taeyeoni 670 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 Hello, i'm an annoying Friend, this is not self loathing. I've been observing myself and have found that it's true. I don't know how not to be an annoying Friend though... I need advice, and effective advice. Also although is it possible of making ammends and undoing the image of being an annoying Friend that my friends have of me? Meaning, they think I am an annoying Friend but if I change my ways I can also change their mind?? Thank you so much Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reipaca 4,666 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 How are you annoying? Can you explain? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Potter 492 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 No one likes an annoying friend but to you, you might seem annoying but what if your friends don't feel like that at all? Just confirm that they do find you annoying before you take action because you might be making a problem when there's none at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baeks Flat Ass 1,172 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 How are you annoying? Can you explain? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taeyeoni 670 Posted August 23, 2017 Author Share Posted August 23, 2017 How are you annoying? Can you explain? I text them pretty frequently, whenever I talk to them I get too excited and keep calling on them to talk to me quite frequently, like asking for their attention too much. I'm too dominant? In coversations meaning I do most of the talking without giving them a chance to speak.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeTaS 3,372 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 You can't please everyone, just be yourself. But why exactly do you think you're annoying? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aquamaraqua 4,293 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 I text them pretty frequently, whenever I talk to them I get too excited and keep calling on them to talk to me quite frequently, like asking for their attention too much. I'm too dominant? In coversations meaning I do most of the talking without giving them a chance to speak.. Maybe you might need to get another hobby? Do some soul searching and see what you want to do. It seems like you're too dependent on your friends to humor you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SGT 5,352 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 stop doing the thing that's making you annoying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baeks Flat Ass 1,172 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 it's natural to want to talk to your friends, maybe listen more than talk and try to restrain yourself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pain 5 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 Befriend people who appreciates you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 You can either change your personality or get friends that are talkative and hyper like you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zhou JieQUEEN-ong 809 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 Maybe you should look for a part-time job. You'll get busy, earn some money and let your friends breathe for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reipaca 4,666 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 I text them pretty frequently, whenever I talk to them I get too excited and keep calling on them to talk to me quite frequently, like asking for their attention too much. I'm too dominant? In coversations meaning I do most of the talking without giving them a chance to speak.. Mhmm, I see. Like a user said above me, you shouldn't try to change yourself to please others, because then you'd end up feeling like you can't be yourself. However there are some things you could do that wouldn't really change you, and at the same time might please your friends like giving them a chance to speak, apologizing if you notice that you've been talking a lot and not listening... stuff like that. Personally, I don't feel like you're that annoying. You're just enthusiastic and energetic, and I get that some people might not like that but it's how you are and you should be proud. Your friends should also feel loved that you text them a lot. So, you shouldn't really change, just tone it down a bit. Try listening to them, and I think you should ask them if you bother them or not. Hope I helped ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeTaS 3,372 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 I text them pretty frequently, whenever I talk to them I get too excited and keep calling on them to talk to me quite frequently, like asking for their attention too much. I'm too dominant? In coversations meaning I do most of the talking without giving them a chance to speak.. maybe, try to be a better listener? It's not fun talking if it's a one way conversation, but there are always exception. Your friends may want you to take the lead, you never know. They may enjoy your rambling lol. Good luck hope and you feel better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn 356 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 You don't need to change yourself. What kind of "friend" would request that? Give them space if your energy becomes overwhelming for them. Apologize if you feel like it. Talk to each other if it bothers you. Re: Apologizing. Don't make it excessive, because saying "sorry" for the 1000th time can get annoying. I know that people are trying to make sure that they did nothing wrong, but excessive apologizing is annoying because it's almost self-deprecating—like, they're being too hard on themselves, or they believe that they don't deserve to be forgiven. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tang 1,194 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 hear your friends out first. tell them how you feel and ask how much of it they see. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyungie 467 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 You're self aware enough to realize your faults, which puts you ahead of a LOT of annoying people, trust me. What advice can we give other than to curb these habits? If you think you should dial back, go for it. But if you've reached these conclusions on your own, maybe your friends don't even have a problem with it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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