Lemonko 131 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Like , I dont know if i am afraid of love or if I am just aromantic. I never had actual crush, longest crush I had was like 3-4 weeks? And I think it was just sexual attraction? I feel like I only have sexual attraction. I imagine my future without marriage ever since earliest childhood I think. I can not imagine myself being in a relationship with someone for years or even months! feels like I can't do that, cuz I have never actually loved someone, I feel like I am just sexually attracted to girls and thats it. I dont like watching romantic scenes, or anything related to romance, I feel weird about it , I am kinda disgusted. But theres one thing for sure, i dont feel 100% aromantic. As i know there is like a scale of aromancy? i feel like I am in 50/50 position. what about you guys? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZikyungDerp 3,644 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Indeedio I am~ Mainly because I don't think I would actually date anyone. I get crushes but I really have no desire to act upon them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lemonko 131 Posted October 10, 2017 Author Share Posted October 10, 2017 Indeedio I am~ Mainly because I don't think I would actually date anyone. I get crushes but I really have no desire to act upon them kinda same, I only get "romantically" attracted to few weeks maximum? I feel like thats just a sexual attraction Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lemonko 131 Posted October 10, 2017 Author Share Posted October 10, 2017 Indeedio I am~ Mainly because I don't think I would actually date anyone. I get crushes but I really have no desire to act upon them but i feel like we need to be in relationship first to find out if we really are aromantic or no, things will change after relationship Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miekos 24,408 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 I don't know, but the thought of being with someone for years and years, just doesn't sound appealing to me at all. I'd rather be single than being in a relationship with someone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wxncheols 183 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Personally, I'm demiromantic, which is on the aro spectrum. I've just... never really liked anyone? I forced myself to think I had a crush on a guy in middle school because I thought I was supposed to, but it was just really, really weird. I think I had a crush on a friend a few years later, but even now I'm not sure if it was actually a crush or if I just really enjoyed being around her. I've never dated anyone, even though I'd like to. If you don't even like the idea of dating someone, I'd say you're probably aro - but it's just a label, and it's up to you how you label yourself (gods knows I've gone from panromantic to aromantic to demiromantic as I was figuring it out.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iovelinus 158 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 There really is a spectrum to aromanticity. I'm still not sure about where I stand because feelings are unexpected and complicated and nebulous, but I tend to think of myself as aroflux, because there are times when I'm sure I'm homoromantic and times when I feel totally aromantic. I have this idealization about romantic relationships but I'm not sure if I ever felt romantic feelings towards anyone, or if they're just platonic. I read about it a lot since I'm also part of the asexual community, maybe I could rec you some blogs? My favorites are: http://qpadvice.tumblr.com/ http://aromanticadvice.tumblr.com/ http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/ http://aro-aceplace.tumblr.com/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seto Kaiba 91 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 i don't like to label myself (i don't like excessive labels in general) but if I was forced to fit myself under one term, it would akoiromantic. in theory, relationships are cute and crushes are fun, but I don't actually want to be in a relationship (the mere thought of being involved in an actual romantic relationship bothers me). Things could change, though... maybe I will feel different 5, 10 years down the line Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lema 1,765 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Im asexual aromantic and have no desire to date anyone. Sometimes I feel i could date someone but in reality it doesnt sound very pleasant and im not romantic at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeppuda 243 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Naneun opparomantic! Naneun jowa oppa here and there but naneun doesn't jowa relationships kekeke sadface sadface Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lemonko 131 Posted October 10, 2017 Author Share Posted October 10, 2017 i don't like to label myself (i don't like excessive labels in general) but if I was forced to fit myself under one term, it would akoiromantic. in theory, relationships are cute and crushes are fun, but I don't actually want to be in a relationship (the mere thought of being involved in an actual romantic relationship bothers me). Things could change, though... maybe I will feel differently 5, 10 years down the line very nice opinion! I kinda want to be in relationship, but only for a really short time ,I am definitely just sexually attracted with bit of romance,at least it seems like that, things might change after experiences and stuff you know , just as you said! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dupladé 2,865 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Possible, I am still not sure but I know that I am on the spectrum somewhere between asexuality and sexuality. I don't feel comfortable with labeling myself just yet (or maybe ever) /it is interesting others are uncomfortable with labels too/ because I am still discovering this...thing. Romantic love is something unknown to me, I personally can't love anyone unconditionally, the only exceptions are my family members. I haven't been "in love" for 13 years. It is really scary, actually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lemonko 131 Posted October 10, 2017 Author Share Posted October 10, 2017 Possible, I am still not sure but I know that I am on the spectrum somewhere between asexuality and sexuality. I don't feel comfortable with labeling myself just yet (or maybe ever) /it is interesting others are uncomfortable with labels too/ because I am still discovering this...thing. Romantic love is something unknown to me, I personally can't love anyone unconditionally, the only exceptions are my family members. I haven't been "in love" for 13 years. It is really scary, actually. yea i have never loved someone either, and i am 18 year old, you're 13 ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zediby 355 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Indeedio I am~ Mainly because I don't think I would actually date anyone. I get crushes but I really have no desire to act upon them this, although in one particular case I wanted to do something but I always end up holding myself back Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lemonko 131 Posted October 10, 2017 Author Share Posted October 10, 2017 this, although in one particular case I wanted to do something but I always end up holding myself back but doesnt that sound like being afraid of love? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dupladé 2,865 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 yea i have never loved someone either, and i am 18 year old, you're 13 ? Lol no, how could I be 13? Well, I did love the life in my mom's womb but I was not in love with it. I am 25. (I might come across as an asshole in my answer but you actually made me laugh, It was cute.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lemonko 131 Posted October 10, 2017 Author Share Posted October 10, 2017 Lol no, how could I be 13? Well, I did love the life in my mom's womb but I was not in love with it. I am 25. lol you confused me , you said you have never been in love for 13 years, thought that you meant since your birthday or somehting lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny style 68 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 i don’t know if i would call myself 100% aromantic, but i know i have not and probably never will have the desire to have a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milkcafe 3,438 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 nope Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oli London 1,762 Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 Somewhat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pleasure 2,956 Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 not at all i'm like the complete opposite Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taeyeoni 670 Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 Indeedio I am~ Mainly because I don't think I would actually date anyone. I get crushes but I really have no desire to act upon them hello, im almost the same.. i like to flirt or interact with them but in a very casual, light hearted and ultimately meaningless way. like maybe as friends with a slight romantic excitement..nothing serious Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taeyeoni 670 Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I don't know, but the thought of being with someone for years and years, just doesn't sound appealing to me at all. I'd rather be single than being in a relationship with someone. same i really liked this guy, but i only wanted to just talk to him in a flirty way, nothing serious and the thought of ever being in a relationship with him is so boring Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-masayume- 3,749 Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I'm definitely not, but I also can't imagine myself being with the same person for years. I know few girls who've been dating the same person for 8+ years and I just can't understand how. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noone:p 29 Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I was thinking about that... I guess I really just might not understand or know how to respond to gestures, and romance sometimes seems too cringy:/ I might just be too lonely and there is no one I'm interested in where I live:3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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