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This guy from one of my classes is always asking me to get coffee and stuff,


I've literally went like 6 times within the last month (which is a lot if you're as introverted as me)


but he just keeps asking.


 


He's not necessarily boring but like... I just don't see myself being friends with him I guess?


Also, certain things he says/does kind of make me wonder if friendship is all he's looking for lmao...


and I am definitely not interested in him that way lol (not to mention he's 23 and I'm only 18 ohpressor.png )


 


I've been avoiding/ignoring him lately but today after class he waited for me then asked if I wanted to get coffee again and bc I'm bad at saying no, I said sure. Then he asked if I wanted to watch a movie later tonight and bc I'm stupid and couldn't think of an excuse I just said yes but I really don't want to :(


 


How should I go about canceling (and/or hopefully getting him to stop talking to me all the time)


without feeling guilty about it? He's a nice guy but I just want him to leave me aloneeee idontthinksobetchplz.png


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Say you had a prior engagement with a family member that you forgot about, so you have to cancel, and since they're going to be with you for a while, you can't reschedule. 0u0plz.png

 

When he asks to go out for coffee in the future, say you're trying to cut down on the amount of coffee/caffeine you consume.

If he keeps on pushing with other things, say that you have some personal things to work through, so you don't have the time to go out.

 

If he keeps on pushing.... jesus amgplz.png

phone a friend?

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This guy from one of my classes is always asking me to get coffee and stuff,

I've literally went like 6 times within the last month (which is a lot if you're as introverted as me)

but he just keeps asking.

 

He's not necessarily boring but like... I just don't see myself being friends with him I guess?

Also, certain things he says/does kind of make me wonder if friendship is all he's looking for lmao...

and I am definitely not interested in him that way lol (not to mention he's 23 and I'm only 18 ohpressor.png )

 

I've been avoiding/ignoring him lately but today after class he waited for me then asked if I wanted to get coffee again and bc I'm bad at saying no, I said sure. Then he asked if I wanted to watch a movie later tonight and bc I'm stupid and couldn't think of an excuse I just said yes but I really don't want to :(

 

How should I go about canceling (and/or hopefully getting him to stop talking to me all the time)

without feeling guilty about it? He's a nice guy but I just want him to leave me aloneeee idontthinksobetchplz.png

 

Tell him this: "I only sarang Jungkookie oppa, you are just my chingu so leave me alone juseyo." and he'll be gone in a flash. Like he would transfer to a different school.

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You should just say you don't want to hang out with him. If he truly cares about you, he wouldn't mind. You aren't being mean just because you say no. He isn't entitled to your time, and it's okay for you to care about yourself over what he wants. 

 

Really, it might be hard for you to say "no" at first, but it's also something that you should learn to get used to doing. Once again, it's okay to care about what you want, so say no when you don't want to hang out!

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holy shiiiiit

how pretty are you (genuinely curious cause he seems head over heels for you)

 

my advice: clearly label your relationship as friends (casually) be like "hey you're a great friend... you're like an older bro to me."

 

then see how he responds... I think he may go through the 5 stages of grief but he'll be fine, trust me. 

once he gets to the acceptance stage, you'll notice he'll start to ask other girls to go get coffee w him.

 

If to be more than friends is NOT his goal... well, you're outta luck there twitch.gif  he may just be very needy of friends and think of you as someone he can always spend time with. In that case, be clear that you are BUSY and living your own life. If he was a true friend, he'd understand that you have other things to do after class than getting coffee with him...

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Say you had a prior engagement with a family member that you forgot about, so you have to cancel, and since they're going to be with you for a while, you can't reschedule. 0u0plz.png

 

When he asks to go out for coffee in the future, say you're trying to cut down on the amount of coffee/caffeine you consume.

If he keeps on pushing with other things, say that you have some personal things to work through, so you don't have the time to go out.

 

If he keeps on pushing.... jesus amgplz.png

phone a friend?

Okay thank you lol, I already ignored him inviting me out all weekend by saying I went to my grandpa's bc he had surgery (which isn't a lie) so maybe I'll just say I have to go over there again ilikeitplz.png

 

Tell him this: "I only sarang Jungkookie oppa, you are just my chingu so leave me alone juseyo." and he'll be gone in a flash. Like he would transfer to a different school.

LMFAO he's actually an exchange student from SK though, not sure if that would make that more or less effective 

 

 

wait you went to get coffee with him six times?

I'm bad at saying no and it's like right between that class and my dorm ohdearplz.png  I mean, six times is probably a bit of an exaggeration but it's been at least four times now. 

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Are you that polite that even when someone ask you out, and you don't want to go, you say YES?

 

Idk, one guy from my high school was asking me to go with him on dinner all the time, I would say no to him, but one time I wanted to even report him.. He gave up, lol

I usually just make up an excuse or something and then they don't ask again, but this time it's not working and I really am not good at being straightforward. So like I know it's kind of my own fault but still rlytearpls.png

 

 

You should just say you don't want to hang out with him. If he truly cares about you, he wouldn't mind. You aren't being mean just because you say no. He isn't entitled to your time, and it's okay for you to care about yourself over what he wants. 

 

Really, it might be hard for you to say "no" at first, but it's also something that you should learn to get used to doing. Once again, it's okay to care about what you want, so say no when you don't want to hang out!

I think I needed to hear this tbh, I always feel guilty even though I know I shouldn't rlytearpls.png  so, thank you chuplz.png

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holy shiiiiit

how pretty are you (genuinely curious cause he seems head over heels for you)

 

my advice: clearly label your relationship as friends (casually) be like "hey you're a great friend... you're like an older bro to me."

 

then see how he responds... I think he may go through the 5 stages of grief but he'll be fine, trust me. 

once he gets to the acceptance stage, you'll notice he'll start to ask other girls to go get coffee w him.

 

If to be more than friends is NOT his goal... well, you're outta luck there twitch.gif  he may just be very needy of friends and think of you as someone he can always spend time with. In that case, be clear that you are BUSY and living your own life. If he was a true friend, he'd understand that you have other things to do after class than getting coffee with him...

I'm ugly/average on a good day imo lmao that's why I was confused at first but then he asked if I had ever dated anyone, compliments my outfits a lot, etc. so now I'm like lolwhat 0u0plz.png but anyways thanks for the advice x

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Okay thank you lol, I already ignored him inviting me out all weekend by saying I went to my grandpa's bc he had surgery (which isn't a lie) so maybe I'll just say I have to go over there again ilikeitplz.png

 

LMFAO he's actually an exchange student from SK though, not sure if that would make that more or less effective 

 

 

I'm bad at saying no and it's like right between that class and my dorm ohdearplz.png  I mean, six times is probably a bit of an exaggeration but it's been at least four times now. 

 

lmao well i mean just say you're tried or casually mention a bf, like '' i cant, i told my bf id go study with him''

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I wish i could know because there's this guy that I have told him twice that I only see him as friend yet he insists on hitting on me /throwing hints so i can say yes to go out with him.

 

guess they will never learn, so you need to start being more mean, start leaving him on read so he can catch the hint

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