kimsaebyul 78 Posted November 3, 2017 Share Posted November 3, 2017 Ok so, 1st of all, I'm the type of girl who takes time to "open" to new people so I've never had TONS of friends, just good and few ones... I started university 4 years ago and never really made friends since not because I never spoke to anybody but because every girl/boy I met left university for one reason or another! Maybe I am extremely unlucky idk... Now I attend classes with a girl and a boy who aren't exactly my friends: not because they're bad people or anything but because we don't have anything in common (?) Like I always feel like we don't talk about anything (?) Sometimes I want to drop them and start looking for new people but the "problems" are: - my university doesn't allow to change classes so you are always with the same people - the people in the class already have their group of friends and so they don't really want new people - the university has classes for just 8 weeks during winter and 8 more during spring; doesnt organize other activities so the time we spend there is not that much What should I do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruppi 9,190 Posted November 3, 2017 Share Posted November 3, 2017 You can always join a club or take a language class? That's how I got to meet new people at university. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lugoose 11,398 Posted November 3, 2017 Share Posted November 3, 2017 meet up with your kpop chingus!!1! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pirine 4,209 Posted November 3, 2017 Share Posted November 3, 2017 Clubs are your friend. There are independent clubs outside of university too if your school doesnt offer them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimsaebyul 78 Posted November 3, 2017 Author Share Posted November 3, 2017 There are no clubs just political stuff and like the choir (?) LMAO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smrookies girls 1,085 Posted November 3, 2017 Share Posted November 3, 2017 You don't have evening classes? I'm a very introvert girl but last year i took korean evening classes and i met people with i shared the same hobbies. We weren't exactly friends because our studies weren't the same (and also because i did nothing to really be friend with them) but it's easy to make friends here. You said that there's no clubs but do you have associations? In my coutry we have a lot of associations within the university where you can meet people who study the same thing as you or as you said that the same political ideas (but visibly you're not really into political stuffs) and they sometimes organize parties where you pay less than if you weren't a member of the association. If you really have none of these then it doesn't really matter i guess? You're at the university to work and based on my experience, having no friends gives you better grades Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bom 2,161 Posted November 3, 2017 Share Posted November 3, 2017 Is your university in the city? Go to bars (if your old enough lol) or student-only places and meet people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumenrider 8 Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 I've struggled with this situation as well. You said you want to drop them, but I think you should just keep them at least as acquaintances. You don't have to be super close to them. Why should you do this? (1) You might become close to someone who ends up being friends with the person you dropped. The person you dropped might bad mouth you to the friend and it's just a losing situation. (2) You might not be that close the the person, but keeping them will allow opportunity for you to meet new people through them. I'm in the same situation right now. I have an acquaintance and all we can ever talk about is school lol. We don't share the same interests at all, but we still get along despite only hanging out during classes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny style 68 Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 I've struggled with this situation as well. You said you want to drop them, but I think you should just keep them at least as acquaintances. You don't have to be super close to them. Why should you do this? (1) You might become close to someone who ends up being friends with the person you dropped. The person you dropped might bad mouth you to the friend and it's just a losing situation. (2) You might not be that close the the person, but keeping them will allow opportunity for you to meet new people through them. I'm in the same situation right now. I have an acquaintance and all we can ever talk about is school lol. We don't share the same interests at all, but we still get along despite only hanging out during classes. i agree with this. but on top of that there has to be some things outside of school that you can do to meet new people? someone up there mentioned going to bars if you're old enough. do you have a job? if not maybe finding one where a lot of people around your age work could help, plus you'll be making money too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 Clubs are your friend. There are independent clubs outside of university too if your school doesnt offer them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
in good taste 213 Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 I understand the struggle. Eventually I'm sure you'll meet someone you'll connect with, even if it's just one person. Only two lasting friendships were born out of my college years. Everyone else bored me to death.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimsaebyul 78 Posted November 6, 2017 Author Share Posted November 6, 2017 i agree with this. but on top of that there has to be some things outside of school that you can do to meet new people? someone up there mentioned going to bars if you're old enough. do you have a job? if not maybe finding one where a lot of people around your age work could help, plus you'll be making money too Clubs are your friend. There are independent clubs outside of university too if your school doesnt offer them. Well of course I attend other places LOL It's just the university life that is boring and depressing af.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pirine 4,209 Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 Well of course I attend other places LOL It's just the university life that is boring and depressing af.. Eh if you have friends outside of university then maybe look at it as a chance to focus on you studies more. I know it sucks now, but it might help you in the long run. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimsaebyul 78 Posted November 6, 2017 Author Share Posted November 6, 2017 Eh if you have friends outside of university then maybe look at it as a chance to focus on you studies more. I know it sucks now, but it might help you in the long run. Eh..at this point I think I'll just endure it and try to finish asap Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pirine 4,209 Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 Eh..at this point I think I'll just endure it and try to finish asap If you ever need to talk to someone though, you can pm me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimsaebyul 78 Posted November 6, 2017 Author Share Posted November 6, 2017 If you ever need to talk to someone though, you can pm me Thank you! It's really kind of you :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pirine 4,209 Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 Thank you! It's really kind of you :D Of course! I hope things get better for you at school <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 I had my group of friends in college but I also hanged with people from other careers and universities as social life was just very boring where I studied. But that was just on weekends on holidays as my career got very absorbing so you end up being with the same people even if you don't like them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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