How to confront a person blamed you for something you should have not been blamed for?

[PastelPetals]

I was sexully harassed 2 years ago by a person who went to my school I told my dean but he said it was becuse I was wearing clothing that made the boy "curious" I have felt guilty ever since and I sorta want to confront him about it how would go about that?

[GalaxunnieSuperOppa]

Gosh I hate victim blaming so much. Confront him and set him straight. Lecture him. Even if he brushes it off, those words are gonna stick in his mind. 
 

I'd do it publicly if I were you. 

[High Fructose Yoongi Syrup]

I dont really know how but he shouldnt have blamed you. You shouldnt feel guilty. Wearing clothes that made the guy "curious" didnt give him the right to molest you. You were the victim and victim-blamers are disgusting.

[Fat Ass Keâ„“â„“y Price]

tell your mom??
If my mom had heard this from my sister she would have made a huge fucking scene and threatened to sue the whole school.

[Green Willow]

Gosh I hate victim blaming so much. Confront him and set him straight. Lecture him. Even if he brushes it off, those words are gonna stick in his mind. 

 

I'd do it publicly if I were you.

 

being angry at the victim isn't the way to go either, sheesh calm down

[L'Amour]

So according to this person, if I saw someone wearing a skirt and got curious about the type of panties she was wearing, I can lift the skirt up and blame her for making me curious.?

 

That person needs to be educated. Report him to the students affairs' office or guidance center.

[PastelPetals]

tell your mom??

If my mom had heard this from my sister she would have made a huge fucking scene and threatened to sue the whole school.

I told both her and my dad but since it happened a while ago there is apparently not much they can do

[GalaxunnieSuperOppa]

being angry at the victim isn't the way to go either, sheesh calm down

 

????

[cheap thriâ„“â„“s]

report them to a higher level since the dean is a parasite that can't do his job, if you feel comfortable tell someone that knows that will believe you and help you put that abuser on blast.

I am sorry this happened to you

[Green Willow]

????

"gosh i hate victim blaming so much" sounded like you were angry to me, sorry

[GalaxunnieSuperOppa]

"gosh i hate victim blaming so much" sounded like you were angry to me, sorry

Ah it's fine, I see what you mean! ^^

[Baeks Flat Ass]

Mess Petal

 

talk to his parents about it and tell them what happened

[knick knack]

You were done wrong, both the boy and the dean are trash. Under no circumstance is it your fault when someone sexually harasses you. Don't feel guilty for another person's wrong doings.

[Pufferfluffer]

tell your mom??

If my mom had heard this from my sister she would have made a huge fucking scene and threatened to sue the whole school.

[Doc Noir]

Take a metal chair and bash his head WWE style.

 

On a serious note, you gotta do it publicly. He might deny it, but some people would definitely take notes. BUT if you aren't comfortable to do so, say you wanna talk to him in private or ask him out for coffee and mention the topic. Another option is to talk to his parents and tell them that despite whether he has changed throughout the past 2 years or not their son has done something wrong. 

[teal]

Well i wouldnt confront him by myself bc he already showed he's crazy and god knows what he would do this time you know what I mean ...

 

You could have your parents contact his parents. Or ... contact the person above the dean at your school (superintendent?) to file a formal report against the dean. Or you could still file a report against him, nothing might happen bc it was two years ago but it might give you closure.

[125628]

if you confront the dean i feel like it'll fall on deaf ears

i think maybe get your mom or some authority figure you trust, let them know how serious it is for you, and get them to confront them for you