YNRA 1,082 Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 i have 3 of them, and 1 of them is cool and cleans after themselves one of them i really dislike and shes dirty one of them i literally have no idea how she is because we never see eachother but anyways, heres the issue: im the only one who ever takes out the trash and its pissing me off because i left for over a week and just came back and no ones taken the trash out for that entire time (since like 2 weeks) the trash and recycling are both overflowing, mostly with alcohol bottles because 2 of them drink so much. my parents get upset everytime they come over, and theyre coming over tonight to bring me home for the fall break, so i bite my tongue and i take out the recycling but i leave the trash out near the door and tie it up so someone else will hopefully take it out (doesnt seem anyone is home) the roomate i share the bathroom with is the dirty one, and she only ever took the trash out once because i pestered her about it for weeks. I also had to make her clean one part of the bathroom while i cleaned the others because im no one's maid. but what really makes me super angry is that a few months ago someone fucked up the microwave. they put like something with tomato sauce in there and it exploded everywhere. i sent a text out immediately and confronted a few of them about it saying whoever made the mess needs to clean it up. its been literally 2 or 3 months and none of these bitches cleaned it up so i just cleaned it because its so disgusting imo what should I do?? ive been trying to move out but i signed a 1 yr contract and the school wont let me break it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Villanelle 585 Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 the first thing you have to do when living with people is set up cleaning schedules Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zroi 87 Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 Yeah I agree, set up cleaning schedules. ....but seriously, not throwing the trash out for 2 weeks? The dirty microwave D: Do people not enjoy have nice clean living environments? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nanandmilk 836 Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 Make taking the trash out your thing and only chore... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YNRA 1,082 Posted November 17, 2017 Author Share Posted November 17, 2017 Make taking the trash out your thing and only chore... if i did that nothing else would ever get done Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nanandmilk 836 Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 if i did that nothing else would ever get done A mess team up with your clean roomate to confront them. That's disgusting... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheese_it 8,304 Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 Can you speak to a residence advisor? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pearlywearly 198 Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 ok ya'll are being too nice, I would hide the trash under their beds dafuq Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mitsuhoney 1,231 Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 i have 3 of them, and 1 of them is cool and cleans after themselves one of them i really dislike and shes dirty one of them i literally have no idea how she is because we never see eachother but anyways, heres the issue: im the only one who ever takes out the trash and its pissing me off because i left for over a week and just came back and no ones taken the trash out for that entire time (since like 2 weeks) the trash and recycling are both overflowing, mostly with alcohol bottles because 2 of them drink so much. my parents get upset everytime they come over, and theyre coming over tonight to bring me home for the fall break, so i bite my tongue and i take out the recycling but i leave the trash out near the door and tie it up so someone else will hopefully take it out (doesnt seem anyone is home) the roomate i share the bathroom with is the dirty one, and she only ever took the trash out once because i pestered her about it for weeks. I also had to make her clean one part of the bathroom while i cleaned the others because im no one's maid. but what really makes me super angry is that a few months ago someone fucked up the microwave. they put like something with tomato sauce in there and it exploded everywhere. i sent a text out immediately and confronted a few of them about it saying whoever made the mess needs to clean it up. its been literally 2 or 3 months and none of these bitches cleaned it up so i just cleaned it because its so disgusting imo what should I do?? ive been trying to move out but i signed a 1 yr contract and the school wont let me break it I have been in your situation more than enough times sadly. I am OCD (and it seems to get worse the older I get) so I can completely understand your predicament. I honestly was in the same position that you're in right now and what I did was tell both of them (it was just the two of them) that we need to sit down and have a roommate discussion. Bring these topics up and tell everyone that since this is their house, that they need to pitch in to keep this house clean. They are no longer living with parents and they need to start being responsible, they should not expect you to have to clean up after them every time and the thing that sucks is that you feel you have to since they are never going to or take too long to. Honestly, tell them that it is really not fair that you are constantly cleaning up after their mess (wash dishes, mop or vacuum, take out the trash, etc.) and collaborate with them on things that each roommate is assigned to do. I almost did everything for my housemates (even including washing the million of dishes that just keep piling up because they love to use so much within a day) and I finally told them that since the both of them are home for most of the day (and only ever go into the office on occasion) that they have no reason not to wash dishes, etc. For your predicament, it is different and I suggest you make a schedule of what needs to be done in the house and when. I would even go far as to say the person who cannot hold responsibility for their part in taking care of the house should pay more for rent, but that is just how I work being the hard ass I can be. Maybe make a schedule like: Jessica does dishes on Tue. and Thu. Tiffany does dishes on Mon. and Wed. Vacuum and/or mop the house once a week which can go on a rotation; throw away garbage on Tuesday and Thursday (or when full) if you see it reach a certain limit (to like where it will overflow) it is your responsibility to clean it up. Nobody else should have to do that shit for you. Sorry for my random spurts of anger, I am just really sympathizing with you because I know how you must be feeling it can be so damn aggravating how people are so disgusting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YNRA 1,082 Posted November 17, 2017 Author Share Posted November 17, 2017 I have been in your situation more than enough times sadly. I am OCD (and it seems to get worse the older I get) so I can completely understand your predicament. I honestly was in the same position that you're in right now and what I did was tell both of them (it was just the two of them) that we need to sit down and have a roommate discussion. Bring these topics up and tell everyone that since this is their house, that they need to pitch in to keep this house clean. They are no longer living with parents and they need to start being responsible, they should not expect you to have to clean up after them every time and the thing that sucks is that you feel you have to since they are never going to or take too long to. Honestly, tell them that it is really not fair that you are constantly cleaning up after their mess (wash dishes, mop or vacuum, take out the trash, etc.) and collaborate with them on things that each roommate is assigned to do. I almost did everything for my housemates (even including washing the million of dishes that just keep piling up because they love to use so much within a day) and I finally told them that since the both of them are home for most of the day (and only ever go into the office on occasion) that they have no reason not to wash dishes, etc. For your predicament, it is different and I suggest you make a schedule of what needs to be done in the house and when. I would even go far as to say the person who cannot hold responsibility for their part in taking care of the house should pay more for rent, but that is just how I work being the hard ass I can be. Maybe make a schedule like: Jessica does dishes on Tue. and Thu. Tiffany does dishes on Mon. and Wed. Vacuum and/or mop the house once a week which can go on a rotation; throw away garbage on Tuesday and Thursday (or when full) if you see it reach a certain limit (to like where it will overflow) it is your responsibility to clean it up. Nobody else should have to do that shit for you. Sorry for my random spurts of anger, I am just really sympathizing with you because I know how you must be feeling it can be so damn aggravating how people are so disgusting. the thing is, i have no idea what their schedules are and i leave a lot so i dont have a consistent schedule. a cleaning schedule is not realistic for us when we first all came together in the beginning, we agreed we would clean up our own shit and not leave messes and be fair. thats why everytime i see their dishes pile up, or that the trash has never been taken out by them, i always confront them and say so but its just not working. i wonder if i should just be more aggressive about it now, because when i confront them im usually kind/sweet about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mitsuhoney 1,231 Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 the thing is, i have no idea what their schedules are and i leave a lot so i dont have a consistent schedule. a cleaning schedule is not realistic for us when we first all came together in the beginning, we agreed we would clean up our own shit and not leave messes and be fair. thats why everytime i see their dishes pile up, or that the trash has never been taken out by them, i always confront them and say so but its just not working. i wonder if i should just be more aggressive about it now, because when i confront them im usually kind/sweet about it. Hmm! I definitely think maybe aggression is the way to go in this case, sometimes when you're too nice, they don't see it as much of a problem and more so a nonchalant thing. But if you show your general frustration with it, I think they will see that it can be bothersome and start to make changes that way. I think when aggression and/or frustration is seen on a person's face, they will react more because being sweet and kind they will easily take advantage of that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Khyler 293 Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 1. Roommates Meeting 2. Every body gives an truth opinion (criticism?) of each other in a round table (with honest feeling) 3. Discuss for some solution 4. Keep trying to break your contract Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 the first thing you have to do when living with people is set up cleaning schedules Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
layixings 100 Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 i agree with others - set up a cleaning schedule and you need to speak up too like voice out your opinions on them. i believe they would do it often if you just let them be Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elscian 5,139 Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 you guys need to hold a meeting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
choi 211 Posted December 3, 2017 Share Posted December 3, 2017 I'm in your situation. We arranged a house meeting and put up schedules, but only 4/6 of us follow it. There's one guy who's lazy and messy af in the shared areas, luckily I don't share bathrooms with him. But 2 others do, and we're thinking of having another house meeting. If it doesn't improve we're calling the landlord Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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