How come the more you ignore girls the more they'll stick to you like glue?

[ChungJoJo]

I hear the same stories everytime, theres this one type of story where the girl wants a nice guy who wants to talk to them, understand them, be there for them, and all that, but the minute a guy does that for them, you know be extra nice, extra gentleman, she then goes off to another dude later on, who doesn't care about her, who treats her like garbage, calls her a bitch, all the time, abuses her, and he only calls her up for sex, and that's about it. Like... what do women want???

Another story iv'e heard from my colleagues is that the less care you give to women the more they'll stick to you like glue... Like... what???

 

Why... just why, what kind sad world did we create?

[Baeks Flat Ass]

it's a mystery

[Yuri's_Hoe]

Nice guys finish last. Simple as. 

 

Can't say it for all women. But a lot of women find good guys to be 'boring'. 

[KaniPi]

That's not true. I don't have time for guys that like to play games and treat people like crap.

[aziza94]

water taste so much better to drink when you thirsty 

[Feary]

Not trying to agree with you, but I did date this one guy who was Super fucking nice to the point where it was just over bearing. He didn't want me to do anything for myself. I could have badly breathed so I get where some girls are coming from with guys who are too nice.

[ChungJoJo]

Nice guys finish last. Simple as. 

 

Can't say it for all women. But a lot of women find good guys to be 'boring'. 

So, bitches ain't shit? so you're saying i should treat women like garbage, constantly degrade them and that's how i'll be with a women? if that was the case i would hate myself for the rest of my life, if that's what it takes to get a girl to like you. That's just wrong in my eyes, i would honestly hate myself if i was to do that.

[Pix]

That's a generalization. But, a guy shouldn't be too overly nice either unless it's part of his personality. Just be who you are instead of enacting the nice guy role. Though I would definitely go for the nice guy, I have too much self respect to be treated like shit by someone else. I don't how some women do it on an active basis. 

[Pix]

Not trying to agree with you, but I did date this one guy who was Super fucking nice to the point where it was just over bearing. He didn't want me to do anything for myself. I could have badly breathed so I get where some girls are coming from with guys who are too nice.

 

I agree with that! And I have hard time believing in the too nice facade, just be who you are. It's fine to be considerate, but don't cross the line into being completely overbearing. Give the girl her space and have your own space, too. I think a genuinely nice guy would respect the girl enough to let her do her own things. 

[ChungJoJo]

That's a generalization. But, a guy shouldn't be too overly nice either unless it's part of his personality. Just be who you are instead of enacting the nice guy role. Though I would definitely go for the nice guy, I have too much self respect to be treated like shit by someone else. I don't how some women do it on an active basis. 

But that's just who i am, I'm a nice guy i'm not trying to enact that nice guy role.

[Pix]

But that's just who i am, I'm a nice guy i'm not trying to enact that nice guy role.

 

Then you're fine! And you will definitely find someone who will appreciate you. The "bad" boy appeal is overrated anyways. No grown woman truly wants a "bad" boy in her life, or at least the ones I know don't. A nice and reliable guy is way better! Good luck with everything!   

[Yuri's_Hoe]

So, bitches ain't shit? so you're saying i should treat women like garbage, constantly degrade them and that's how i'll be with a women? if that was the case i would hate myself for the rest of my life, if that's what it takes to get a girl to like you. That's just wrong in my eyes, i would honestly hate myself if i was to do that.

 

That's why I said that you can't say it for all women.

 

I treat my fiancee with respect and would never dream of treating her like shit. I treat women the same way that I would wish for someone to treat my daughters.

Though one would have to be naive in believing that all women would rather go for the nice guy.

Its always the cliche in Hollywood films, but the fact is there are women out there who would date someone who treats them badly rather than the guy who would treat them right. And those guys are usually the ones who have been friendzoned. 

[sofi]

I love my boyfriend cause he's kind, generous and considerate so I can't relate  lol..

[Ðœimi]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mxiybWDY2Mo

 

I don't know what happened to you. But there are a lot of women in this world and you don't even know a quarter of them. Stop being a dramatic crybaby and chill the fuck out. 

[ChungJoJo]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mxiybWDY2Mo

 

I don't know what happened to you. But there are a lot of women in this world and you don't even know a quarter of them. Stop being a dramatic crybaby and chill the fuck out. 

Iv'e never even dated anyone, but i do plan to sometime in the near future, and so i like to ask questions cause i wanna know things.

[Ðœimi]

Iv'e never even dated anyone, but i do plan to sometime in the near future, and so i like to ask questions cause i wanna know things.

Oh then good luck in the future! And don't worry so much just experience it yourself. 

[Girl Talk]

Because most of the time guys have no idea how to walk the line between attentive and clingy, between nice and self-entitled, between caring and condescending. 9 times out of 10 the guy complaining about nice guys finishing last is actually a dickhead. 

[tide]

no one's obligated to date you just cause you're """nice""". no one's obligated to even like you because you're nice. that's the whole thing about being a genuinely nice & kind person who-- you aren't that way because you expect something in return.

sure being nice/kind makes you more appealing but that's not the only aspect. maybe who you're pursuing doesn't think you're attractive, doesn't share your interests, or doesn't like your personality. that's okay.

also it's telling how supposed nice guys will go on about how nice they are turn possessive, entitled, and demeaning when rejected

[Eppo]

Ignoring for a minute that not nearly every woman is like that... It probably has something to do with the fact that society teaches girls from a young age that guys are supposed to chase after them. These girls get bored of it, take the "nice guys" for granted and go looking for a thrill somewhere else. They usually end up with a "bad boy" who treats them like shit because these guys pay very little attention to their needs and unlike "nice guys", don't give these girls what they are taking for granted every day.

[Zroi]

OP, it goes both ways. I would say both nice guys and nice girls finish last. 

 

Men who go out of their way to be extra nice usually do so at the cost of their own sense of self. Same goes for women. This is an unattractive quality and eventually, women will lose respect for a man like that (and vice versa),

 

DON'T be an ass just because you think it will get you more girls. Don't listen to those guys who say don't give a shit about women and they'll come running. It's a fragile way to think and the right woman will turn your insecurity inside out. Be confident in yourself, treat a woman right, but know when to call her out when she does stupid shit. A nice guy will put up with her shit and treat her like a princess who never poops, and THAT is what most women can't stand, despite what they say. 

 

But yeah, seriously don't listen to those guys. They end up becoming very bitter. 

[WenSuelRene]

I mean, I like nice guys so I can't relate  

[ChungJoJo]

OP, it goes both ways. I would say both nice guys and nice girls finish last. 

 

Men who go out of their way to be extra nice usually do so at the cost of their own sense of self. Same goes for women. This is an unattractive quality and eventually, women will lose respect for a man like that (and vice versa),

 

DON'T be an ass just because you think it will get you more girls. Don't listen to those guys who say don't give a shit about women and they'll come running. It's a fragile way to think and the right woman will turn your insecurity inside out. Be confident in yourself, treat a woman right, but know when to call her out when she does stupid shit. A nice guy will put up with her shit and treat her like a princess who never poops, and THAT is what most women can't stand, despite what they say. 

 

But yeah, seriously don't listen to those guys. They end up becoming very bitter. 

Very interesting, and thank you for your response. However, my question is, how do i call her out about the dumb things she does without leading her to be aggravated and suddenly lash out at me or will that just be something I will have to put up with, I mean I don't mind but it wouldn't hurt if she sat down and really thought about it before making up excuses and try to justify as to why she does the dumb things she does.

[Suzy Quatro]

I don't think that's entirely truth but it can work to be indifferent, about certain things, at the beginning in order to generate some interest in you. I think that if you're serious then they can't actually know what you're thinking or how you really are, so that generates interest and makes them wonder about it. So I think some girls could find that interesting at the beginning, if they're dumb then yeah, they can stick in pretty shit relationships for a long time but if you go overboard ignoring her then they will likely end up with somebody else sooner or later.

 

I consider myself a serious person and I think I do fine with girls but as someone who tends to be more cold and doesn't display a lot of affection I've noticed they lose interest if you also don't show any interest in them. So I think is best to treat them as equals and being nice and educated as possible; I just don't like opening up totally at the beginning.

[delfinos]

Because most of the time guys have no idea how to walk the line between attentive and clingy, between nice and self-entitled, between caring and condescending. 9 times out of 10 the guy complaining about nice guys finishing last is actually a dickhead.

 

you hit the nail right on the head. guys that claim that they are so "nice" aren't really as nice as they are appearing to be. people will act in an unnatural way where they aren't being themselves because they are trying to get something or someone to like them. when you have to boast about how nice you are in retaliation to not getting the girl, you aren't a genuinely nice person. 

[Caiii]

I'm not even gonna lie, i'm kinda like that. When feelings get requited, most of the time I feel... repulsed?