KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 Ok, there is a possibility of this being caused by anxiety but it just made me really upset, and I felt like I needed to let this out, I haven't gone to the cinema in a long time, so I decided to watch 'IT' today with my brother. We were seated on the side (the rows were two seats each), so I needed to cross the middle, and some guys (I assume teenagers) just turned around completely to look at me as I walked passed, their row was full, and the one I went through was completely empty, then when we finally sat down, some teenage girls ahead of us, turned around completely and started staring at me for a while, then looked away smiling to themselves and they seem to have made some comments. It just made me feel really uncomfortable, I felt that I was like an alien or something. But this was not what upset me. There was a young couple (I assume mid 20's) sitting behind us. We bought some popcorn and nachos. My brother went to the toilet, and I decided to eat a bit of the popcorn whilst I was alone waiting for the movie to start, the trailers did not come on so I just looked at the screen anyway it was some guy just swiping his card. The guy behind me started making comments to his partner indirectly, but I knew it was about me. "Yeah lets just watch some guy swipe his card, and eat popcorn!" she laughed. Then when the movie started: He started making noises like "Oh scary...lets get our popcorn ready!" as soon as I took the popcorn from my brother. (Note there was nobody else that had popcorn ahead of us in our row) I immediately replied to my brother. "People are going to act really stupid" I said quite loudly. As a response I heard a whisper "Don't say anything now. She knows its about her." During the movie, there was a few comments here and there, such as when I was eating nachos "I want nachos as well." It just made me feel really uneasy like I was being watched. At the end, when the movie ended the couple just dashed through the crowd and the bitch said "What a shit movie, and people." I just stood and stared her down, and she glanced at me whilst saying that. It really soured my experience, because I couldn't really fully enjoy the movie, which wasn't all too great either to be fair, but I could do without the passive aggressive behaviour. I really wanted to say something more to them but people were going out, and they just went. I really fail to understand why strangers would waste their time, making rude comments about someone you don't know at all. You're just provoking a confrontation, if you're really that obvious about it. I keep thinking to myself that maybe I should have been more direct, but its difficult to confront someone about an indirect comment, and the movie already started, but it made me really angry and anxious through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GalaxunnieSuperOppa 5,997 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 What the heck was their deal? They know nothing about you OP. Someone probably needed a confidence boost. Don't let them get to you! And yeah i've had similar experiences. I bumped into someone in the hall and they called me a "b!tch". That was like 7th grade and I almost burst into tears. I still recognize her so I glare at her everytime I see her. Happens to me on here too. Sometimes people are just awful-they take out their feelings on anyone and anything. But they don't konw who we really are...so you gotta dust 'em off and keep going! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rukish 582 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 you should have said can you guys please be quite it's rude to talk during a movie and gave them the biggest fakes smile I got angry just reading that can't imagine how you must have felt, wtf did they go to a movie theater if all they are going to do is talk shit Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ñyan 1,712 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 Yes, after a while I told him to fuck off He was in love with me or sth just because he saw me walking in the campus, literally I didn't know him and I was a fucking freshman, but he knew where I lived, my phone number etc I was terrified but after a while I told him to fuck off or I would call the police I have never seen him again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 17, 2017 Author Share Posted September 17, 2017 What the heck was their deal? They know nothing about you OP. Someone probably needed a confidence boost. Don't let them get to you! And yeah i've had similar experiences. I bumped into someone in the hall and they called me a "b!tch". That was like 7th grade and I almost burst into tears. I still recognize her so I glare at her everytime I see her. Happens to me on here too. Sometimes people are just awful-they take out their feelings on anyone and anything. But they don't konw who we really are...so you gotta dust 'em off and keep going! That sounds awful. You could probably say to her that her behaviour was rude? if you see her again. I know, if it was maybe in the streets you could still brush it off, but when you are in the place, where you are supposed to relax and enjoy yourself, things like that really brings you down. you should have said can you guys please be quite it's rude to talk during a movie and gave them the biggest fakes smile I got angry just reading that can't imagine how you must have felt, wtf did they go to a movie theater if all they are going to do is talk shit I was really angry on the inside, and seriously I wanted nothing more than to have a go at them. I don't understand people like this. I didn't even look at them before, and they just started talking shit behind my back for no reason. I didn't want to bring attention to myself too much, so I assumed if I said that they were acting really stupid indirectly, they might have got the hint. Its just really shocking that you see adults acting like this. Do some couples feel insecure when they're together, that they take it out on someone to make themselves feel better? Yes, after a while I told him to fuck off He was in love with me or sth just because he saw me walking in the campus, literally I didn't know him and I was a fucking freshman, but he knew where I lived, my phone number etc I was terrified but after a while I told him to fuck off or I would call the police I have never seen him again Stalkers are the worst. Glad you were able to tell him that. There are some really weird people in this world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plutto 9,419 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 Wow, that was rude. If I were you I would fight them right there. Answering your question, yes, I've been harassed by strangers, though it was on the internet and not real life Back to when I was 8, I used to have a sn account where I innocently posted random pics and videos (of cartoons, animes, movies and sometimes even of myself). I used to be member of a group that talked about a very popular brazilian cartoon. One day, people from this group (slighty older than me) started to create topics targeting me, talking about how stupid the things I posted was or how ugly I was. I never did anything, I just logged out and never logged on that account again. It took me years until I got the courage to use sns again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Velveteer 2,595 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 that sounds like an awful experience; i'd probably break down in tears if that happened to me : / i hope you're doing better now, op not to me specifically, but when i was a freshman, my high school's journalism magnet took a trip to a national journalism convention in new york. we ended up taking the bus at some point and one lady went off on one of the editors of our multimedia website for using the word "like." she started saying shit about how our generation was illiterate and needed to learn how to speak and write properly and everything. ironically enough we won awards for best multimedia writing at the convention ceremony a few days later, lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 17, 2017 Author Share Posted September 17, 2017 Wow, that was rude. If I were you I would fight them right there. Answering your question, yes, I've been harassed by strangers, though it was on the internet and not real life Back to when I was 8, I used to have a sn account where I innocently posted random pics and videos (of cartoons, animes, movies and sometimes even of myself). I used to be member of a group that talked about a very popular brazilian cartoon. One day, people from this group (slighty older than me) started to create topics targeting me, talking about how stupid the things I posted was or how ugly I was. I never did anything, I just logged out and never logged on that account again. It took me years until I got the courage to use sns again. Maybe I should have, but I don't want to end up on YouTube ... They might have been jealous about the things you posted, and wanted attention somehow. Was there an option to report them? Any type of harassment, is just really horrible and it makes a person feel really anxious about it happening again. My response to those type of situations is fight (verbally) or flight, I have tried both and still it feels like shit, the person doing it just doesn't care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErikaEGO 8,626 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 That's honestly so weird ,OP do you live in a racist town or somewhere you are a minority? Either that or you just experienced the everyday assholes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helenzee 877 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 yeah, a redneck being racist in Indianapolis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 17, 2017 Author Share Posted September 17, 2017 that sounds like an awful experience; i'd probably break down in tears if that happened to me : / i hope you're doing better now, op not to me specifically, but when i was a freshman, my high school's journalism magnet took a trip to a national journalism convention in new york. we ended up taking the bus at some point and one lady went off on one of the editors of our multimedia website for using the word "like." she started saying shit about how our generation was illiterate and needed to learn how to speak and write properly and everything. ironically enough we won awards for best multimedia writing at the convention ceremony a few days later, lol Its good that didn't demotivate you guys. Some people feel that they have no connection with strangers, so they feel they can say what they want and behave inappropriately. I just find that really strange. I did cry... a lot when I was alone. Told my mum and as usual didn't take me seriously, so I didn't bother telling her more. I used to be able to tell my dad, and he always understood, but he died a few months ago... but thanks anyway, I appreciate it. I do feel better discussing it here. I was feeling like I was going a bit insane, thinking I was the only one, but it happens quite a lot to people, for various reasons. Thanks everyone for the responses. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KoreaBeau 381 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 gurl/bro I feel you idk why it happens to me all the time at the cinema idgi why would people do that to me I'm not like a beautiful person to be jealous at nor I look that awful that make people want to make fun of Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 Nope Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charan 303 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 One day at college when I was walking by the side of the road to the grocery store, I was looking at something and a car honked at me, I looked at it and there was a guy driving and girls in the car were laughing. Another time in my college's elevator, I got on with a guy and he asked what floor I needed, at my college you needed to swipe your ID card to get up the elevator unless you were on the second floor since there was a classroom there. I was on the sixth floor and the guy was on the second floor, so he didn't have his card out. I moved over quickly to swipe my card and he laughed at me for some reason. Both of those times made me feel awful like there was just something inherently wrong with me that made people laugh at me. But I have to just remember that assholes like this are super insecure and they have to knock down other people to make themselves feel good. You should really feel sorry for them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ByulHarangBona 35,161 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 No Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milkcafe 3,437 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 no Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nsfw 5,495 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 yes lmfao wtf many times Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nanisore 433 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 Yes, by a brat once Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peach Macaron 1,979 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 lmao once when i was walking home these teenage boys zoomed passed me in the car screeching as they turned the corner in front of me and one of them shouted BITCH at me before they screeched off. lowkey i'd hope they got into an accident bc they were swerving really hard down the road like dumbasses but it was just so silly that i brushed it off. there was also some kid in middle school who for like two weeks pretended he was madly in love with me and would literally not shut up talking to me and when i denied his advanced he said the only he had a "crush" on me was bc i looked like a man. idk what happened to him tho, we went to the same high school and either he dropped out or got expelled (neither would surprise me) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aziza94 84 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 yeah happen all the time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 A couple of randoms on the street. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted September 19, 2017 Share Posted September 19, 2017 I don't think so Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dontcare 177 Posted September 19, 2017 Share Posted September 19, 2017 Few times. There are couple of times i gone mad because of it but later, I'm just curious what had happened to them to act like that. Perhaps they're being look down or intimidated by other people that they're afraid of and then did the same to some random strangers. I just hope they find better things to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
al qaeda 5,837 Posted September 19, 2017 Share Posted September 19, 2017 Fortunately I have never experienced strangers harassing me. I have had a similar experience with people that I know, however. I fell out with a couple of my friends (a few years back) and every time they saw me, they'd make snide little remarks about me. But they would make it out like they were insulting each other, one person would say to the other: "you're such a snake"... etcetcetc. But I knew it was secretly about me... it really made me want to break down in tears and run away. But now we've all made up and everyone gone on their own path (but those people were really petty and I'm glad I don't hang out with them anymore). I'm so sorry OP, that must've been such a terrible thing to experience. I'm actually looking forward to watching that movie but if something like that happened to me too, it would really ruin the whole experience of the movie for me too. I'm glad that you tried to stand up to yourself though, you show 'em who's boss! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gâ„“impse 748 Posted September 19, 2017 Share Posted September 19, 2017 yes, sometimes but usually I ignore them and stay far away from them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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