KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 30, 2017 Share Posted September 30, 2017 I was on a contract role, but unfortunately I couldn't get the permanent position, because I didn't score highly enough on the assessment. I was in that job for almost 6 months. I worked hard, and had the experience so I was really disappointed. They hired 5 people in total within my department, the other two was also in a contract but they became perm because they passed. Unfortunately, the recruitment campaign was 1-2 month after my fathers death. So I wasn't completely emotionally stable. Some of my colleagues gave me a lot of support at work though. I could always share how I was feeling, and could trust them. We talked to each other so much, that naturally I thought they were my friends. I had feelings for someone, as he was always there for me. Truthfully I didn't know what to do. I tried very hard to keep a distance, but I couldn't. So, when I asked him about this, he denied everything, even when he gave me very strong signs that he did like me (he was always staring at me, being extra nice to me, always helping me with everything, sitting close to me etc.) before I did confront him about this, I asked his close friend who I used to sit next to, because for some reason I had the feeling, he just wasn't going to tell me. I only asked her simply if he liked me in a romantic way, and she said no. That's all I asked from her, and told her not to say anything. Besides his close friend, I had only told one other person who I thought was my closest friend (as she supported me more than anyone). Anyway it did not end very well between me and him, because he tried to play it off as though I was the one bothering him, and it was nothing like that. He said he liked me but not in that way. I was really upset, because I was very sure he did. So, I thought it was my fault for misunderstanding the situation, in the end we were still able to just leave it there, and not mention it again. Unfortunately, my manager found out about what had happened between us, and basically I got in trouble because of that woman (the one who I asked the question to) as she was the one who told him, it really upset me because they made it seem as though I was the one to who was causing trouble, but I had always asked if him that if he did not feel comfortable, then I can sit away, but he always said no its alright. If he didn't like me, or he was feeling uncomfortable, he should have just told me. My close friend who I thought would support me, pretty much distanced herself from me (even though I said sorry to her and she said it was fine but she didn't even say goodbye to me on my last day) and the guy although still friendly also did the same. I sent her a text message saying I wanted to just thank her, and say goodbye, and I was very confused because she still seemed ok but she didn't reply back to my text message. I was still able to go in a relatively positive note though, because I spoke to my manager and explained why it happened (since my fathers death, he was the one who spent a lot of time with me, and everyone else pretty much abandoned me including my family/friends) so I felt very vulnerable, so they weren't too harsh then, and said its alright you just made a mistake. I haven't had any other issues, and I am not known for gossiping at all, I hardly ever say anything bad about anyone in the office. Rest of the office came to lunch with me on the last day, and they gave me flowers and a card, so I am not sure how they really feel. 4 weeks after I left, they advertised for the perm position again, I have the experience and knowledge, and some people are supportive of me, so I think I have a good chance to get it. However, I'm really scared. If I somehow do get to comeback, what will the reaction be like? Should I even bother? I did try really hard to at least smooth things over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tang 1,194 Posted September 30, 2017 Share Posted September 30, 2017 i think u shud go back it seems u enjoy it, dont let 3 ppl ruin it for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
al qaeda 5,837 Posted September 30, 2017 Share Posted September 30, 2017 i think u shud go back it seems u enjoy it, dont let 3 ppl ruin it for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 30, 2017 Author Share Posted September 30, 2017 i think u shud go back it seems u enjoy it, dont let 3 ppl ruin it for you I'm also worried what the managers really think as well. I didn't feel comfortable talking about I how felt about a colleague. Its too personal. I really wish they did not get involved, because it was resolved between us anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tang 1,194 Posted September 30, 2017 Share Posted September 30, 2017 I'm also worried what the managers really think as well. I didn't feel comfortable talking about I how felt about a colleague. Its too personal. I really wish they did not get involved, because it was resolved between us anyway.but did he have a say in gettin you back? if he did then he prob doesn think about it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 30, 2017 Author Share Posted September 30, 2017 but did he have a say in gettin you back? if he did then he prob doesn think about it He didn't say that he wanted me back directly, but during my last days he was talking a lot about having another recruitment campaign in front of me, if he didn't like me, then I guess he wouldn't have mentioned it at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eriy.m 2,900 Posted September 30, 2017 Share Posted September 30, 2017 Girl you suffered a lot, and you probably still are even if you think you're not. The answer to your question, is yes try to get that position, people come and go, don't make decisions based on them, you may be feeling really confused about this because you're probably still not completely mentally ok after what happened, but trust me get the job, be happy don't bother with people. You were really kind with them and tried to fix situations that didn't even need fixing but those persons made you feel bad about them anyways, so get the job and if you have to sit there alone and not talk to anybody, then so be it, that's the worse that can happen and it's not that bad right? PS. Don't try with that guy again, you're way better. If talks to you reply, if he doesn't don't talk to him at all. You need to move on, but he be delaying that for you. Good luck♡ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted October 1, 2017 Author Share Posted October 1, 2017 Girl you suffered a lot, and you probably still are even if you think you're not. The answer to your question, is yes try to get that position, people come and go, don't make decisions based on them, you may be feeling really confused about this because you're probably still not completely mentally ok after what happened, but trust me get the job, be happy don't bother with people. You were really kind with them and tried to fix situations that didn't even need fixing but those persons made you feel bad about them anyways, so get the job and if you have to sit there alone and not talk to anybody, then so be it, that's the worse that can happen and it's not that bad right? PS. Don't try with that guy again, you're way better. If talks to you reply, if he doesn't don't talk to him at all. You need to move on, but he be delaying that for you. Good luck♡ Thanks, I really liked what you said. I have just been beating myself over it for a while but I feel better now. I’ll try to get the job and see what happens Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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