IceSmile 895 Posted September 3, 2017 Share Posted September 3, 2017 I have a friend, my best friend, whom I have been friends for for years. We're a bit of opposites and we enjoyed that dynamic. Recently tho, I feel super insecure because I feel like she's copying me. I know I should take this in a good light and she does tell me a lot how much of an influence I am to her. She even says she's like a total extrovert now. She's not but I liked how she is more open now. But I am seriously annoyed for at least 8 months now because she's been copying my hairstyles. I wore a short hair cut, she cut her hair too. I wore a longer bob cut, and she copied that too... even the styling. Now I tell her I will grow my hair, and she told me she can't wait for her hair to grow too. PETTY I KNOW. But I feel like such a mean friend. Am I just a total vain meanie. . . I usually don't mind this but I feel like my identity is slowly being swallowed. I don't mean to be evil about it that's why I'm sharing my situation... because I feel threatened. Anyway I know in the end it's our own lives we live but I just triggered there a bit... I'll get over it in a few hours :I Thank you for reading. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happykpopper 967 Posted September 3, 2017 Share Posted September 3, 2017 She's a psycho Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sexy Wang 1,541 Posted September 3, 2017 Share Posted September 3, 2017 use pepper spray Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceSmile 895 Posted September 3, 2017 Author Share Posted September 3, 2017 She's a psycho Well, she has a bit of low selfesteem and lost most of our friends too :( I don't know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 That's weird but I think it's nothing to be too worried... yet. She might be a psycho or just has some confidence issues but if I were you I would just try to help her to find a style that suits her better and be very emphatic about how it would be best for her and how it ONLY suits her. If you have that much influence over her you just need to make her wear something different than you based on her being a different person with different features both physically and personality wise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceSmile 895 Posted September 4, 2017 Author Share Posted September 4, 2017 That's weird but I think it's nothing to be too worried... yet. She might be a psycho or just has some confidence issues but if I were you I would just try to help her to find a style that suits her better and be very emphatic about how it would be best for her and how it ONLY suits her. If you have that much influence over her you just need to make her wear something different than you based on her being a different person with different features both physically and personality wise. She is very insecure. I have! For years I have encouraged her finding her own style but even in dating... buying phones. Call me paranoid but whatever... I'm not really someone mean. But It makes me feel so weird. I have been encouraging her to come out of her shell... she does now little by little but I get so irked she's somehow following my patterns now. I did tell her that I do feel uncomfortable and confronted her one time but of course she got offended and somewhat told me I don't own the style haha and that she's "sorry". of course I don't. She wears different clothes but some things... it just annoys me I feel like I can't be myself anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
in good taste 213 Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 That's annoying af. i had a friend like that once too and I just let her be.. but it was super annoying -_- Surely there are parts of you she can't copy... I'm really into books/writing & drawing, and my friend just couldn't get into those hobbies. I decided to focus on those instead. shes just struggling with her identity for now. Don't lose your friendship over it, she'll grow into herself sooner or later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sana Minatozaki 3,305 Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 that's super annoying omg Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
miharudesu 1,916 Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 I think she's idolizing you. Like how some girls copy the celebrities they like and try to pattern how they look or how they dress with that celebrity, only in this case you're the celebrity. It might not mean anything and she might not even be aware she's making you uncomfortable, but if she has really low self esteem then by copying you she might be "borrowing" ideas on how to build her confidence. Just be patient or try to encourage her to find something "unique" for her (like accessories for her hair or clothes). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceSmile 895 Posted September 5, 2017 Author Share Posted September 5, 2017 That's annoying af. i had a friend like that once too and I just let her be.. but it was super annoying -_- Surely there are parts of you she can't copy... I'm really into books/writing & drawing, and my friend just couldn't get into those hobbies. I decided to focus on those instead. shes just struggling with her identity for now. Don't lose your friendship over it, she'll grow into herself sooner or later. True. We've been friends for years now and recently I realised I need some space from her so that I can find who I am again and be confident in that. Thank you for the advice! I think she's idolizing you. Like how some girls copy the celebrities they like and try to pattern how they look or how they dress with that celebrity, only in this case you're the celebrity. It might not mean anything and she might not even be aware she's making you uncomfortable, but if she has really low self esteem then by copying you she might be "borrowing" ideas on how to build her confidence. Just be patient or try to encourage her to find something "unique" for her (like accessories for her hair or clothes). I am confident she is not aware and she has a low selfesteem. I do think that is what she is doing, borrowing ideas. Thank you for your advice! I will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
리�윤 2,648 Posted September 5, 2017 Share Posted September 5, 2017 kinda remind me of how patrick try to copied spongebob sorry i know it isn't not the mood to say that kind of comment but there was an answer to your situation in that episode as annoyed as you are to her if you think she is a friend that precious to you try to talk to her in a good way it's not like she had done something that really do harm to you because if you act like you're annoyed and show it to her she could feel betrayed and probably decide to do something to you that kind of person have a different way of thinking but if she just a "friend" to you you could just ignore her tho as long as she don't do you any harm the best way to face an attention seeker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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