YNRA 1,082 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 i want to be one of those ppl who hangs out with a different person every day/weekend but like so far its been 10 days since i got here and i only have 1 friend group and theyre not in my classes all the ppl in my classes act like theyre too busy for me is there one thing you can do to attract people? im already very nice, and im not too ugly so idk why people dont like me what are your tips for being a very social extravert? i get lonely easily and i dont want to bother the same people all the time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose. 4,207 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 have you tried talking to them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YNRA 1,082 Posted August 30, 2017 Author Share Posted August 30, 2017 have you tried talking to them um yeah duh but like they arent engaging Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheese_it 8,304 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 relatable. help us um yeah duh but like they arent engaging Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose. 4,207 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 um yeah duh but like they arent engaging I don't know, I just try to make small talks with them and eventually we're cool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YNRA 1,082 Posted August 30, 2017 Author Share Posted August 30, 2017 I don't know, I just try to make small talks with them and eventually we're cool. can you give me an example of your small talk/convos maybe im doing it wrong Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheese_it 8,304 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 you are the most relatable person i have met in my life can you give me an example of your small talk/convos maybe im doing it wrong Yeah usually its small talk then awkward silence I don't know, I just try to make small talks with them and eventually we're cool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose. 4,207 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 can you give me an example of your small talk/convos maybe im doing it wrong I just asked them how they like the class so far and what's their plans for the future. Then I try to find common things with them. Some people have more common things about each other than you think. Just appear friendly and open minded. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VANTE 4,595 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 be funny Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JR's Pocky 1,184 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 try to relate to them maybe? maybe ask them if they like [insert subject]. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose. 4,207 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 Yeah usually its small talk then awkward silence You just gotta test the water with them. Eventually they'll be cool with you. Not everyone's the same with how they take a stranger's approach. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YNRA 1,082 Posted August 30, 2017 Author Share Posted August 30, 2017 be funny i think im funny Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheese_it 8,304 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 I wish I can be as funny as V be funny how do u find out what u have in common with that person I just asked them how they like the class so far and what's their plans for the future. Then I try to find common things with them. Some people have more common things about each other than you think. Just appear friendly and open minded. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose. 4,207 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 how do u find out what u have in common with that person Just talk to them every day in class, ask them questions. It's really not that hard if you're really intent on getting to know the individual Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manusmriti 133 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 "hang out with diff person every week" doesnt sound tight to me but hey i did the same until i found a good friend small talk works wonders, plus u can safely test the waters by asking them abt stuff going on, like, did u join any college club/committee? why? u used to do it before in elementary? nice! go sit with them in lunch or something and get to know them. unless ur actually an introvert, dont kill ur spark by being reserved all the time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceSmile 895 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 I think timing is really important in your case. Why not invite them for a party or an activity/event? Something where you can find things in common. Small talk is easy especially in a classroom setting. I think being brazen and inviting the right people is the key. You can't force people but you can act and put some effort in getting yourself out there. If you're extroverted in general, I suggest just keep talking with them.10 days is still a bit early to have anything fixed. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheese_it 8,304 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 how do u ask them to hang out "hang out with diff person every week" doesnt sound tight to me but hey i did the same until i found a good friend small talk works wonders, plus u can safely test the waters by asking them abt stuff going on, like, did u join any college club/committee? why? u used to do it before in elementary? nice! go sit with them in lunch or something and get to know them. unless ur actually an introvert, dont kill ur spark by being reserved all the time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manusmriti 133 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 Just talk to them every day in class, ask them questions. It's really not that hard if you're really intent on getting to know the individual yep this is great advice bcos we need to talk to a person not necessarily bcos we want to make a friend or air our views upon them. we shud talk to them to first get to know them a little deeper Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose. 4,207 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 yep this is great advice bcos we need to talk to a person not necessarily bcos we want to make a friend or air our views upon them. we shud talk to them to first get to know them a little deeper It's really not that hard. But I can tell you from experience there's just some others who you just don't click with and are better off not trying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manusmriti 133 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 how do u ask them to hang out sit with them in class or sit with them in lunch like she above said we gotta be a bit "brazen" are u extroverted? if u are extrovert, 10 days is a little late but thats okay! since 10 days is enough for things to have kickstarted in school. ask them abt the stuff happening in college, just talk to them for 2-5 minutes on the first day....then see if u can hangout within the week at lunch or after school Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheese_it 8,304 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 im an introvert sit with them in class or sit with them in lunch like she above said we gotta be a bit "brazen" are u extroverted? if u are extrovert, 10 days is a little late but thats okay! since 10 days is enough for things to have kickstarted in school. ask them abt the stuff happening in college, just talk to them for 2-5 minutes on the first day....then see if u can hangout within the week at lunch or after school Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caiii 1,420 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 Instead of focusing all your brain power trying to be the most interesting person alive, just try to be interested. Just ask lots of questions, about their hobby or how they're liking the week so far, people love talking about themselves! If you dont hit it off, move on to the next person or try again some time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manusmriti 133 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 but tbvvvh dont stress too much abt changing urself to suit others and their way of talking. its natural to not click with people - being an extrovert i can say that i was a quiet person for 6 months at a new school cuz noone clicked with me. i got into uni and found many ppl who clicked with me, it was fun. be urself. the right person might find YOU too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manusmriti 133 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 im an introvert ask ppl stuff and make them talk abt themselves dont be too shy of asking, ppl LOOOOVE to elaborate their little stories Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
� redie � 2,849 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 Walk up to people and put ur foot on their desk really obnoxiously Works for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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