Sdm 13,010 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 In my family at least most of my relatives that got into love marriages are either divorced or miserable. And the ones that got married through arranged marriages are perfectly happy. So I personally don't think they're as bad as people make them out to be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starsocks 7,986 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 Choosing who you get married to should always be a right, not a privilege Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kish 2,929 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 if the two party are okay with it, and is already planned, that is okay. Like one of my uncle's marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CookieMaster97 7,456 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 In my family at least most of my relatives that got into love marriages are either divorced or miserable. And the ones that got married through arranged marriages are perfectly happy. same situation, but the concept of an arranged marriage simply isnt for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tang 1,194 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 ofc having love in mix is a good thing but as long as you can get along w the person you're marrying and have the same goals you can make it work. though personally i would like to make a love marriage Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amber is a llama 316 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 I'm kinda against it. Forcing someone to marry someone else is not a good idea, unless both parties are happy with the idea of marrying each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Singsdoto 1,132 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 I think every marriage is arranged Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
binsbins 575 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 i guess it depends on the kind of arranged marriage? both of my aunts met their husbands through omiai, and they seem happy as long as the person has some agency over who they're going to marry (like with omiai), i have no problem with it tbh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Umji's butt minder 796 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 I have seen both be perfectly successful. Ihave also seen both fail. It all comes down to chance in the end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sdm 13,010 Posted November 14, 2017 Author Share Posted November 14, 2017 I'm kinda against it. Forcing someone to marry someone else is not a good idea, unless both parties are happy with the idea of marrying each other. Yeah I'm not supporting getting completely forced into it. But I've seen those kind of marriages work out too lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PanWink Is Real 13,912 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 stupid af Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shashashatan 902 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 outdated Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 Disasters Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Full Sun 4,656 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 I'm against it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ceyla 1,168 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 I don't like the idea of it tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Min deserves betta 126 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 Its cool Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amber is a llama 316 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 Yeah I'm not supporting getting completely forced into it. But I've seen those kind of marriages work out too lol Agreed. There are times that it works out. outdated Exactly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Serenee 3,730 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 Any relationship with feelings involved has a great potential to turn into a mess. Some arranged marriages work better cause they weren't built on infatuation, but responsibility. But I don't think arranged marriages is the better alternative. Marrying someone you love is more fulfilling on a spiritual level. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluebells and Snowdrops 3,566 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 I think arranged marriages are okay. I mean, you can grow to love a person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PÅ«cha 522 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 I don't think people understand what modern "arranged" marriages are. When the male/female is ready to marry he/she will get their name out there, the parents will inquire to friends, newspaper ads will be rented and maybe a profile on some sort of matchmaking website. Two strangers don't meet each other and then get married immediately. They will meet each other a couple times and if they both like each other, they become engaged. The engagement period is basically the courtship period, if the two people involved realize they aren't suited for each other, they'll break the engagement off. My parents had an arranged marriage like this and 16 years later they're still happily married. Arranged marriages really aren't as "barbaric" as people think tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 Arranged isn't the same as forced just saying. Some people get to know each other for a few months or years, with the intention to get married. Others might not be so outgoing that they can find someone themselves, or they have looked and haven't found the right type of person. Its very common in conservative cultures to do this. I don't think either love/arranged is better than each other, it depends on the person and the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sdm 13,010 Posted November 14, 2017 Author Share Posted November 14, 2017 I don't think people understand what modern "arranged" marriages are. When the male/female is ready to marry he/she will get their name out there, the parents will inquire to friends, newspaper ads will be rented and maybe a profile on some sort of matchmaking website. Two strangers don't meet each other and then get married immediately. They will meet each other a couple times and if they both like each other, they become engaged. The engagement period is basically the courtship period, if the two people involved realize they aren't suited for each other, they'll break the engagement off. My parents had an arranged marriage like this and 16 years later they're still happily married. Arranged marriages really aren't as "barbaric" as people think tbh. Exactly. The concept of arranged marriages has evolved now. Also if you don't have anything going on then it's not a bad idea to ask your parents to help you out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oshititsnotme 145 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 if you arranged mariage me and suga. i wouldn't mind Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zroi 87 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 I think it depends on the individual. For me, I can't go with it because I'm agnostic and my family are not (They don't know I'm agnostic though). The last thing I want to do is to marry someone of the religion I've left. In my family, a lot of the arranged marriages just 'are'. They're not particularly loving or affectionate. But I have seen some very bad arranged marriages. I think its okay when the people involved get to know one another, but I don't know about those quick marriages, which I see often. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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