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I'm a 163cm (5'4) guy and I look like a 14 year old although I'm almost 19. Should I even bother looking for a girlfriend?

Asukii8

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Just to give you an idea of what I look like: I'm not ugly at all. In fact, I've been told that my face is pretty cute and handsome (not bragging at all. I just want to tell you the truth in order to explain my situatuon to you) and I often do pretty well on online dating sites until girls discover my height. My hair is blonde and I always have stupid Justin Bieberish haircut which I should change. My skin is quite pale and I have green eyes.

 

Here is the biggest problem about me: I'm only 163cm (5'4) and I look like a 14 year old. Not only because of my height, but the fact that my face also looks very young. It's almost unbelievable that I'm 18. I've never had a girlfriend before. I've only been on one date before, but it was with a crazy 24 year old girl that I met online who's into really short and young looking guys like me.

 

The first question I get from people when I'm at parties is "How old are you?" because I don't even look old enough to be there. This makes me feel really embarrassed and ashamed to attend parties or any "adults only" event because I get stared at and people wonder why I'm there. If I go to any "adults only" place, I'll be stared at or even kicked out. I feel like I'll never get much respect from anyone in society, or at least less respect than the average person. Even if they're aware of my age, they'll still subconsciously treat me as a child. I think it will be hard for me to get a job due to the fact that a company won't want someone who looks like a child to represent them.

 

Here's the next major problem: How the hell can I get a girlfriend? I'm not complaining to girls, I totally understand why they wouldn't want to date me because I also wouldn't want to date someone who looks 14. Even if a girl is attracted to me, she would probably not want to date me because it would make her look creepy. People would think 'Why the hell is she dating a young teenager?".  It also basically destroys my chances of online dating. I could have a really great conversation with a girl but then she'll begin to stop caring about me after I tell her my height. If I didn't tell her my height, I would be very ashamed once I met her and very worried about her reaction.

 

The other problem that I have is this: How can I protect my girlfriend/wife if I find one? I'm the least intimidating person and I'm very small. Pretty much any guy could destroy me in a fight and if they were hurting my girlfriend/wife, I wouldn't be able to do anything no matter how hard I tried. What's the point of being in a relationship with me? It would be much better to have a boyfriend or husband who can actually protect you. Even if I became good at fighting, I would be screwed if some super tall guy started hurting me or my wife. If I was a girl, I wouldn't want to date someone like me.

 

Should I just give up and accept that I must live life alone? Should I die? I think it might actually be a very bad decision for me to fall in love with a girl, because I will be powerless to protect or defend her if something bad happens. It would also be borderline immoral for me to have children, because my genetics would risk them being born short and weak like me. I just don't understand why any girl would choose me over someone else. I'm basically inferior to the vast majority of men.

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Some gals like short young (or younger looking) guys

 

plus you’ll be the one laughing when everyone else gets wrinkly and you still look 30 or something lmao

 

 

The other problem that I have is this: How can I protect my girlfriend/wife if I find one? I'm the least intimidating person and I'm very small. Pretty much any guy could destroy me in a fight and if they were hurting my girlfriend/wife, I wouldn't be able to do anything no matter how hard I tried. What's the point of being in a relationship with me? It would be much better to have a boyfriend or husband who can actually protect you. Even if I became good at fighting, I would be screwed if some super tall guy started hurting me or my wife. If I was a girl, I wouldn't want to date someone like me.

Get a gun and lift weights
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there like 7 BILLION human being in this world ...your living place standing in dating are not the same at other place..so no, dont lose hope in dating....its freaking hurt ...but wanna know what happen to a carbon atom that being into high pressure temperature? they will become a diamond...

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Never give up on yourself. And there are plenty of petite girls around, don't feel too desolate.

 

It's not the end of the world if you don't find a partner as well. dave.png

I like girls who are bigger and older than me actually laugh.pnglaugh.pnglaugh.png

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Do you have a cute face? Girls are all over that even if you're short.

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most guys i liked when i was single were short i am tall guy tho so i am not a girl.. maybe you should try guys too studmuffinplz.png finger crossed hurrplz.png

 

 

short guys have nice butts lol laugh.png laugh.png laugh.png but that wasn't the practical reason tho it just happens 

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I'm 180cm and my boyfriend is 168cm and it's not a problem. Apart from that, don't listen to stupid gender roles that tell you to be a "tough, strong man, that needs to protect the helpless women." If you find the right person you'll see what kind of dynamic you'll have. 

Agree with this one, maybe the one for you will be a prowrestler and you don't need to protect her.

Also my mom is 2 years older than my dad, so is my aunt, and my cousin and her husband. It does not make a difference at all, if you look younger than them or if you are a bit younger than them. 

Also look at it this way, you'll look younger at 30 than any guy you know. ;P

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GalaxunnieSuperOppa Global Superstar

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Just to give you an idea of what I look like: I'm not ugly at all. In fact, I've been told that my face is pretty cute and handsome (not bragging at all. I just want to tell you the truth in order to explain my situatuon to you) and I often do pretty well on online dating sites until girls discover my height. My hair is blonde and I always have stupid Justin Bieberish haircut which I should change. My skin is quite pale and I have green eyes.

 

 

 

Well I'm a 4'11 female who's 20, but looks 15, but I'm still interested in dating. I don't see why you should give up hope on a gf. There's nothing wrong with shorties meowfaceplz.png

 

I ship it hurrplz.png

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So I am a 20 year old girl who looks like a 14 yo too and I'm 158 cm which also doesn't help. Guys my age would usually not try to date me bc they always thought it was illegal right. Well I have a 22 yo bf who is short too and doesn't look like he's 22 either. 

 

You shouldn't give up. You shouldn't look for a gf tho. You'll run into her soon enough 

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There's a guy in my class who I think is shorter than you but he is a total boyfriend material and most of the girls in my class are so jealous with his girlfriend because he has a really nice personality and such a gentleman. His girlfriend is a year older than him too. So, don't give up. 

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