how to you feel good about yourself without any external factors?

[taeyeoni]

hello, how do you feel confident without any validation, everything comes from within?

 

I want to know.

[tang]

well, you live for yourself. no reason to turn it into hell; i try to keep that in mind.

[RiseLikeACrowTit]

First you need to hit the concrete a few times to realize your value; meditation and love for nature are two things that could help you with that, it will come a point in where you don't give a fck and the stress will melt

[tang]

dp

[kyulkyung]

i have low self esteem 

[Tayenne]

Hm just think about what is impoartant to you and what isn't. Most of the time you will recognize that all the imporant traits you cherrish you posess yourself and else just accept your flaws or you can try to change them if they really bother you.

[suit up]

i don't

[Suzy Quatro]

Interesting question, overall I do think most of our self-steem comes from tangible assessments about our qualities. Having good grades, being in good in certain sports, activities, or just getting compliments often. All of those are assessments relative to a scale or direct comparisons towards your peers.

 

So in order to have a positive image about yourself, that doesn't depend on external factors sounds like something not very easy to achieve. At least it involves a lot of introspection and knowing yourself quite well in order for you to be aware and accept what are your virtues and defects.

 

In the end I think it all comes down to affront what you don't like about yourself with a positive attitude and with the intent of permanently trying to improve. Like acknowledging you're not perfect but not in a conformist manner but rather trying to improve yourself.

[layixings]

reward yourself and try to love yourself as much as possible. only think of positive things

 

(i can give advices but i can't do it for myself lol)

[redlovespucca]

ummm...well...just don't mind what people says about you imo

Know your worth, love yourself, and don't let people make you feel less than that