Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 We got into a fight because she never locks our door and now she wants to make our flat a fucking monastery. Her demands are: At all times, wear headphones when using your phone or watching videos on your computer. Not watch tv past 10pm. Ask for her permission to have people over at all times. I feel like she thinks I am 12. Having a discussion regarding her demands after dinner, advice shall be appreciated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kyulkyung 5,023 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 not really. some people are sensitive to noise like me and roommates should compromise for some rules to respect each other's space Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neosoul 546 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 Is this a college dorm or an apartment? I don't like the "ask her for permission to have permission over at all time", it sounds like she's trying to be the head bitch, but there should be consideration on both sides. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted October 29, 2017 Author Share Posted October 29, 2017 not really. some people are sensitive to noise like me and roommates should compromise for some rules to respect each other's space She can buy ear plugs, or go live in a monastery. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GREATtime 115 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 Yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lee jaeyeol 385 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 not really. some people are sensitive to noise like me and roommates should compromise for some rules to respect each other's space Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted October 29, 2017 Author Share Posted October 29, 2017 Is this a college dorm or an apartment? I don't like the "ask her for permission to have permission over at all time", it sounds like she's trying to be the head bitch, but there should be consideration on both sides. I tell her when I have people over, but she refuses to interact with people and stays locked up in her room or goes away to avoid everyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kyulkyung 5,023 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 I tell her when I have people over, but she refuses to interact with people and stays locked up in her room or goes away to avoid everyone. some people are shy and introverted..can't expect everyone to be outgoing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
다�아 276 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 yes... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kyulkyung 5,023 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 She can buy ear plugs, or go live in a monastery. ear plugs don't work man Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted October 29, 2017 Author Share Posted October 29, 2017 some people are shy and introverted..can't expect everyone to be outgoing. She isn't, she is just going through a depression but refuses to talk about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kyulkyung 5,023 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 She isn't, she is just going through a depression but refuses to talk about it. okay not all are comfortable with talking it out and would rather cope with it alone anyways i can't tell if you're fabricating this story based on your sig and dp Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted October 29, 2017 Author Share Posted October 29, 2017 okay not all are comfortable with talking it out and would rather cope with it alone anyways i can't tell if you're fabricating this story based on your sig and dp Why the fuck would I fabricate a story? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kyulkyung 5,023 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 Why the fuck would I fabricate a story? oh well gl with everything and please do hear your roommate out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted October 29, 2017 Author Share Posted October 29, 2017 Is this a college dorm or an apartment? I don't like the "ask her for permission to have permission over at all time", it sounds like she's trying to be the head bitch, but there should be consideration on both sides. Also we are both working adults who have already graduated from college. She has a great difficulty getting used to adulthood. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaleidoscope 1,068 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 We got into a fight because she never locks our door - Nahh that won't work. Huge security issues right there. At all times, wear headphones when using your phone or watching videos on your computer. - ehhh reasonable and it should go both ways Not watch tv past 10pm. - do y'all have set quiet hours? Ask for her permission to have people over at all times. - Instead ----> I would be annoyed if I came home after a long day of classes or work and had randoms in the apartment/dorm. It's a bit jarring at first, like, you couldn't send me a quick text saying that there were gonna be ppl over? Especially if its a group. One or two ppl though... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
junmyeonsnoodle 1,074 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 Is she a roommate or a house/apartment mate? If you are actually sharing a room then I understand wear she is coming from, I wouldn't want to hear what you were watching on you're computer or phone either. Also this stuff seems like something maybe you two should have discussed before you moved in together. If this is in a college dorm or something, maybe try talking to your RA. *I thought this said no people over after 10 pm, not TV (which is still a little nuts). This girl is crazy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted October 29, 2017 Author Share Posted October 29, 2017 We got into a fight because she never locks our door - Nahh that won't work. Huge security issues right there. At all times, wear headphones when using your phone or watching videos on your computer. - ehhh reasonable and it should go both ways Not watch tv past 10pm. - do y'all have set quiet hours? Ask for her permission to have people over at all times. - this should go both ways tbh. I would be annoyed if I came home after a long day of classes or work and had randoms in the apartment/dorm. It's a bit jarring at first, like, you couldn't send me a quick text saying that there were gonna be ppl over? Especially if its a group. One or two ppl though... The tv is mine so the only thing that'll happen is that I'll put it in my room and she'll have no tv. The reason I left my parents' home is that I had to ask for permission to invite ppl over so that's a deal breaker for me and she knows it. Is she a roommate or a house/apartment mate? If you are actually sharing a room then I understand wear she is coming from, I wouldn't want to hear what you were watching on you're computer or phone either. 10pm on weekdays makes sense, however on the weekends it is a little ridiculous. Also this stuff seems like something maybe you two should have discussed before you moved in together. If this is in a college dorm or something, maybe try talking to your RA. It's an apartment with separate rooms. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shalnark 989 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 Not watch tv past 10pm. Ask for her permission to have people over at all times. I understand the headphone's one, but this two are questionable, not locking the door too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nev Schulman 7,948 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 If she is having all the rules the least she could do is lock the door Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted October 29, 2017 Author Share Posted October 29, 2017 I understand the headphone's one, but this two are questionable. She is asking for the headphones because I once watched a video on my phone at 10% volume in my bed and ahe texted me from her room to mute it. Our neighbors make more noise than that, she is just being over the top. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted October 29, 2017 Author Share Posted October 29, 2017 If she is having all the rules the least she could do is lock the door I often come home and all the cupboards are open, the tv is on and the lights are all on. The door is unlocked and she is in bed. When I tell her she says: k, so what. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kyulkyung 5,023 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 She is asking for the headphones because I once watched a video on my phone at 10% volume in my bed and ahe texted me from her room to mute it. Our neighbors make more noise than that, she is just being over the top. no offense but you seem like a loud roommate I often come home and all the cupboards are open, the tv is on and the lights are all on. The door is unlocked and she is in bed. When I tell her she says: k, so what. ok now this is a different story Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nev Schulman 7,948 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 I often come home and all the cupboards are open, the tv is on and the lights are all on. The door is unlocked and she is in bed. When I tell her she says: k, so what.I'd tell her that if she can't keep up with your demands then you can't keep up with hers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted October 29, 2017 Author Share Posted October 29, 2017 no offense but you seem like a loud roommate ok now this is a different story I am barely at home and arrive around 8pm every evening... How can I make noise when I ain't even there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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