Darlie 1,607 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 My best friend has been going through depression for three years now,and this year it became much worse. Whenever I tell her to stop cutting,she says ''I can't,it's not my choice. Besides,what difference does it make if I stop cutting? Pain is the only thing that is keeping me alive right now.'' She's feeling lonely even when all of her friends and family are in the same room. Her world has become black and white. She fakes smiles and laughs everyday just to please everybody around her. She cares about everybody but herself. She's gonna waste her Summer to a fucking hospital in Germany,and she doesn't wanna go. I wanna help her,I'm really worried about her and I'm so scared if it gets worse and I don't get to see her anymore. Fuck. Please help. Anything would be good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HotWalkin 965 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 my depression was helped by 2pm, i'm dead serious, i mean i wasn't depressed to the point where I'd cut myself to the point where i bled, but i felt isolated and seriously felt done with myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deaneira 581 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 stopping people who cuts , is really hard . cuz no matter what you say they kinda dont want to listen . maybe, listening to fun music will make her feel better . or you can say 'there's a difference if you stop cutting or not . if you cut , i'll feel unhappy and sad . if you don't cut , i will feel happy' eventhough it wont really affect that much . spend time with her everyday , make stupid jokes so she'll laugh . lonely people usually wants people that she loves to love her back . (my opinion) if it were me , i'll hug her and say " if you care and love me as your best friend , please stop cutting . i dont want to see your body get hurts eventhough pain is keeping you alive but that is in a harmful way . if you're hurt , you'll go to the hospital , and that'll make me extremely sad and my heart will shatters " sorry if you think that this is nonsense Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darlie 1,607 Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 my depression was helped by 2pm, i'm dead serious, i mean i wasn't depressed to the point where I'd cut myself to the point where i bled, but i felt isolated and seriously felt done with myself. At least you have sth to cheer you up,stick to it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sun☼Shine 4,273 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 Be emotionally honest. Let her know it's hurting you to see her like that and tell her that you care for her. Also, be there for her. Sometimes it's hard. It feels like you're in an episode of Invasion of the body snatchers, "she looks like your friend, but you know it's not her". But try and don't give up. You say she's going to a hospital for the summer. You don't want her to go, she doesn't want to go, but it might be the best thing for her. It might be heart breaking, but if it will help and not harm her then let your heart break and let her go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Symphonyâ„¢ 11,329 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 To stop cutting is hard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darlie 1,607 Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 stopping people who cuts , is really hard . cuz no matter what you say they kinda dont want to listen . maybe, listening to fun music will make her feel better . or you can say 'there's a difference if you stop cutting or not . if you cut , i'll feel unhappy and sad . if you don't cut , i will feel happy' eventhough it wont really affect that much . spend time with her everyday , make stupid jokes so she'll laugh . lonely people usually wants people that she loves to love her back . (my opinion) if it were me , i'll hug her and say " if you care and love me as your best friend , please stop cutting . i dont want to see your body get hurts eventhough pain is keeping you alive but that is in a harmful way . if you're hurt , you'll go to the hospital , and that'll make me extremely sad and my heart will shatters " sorry if you think that this is nonsense It's not. That'd help maybe. Thanks for sharing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darlie 1,607 Posted April 1, 2014 Author Share Posted April 1, 2014 Be emotionally honest. Let her know it's hurting you to see her like that and tell her that you care for her. Also, be there for her. Sometimes it's hard. It feels like you're in an episode of Invasion of the body snatchers, "she looks like your friend, but you know it's not her". But try and don't give up. You say she's going to a hospital for the summer. You don't want her to go, she doesn't want to go, but it might be the best thing for her. It might be heart breaking, but if it will help and not harm her then let your heart break and let her go. Ikr,she's not herself when she's depressed. I think it's best for her too but I'll miss her. Maybe she's gonna be better..Idk. Thanks for the help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sakura IS FEARLESS 192 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 It'll be hard i believe esp since shes been in the depression state for that long...Depressed ppl problem is in their head...they blame themselve for every little mistake,they always felt guilty n stuff....youre a very good friend ^^ my suggestion is for u n her close family n friend to spend time together so that she doesnt get the thought of cutting....itll take along time tho....i hope she get well soon~~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TMI 3,512 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 It's because she's holding everything in. She's not allowing her true emotions and pain to be released. She cuts because she has no idea how to release the pain. It's killing her from the inside. She most likely hates herself for being this way, but she shouldn't. She has NOTHING to be ashamed of. Encourage her to express herself and to be true to herself. But it's a choice she has to make and it is an uphill struggle. I suggest you check out the Draw my life story from a Youtuber called CloudyApples. She had serious clinical depression too. It was very revealing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
North and South 4,680 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 Is she visiting someone right now in terms of professional help? Depression is difficult to deal with, for everyone involved, and helping people deal with it is a more complex and time consuming process than many can understand on their own. I would suggest you try and convince your friend to go see a counsellor, and offer her support in seeking professional help. Suggest that you can go along with her if she is apprehensive, discuss any fears or concerns she may have about seeking help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicornwifeylay 52 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 first let me tell you that you are a good friend You know crying and letting everything out is the best thing and it will lighten everything and makes the pain a little less painful and reassure her that you will always be there for her and you wouldn't judge her open your heart for her so she can do the same. im sorry I couldn't be much of a help and I wish you and your friend the best of luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alm94 4,387 Posted April 1, 2014 Share Posted April 1, 2014 i'm not sure since I dont know your friend but have a visit here to get a better understanding of what it feels like to be depressed: http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2013/05/depression-part-two.html its by a blogger who had depression and shows what she went through. It might help some at least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenfan 1,144 Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 I think the best thing to do in this case is to get her professional help. I'm sure it would be difficult and she will challenge it. Depression is a very serious issue, and most people are unable to recover alone, especially since your friend is at the point where she's physically harming herself. It's important for her loved ones to be there for her, which you are and I'm sure her families and other friends are as well; but it is absolutely imperative she gets professional help as soon as possible, like today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Psy 2,401 Posted April 12, 2014 Share Posted April 12, 2014 Please help. Anything would be good. You cannot help someone who isn't even willing to try to help themselves. I don't mean to be blunt, but these are times where you would have to take bolder actions than just talking to her directly. Raise the attention to those who can do something more, and if she is the stubborn type that would irrationally get angry at you and end the relationship, then let it be for the greater good. You tried your hardest, but she now needs professional help. Good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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