YeoChin Fairies 1,989 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 So I got accepted in university and it's really far away from where I am currently living with my family. The place is somehow dangerous and lot's of girls get raped every year and murders happen and there isn't a dorm so I gotta rent a house and live by myself. But still I'm of age (18) and consider myself mature enough if not fully to live alone,yet my parents aren't letting me go. If they continue this way I'm probably gonna miss my chance and I will be banned from going to university for 2 years if I don't go now. I'm so depressed because I didn't graduate to reach nothing for now. TT Would you live far away from your parents? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jwoo 319 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 you going india? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Essay 825 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 I want to But I'm broke asf so im only moving an hour away to the closest city Living expenses in my capitol city is cronic and I wouldn't be able to find accomadation Id prefer not to make my family bankrupt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liliana 7,771 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 Yeah I mean I would, but would still visit them during holidays and all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YeoChin Fairies 1,989 Posted September 17, 2017 Author Share Posted September 17, 2017 you going india? Nope but that's near to india lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nelkoya 17,769 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 I guess your parents are protective because they know you're going to a dangerous neighborhood... Maybe if you could live with someone your parents trust ? Like do you have any close friend that is going to this uni too ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arex 2,495 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 The place is somehow dangerous and lot's of girls get raped every year and murders happen and there isn't a dorm so I gotta rent a house and live by myself. This is a good enough reason for me to stay the fuck away from that place. I would love to move far away from my parents, but I would not if this is the case Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YeoChin Fairies 1,989 Posted September 17, 2017 Author Share Posted September 17, 2017 I guess your parents are protective because they know you're going to a dangerous neighborhood... Maybe if you could live with someone your parents trust ? Like do you have any close friend that is going to this uni too ? Nope that's a place where families usually don't send their daughters to alone but I find it sexist so I really wanna go :/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nelkoya 17,769 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 Nope that's a place where families usually don't send their daughters to alone but I find it sexist so I really wanna go :/ Well I would certainly not send my kids to a place where rapes and murderers are a common thing too... It's not about sexism, it's about your safety, try to think about it from a parent point of view. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miekos 24,408 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 I would but not to some dangerous place Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kyrie 6,251 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 My mom yeah, my Dad no. Even moreso than that, I want to be around my brother. He's my best friend. I hope you can find a solution that works for both you and your parents, OP! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shocking blue 7,514 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 I've lived far from my parents before, it was fine to experience (though I ended up moving back home lol!) Why would you be banned from university for 2 years? Were there other universities you could go to or is this the only one? If it's that dangerous I would probably be deterred from going, safety is really more important than anything else. I guess your only option could be to get in contact with people who are also going to study there and work out a situation where you could share renting a house, safety in numbers and all that. I really wouldn't risk living alone in a place like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YeoChin Fairies 1,989 Posted September 17, 2017 Author Share Posted September 17, 2017 I've lived far from my parents before, it was fine to experience (though I ended up moving back home lol!) Why would you be banned from university for 2 years? Were there other universities you could go to or is this the only one? If it's that dangerous I would probably be deterred from going, safety is really more important than anything else. I guess your only option could be to get in contact with people who are also going to study there and work out a situation where you could share renting a house, safety in numbers and all that. I really wouldn't risk living alone in a place like that. That's the law of the country,if you get accepted in public university and don't attend the same year,you will be banned from for the next 2 years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aziza94 84 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 no I wouldn't , who would help me pay rent then Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shocking blue 7,514 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 That's the law of the country,if you get accepted in public university and don't attend the same year,you will be banned from for the next 2 years. oh..that's a pesky law Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PÅ«cha 522 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 I'm going to have to since I'm going back to my home country for university and my parents won't be coming back until a few years after I get resettled. OP stay safe! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chanyeolears 2,221 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 i can, but only for a short period of time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azran 574 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 I lived 500kms away from my parents for university, and I now live 3500kms away from them. This is all in the same country though, so it might be a little different for you. Plus my country and the places I live/d aren't considered crime capitals.... Where exactly are you wanting to move, OP? Is it a different country or just a bigger city? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YeoChin Fairies 1,989 Posted September 17, 2017 Author Share Posted September 17, 2017 I lived 500kms away from my parents for university, and I now live 3500kms away from them. This is all in the same country though, so it might be a little different for you. Plus my country and the places I live/d aren't considered crime capitals.... Where exactly are you wanting to move, OP? Is it a different country or just a bigger city? Well,if your curious,that's my own country,but really far away from my city.It's very different from where I'm living. Pretty much the only unsafe place here. It's not THAT bad but yeah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoneGirl 2,737 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 I would if it was necessary, but I really don't want to. I want to be able to visit my parents every Sunday just like I'm used to. In your case OP, if going to uni right now is the most important thing for you, try to convince your parents with your arguments.They have the best for you in mind and you might not agree, but it's worth hearing them out and maybe you'll reach a common ground. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azran 574 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 Well,if your curious,that's my own country,but really far away from my city.It's very different from where I'm living. Pretty much the only unsafe place here. It's not THAT bad but yeah I'm afraid I can't see that image you've posted :( As for your problem, I'm usually the first person to call out this sort of sexism (as I've travelled solo to other countries and believe all girls should have the chance to), but in this case it does sound more like your parents are legitimately concerned about your safety vs. not wanting you to leave ~because you're a girl and the world is unsafe~. IDK, my parents are pretty chill about my travels but if I said I wanted to move somewhere infamous for rapes/murders, they'd definitely kick up a stink about it. I still haven't told them that an infamous sexual assault + murder in my country (of a woman my age, made national news a few years ago) happened just down the road from where I'm now living, because they would freak out :/ I think your best bet is to talk to someone at the university - surely you can't be the first young woman who wants to study there from out of town. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hatsu Nyel 655 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 yes. i will go Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xguiltykissx 15 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 I am already living in another country, but it only 1 or 2 hr away by plane. My mom and stepdad are pretty chill about us traveling and going places. They just let us roam around freely, but if I told them I am going to a dangerous place that rape and murder occur frequently I am pretty sure they going to stop me right there. Though the chance of me wanting to go to a dangerous place is zero to none because I am so paranoid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 Hmm Yeah I could but that doesn't mean I don't love them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ByulHarangBona 35,161 Posted September 17, 2017 Share Posted September 17, 2017 No. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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