tbh. This shitty feeling will pass, but you need a time to heal. Do you have to see these two on a daily basis? Or is there anyway you can cut them off easily irl as you can online?

 

To cut them out is not as hard as it can be. One of my housemates (who was the one who introduced me to Tuan, the one I was involved with) feels guilty about the whole thing and I have told him that it was not his fault at all. He even yelled at him for doing what he did and said that it was not like him to do this (the both of them have been friends for six years). What makes it worse is Chris (the friend) still managed to reach out to me and said that he was busy at work but would like to explain himself to me and that he is sure I will feel a lot better when I tell him. How? How in the world would you say ANYTHING to make me feel better about what has happened? What makes me so angry is that he said to me, "I know it is hard but please try to stay positive and get through the day." Like how dare you have the audacity to tell me how I should feel when you were one of the two people who caused me to feel what I am feeling?

 

I really cannot even believe that they would think I would take a "pity date" and go as Sheik with him (Tuan) as Link just because it was a promise he made me that he did not want to break. Really? Because you broke my heart so how is this going to make the situation any better? I am going to look so stupid standing next to someone who left me for someone else, while that other person is right there probably happy because he thinks doing this will make him feel better about what he did.

 

Sorry for my sudden burst of anger, not taking it out on you at all. I just feel so shitty right now. I really feel like they think what I am going through is selfish, worthless and unnecessary. They are making it seem like I have no right to feel what I am feeling.

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Oh wow your bf/gf is cheating on you and your friend is a fake (NEVER steal your friends partners should be common sense for any decent human being)

 

Dump them both they will only hurt you, there's more (and better) fish in the sea

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Oh wow your bf/gf is cheating on you and your friend is a fake (NEVER steal your friends partners should be common sense for any decent human being)

 

Dump them both they will only hurt you, there's more (and better) fish in the sea

 

I have been explaining to them time and time again that what they did was wrong but they chose to make it seem like I am exaggerating and that the are not the ones that should be blamed.

 

UPDATE: So Chris (my friend) told me that he feels as we (Tuan and I) did not have any connection when he was around the two of us, so he thought that him and I were not "together" even when A) I told him that we were and he knew we were and B) Regardless whether he thought we did not have a connection or not is none of his business.

 

I was so completely angry about him saying all this and telling me that I should not push somebody away that cares about me (really? A person who steals somebody I was involved who is supposed to be a friend really cares about me?) and to top it all off not once did either of them even apologize for what they did to me, at all. Nothing. I told him, "You know what? You are not the person I thought you were. I thought you were the type of person to NEVER do what you did to me, EVER, in a MILLION years. I was so wrong. You are just like the rest of the men I meet, disgusting, selfish and dumbass pricks who only think about themselves and nobody else. The fact that you both are sitting behind your computers TRYING to validate yourselves in this situation and making ME look like I am the one over-exaggerating and being unreasonable is sure sign of how completely awful you two are as human beings. Maybe you are meant for each other. Not ONCE did EITHER of you THINK to say that you're sorry about this. AT ALL! Not that it would matter because people like you would never think you're in the wrong. Fuck you Chris. Go to hell. I hope you're happy with your decision. You might have gained a fuckboy as your new "companion" but you lost one of the greatest friends you would have ever had. Goodbye."

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