KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 This is not the only time I have seen this, thus the rant. Is there an unwritten rule somewhere, which states that men in groups of two or more, should act like idiots in front of women? I was watching my mum sweep the floor at the front of our house, it started raining so I bought an umbrella, and I didn't see them before, but when I looked ahead there were two Asian men, that basically slowed down their car in front of our house, (there was no other cars in front of them) and the guy that was facing our side, started staring at me with a slight smile for a while, then I think he made a comment to the guy who was driving, and he looked as well, then he started looking at me as well. When my mum noticed them, they drove off. Why do some guys think its alright to look at women, like zoo animals? I was not wearing anything special, nor was I seeking for attention. What do they get out of looking at someone, who is clearly not interested, nor even considering the possibility of looking. She's just minding her own business. What gives them the right to give an opinion, in such an obvious way like that. I didn't smile either. When a woman is not smiling nor appreciating the interest, then what do you get out of it? Its actually really creepy and almost terrifying, especially if you're not going to say anything, nor approach them. We don't know what you are actually thinking. Sorry if I have offended any guys here, who actually respect women. It just really upset me the way they looked at me. It made me feel cheap... I just don't like the way people do stuff like that. If you genuinely find someone attractive, looking at them like a piece of meat isn't smart at all. If you are interested, then saying hello to them, being yourself without pressuring women is better. Yeah, you might get rejected, but heck you will be a lot more respected by the right women, than be standard considered a creep and forgotten. Also, some men seem to forget that most women, don't usually choose random people off the street, we actually need to know you. Likewise if you're serious, then obviously you can't be in a relationship based off looks alone. When things like this happen, it makes me feel like my only existence is just to be viewed, and not one fuck is given about how I am on the inside. Again, sorry for the rant, I just don't understand some men's behaviour. Its really disappointing...my trust gets affected, and I get anxiety because of this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ðœimi 5,933 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 I just hate it when men do this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nini Bear 3,530 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 i hate it when men do it too but it's not something exclusive to men lmao, i've seen many women do the same to them. this behaviour should just not happen regardless who does it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nero_Kpop 835 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 We should make a law against it!! No seriously, if you can't handle people stares stay in your house, you are not cut out for society Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 9, 2017 Author Share Posted September 9, 2017 We should make a law against it!! No seriously, if you can't handle people stares stay in your house, you are not cut out for society Thanks, I really appreciate your input in this thread. Very insightful. There's always one comment, even when I said it in the nicest possible way. I have been handling it, but it doesn't make it less painful and degrading. Its actually a serious issue in society. It goes for both men and women, when they don't respect peoples boundaries, and do stuff like this for attention. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jcey 7,752 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 I can't say how much men get this sort of treatment but as a woman, I myself have experienced stuff like this and all the girls I know have too. Its guys rolling their windows down, honking, just looking at you or saying things when you are walking about minding your own business. Most of the time it is not enough to call it a harassment but it just doesn't feel nice. Like OP said I don't mind if guys give us a smile or talk like normal human beings. Just staring from head to toe and saying things like hey babe..creepy looks..etc, Please don't. Ofcourse those are just creeps though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marshmallows 9,902 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 Yeah it's stupid. Girls usually exit from another door in my school and some guys gather around this door just to see the girls it makes us uncomfortable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 maybe they thought you are beautiful, i dont know when I see a beautiful guy I stare at him, but not so much he would notice btw its funny tho how are guys courageous only in groups lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wanderess 3,209 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 It's really awful. Not sure what's worse when they whistle/shout degrading shit or silently stare in the most perverted way. Some men truly need a re-education tbh. I just don't understand how they function in their daily life... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fourever 3,231 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 A man holding a drink stopped me in the streets and called me beautiful when I was 15. Sounds nice? fuck I hated it. Years later and I still remember it. Why do men think they're free to say whatever they want? Does a 15 year old really want a compliment from a drunk man? Also been whistled at and witnessed public masturbation. All of this occurred during daytime hours. Never had a problem like this from women. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nero_Kpop 835 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 Thanks, I really appreciate your input in this thread. Very insightful. There's always one comment, even when I said it in the nicest possible way. I have been handling it, but it doesn't make it less painful and degrading. Its actually a serious issue in society. It goes for both men and women, when they don't respect peoples boundaries, and do stuff like this for attention. What you wanted only comfort answers? I'm sorry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
� redie � 2,849 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 Honestly I almost never liked guys commenting on my appearance for some reason, even if I got really dressed up something about it just feels off. Idk. In any case I'm really sorry that happened and you felt uncomfortable, people really shouldn't do this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
金彩媛 1,795 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 a lot of women do that too in front of men Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
internalizedhomophobia 1,973 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 They're actually government secret agents who want to recruit you to their exclusive, secretive program for young people. Be aware Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kami 9,209 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 Well there is no written rule where it says a man can't look at a women in a perverse way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hypocritesfandoms 0 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 I'm a guy and even I suffer it too, I can't imagine how women feel about it since it must be even worse for you, men in group have to show their manliness and become even more stupid, grab any of them alone and they will be like a puppy, a totally different person, I have many acquitances like this sadly. Education is the key to avoid this kind of behaviour cause we are already in 20 fucking 17. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovingu2 1,959 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 this happens all the time to me and it sucks it really does make me feel cheap Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 10, 2017 Author Share Posted September 10, 2017 What you wanted only comfort answers? I'm sorry This thread is for actual discussion. People sharing their experiences. You don't need to comment here again. Sent from my iPhone using OneHallyu mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nero_Kpop 835 Posted September 10, 2017 Share Posted September 10, 2017 Stop commenting. This thread is for actual discussion. People sharing their experiences. You don't offer anything relevant. Sent from my iPhone using OneHallyu mobile app Let's just say that you are like a rich complaining about paying taxes, if you are pretty make the most of it and don't bother yourself with the small drawbacks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ariloveskpop 1 Posted September 10, 2017 Share Posted September 10, 2017 I hate it too! There are women who do this as well trust me, but usually I get this trouble from guys. Women will stare, but guys will approach, that's my experience. Sent from my HUAWEI LUA-L02 using OneHallyu mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted September 10, 2017 Author Share Posted September 10, 2017 Let's just say that you are like a rich complaining about paying taxes, if you are pretty make the most of it and don't bother yourself with the small drawbacks. How is that relevant to anything? Your example makes no sense. So your basically saying that due to looks someone should just accept disgusting behaviour like that. Make the most of what? Some women actually don't like unwanted attention from random men whenever they go. With that type of thinking, things will never change. Also if someone did that to your mother, or if you had a sister or a partner then is that ok? No. I don't think so. I genuinely don't think you understand, most likely because you haven't experienced it like some of the people in this thread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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