WestWorld 1,213 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 So I've dated this guy for several months. Not only was he was my bf, but my best friend. Before I dated him, I was in an abusive relationship with someone who has cheated on me multiple times, degraded me verbally, and physically harmed me. After this relationship, I was in a dark and depressing place I thought I couldn't ever get out of until I met my recent ex. Out of all my exes he treated me the best (or so I thought). When I was sick, he comforted me, when I was depressed he listened to me. I told him so many things about myself I never told others. I trusted him so much and even thought of marriage with him. We broke up like a month ago because we were starting to argue a lot but it was an amicable break up. We remained friends until he told me he was feeling guilty about something and confessed he had been cheating on me with his ex girlfriend and now I'm in complete shock. I don't understand..why do people hurt others like this? Why couldn't he just told me he wanted to break up with me because he didn't love me anymore? Maybe I'm the stupid one for trusting him so much or maybe there's something wrong with me if guys treat me like crap for some reason. I keep thinking if I'm a bad person to deserve something like this. I'm just so hurt and depressed right now because I honestly believed he would never treat me like that. I believed he sincerely loved me but if you love someone, why would you hurt them like that? He even cursed out the abusive ex boyfriend but they both ended up cheating me on..I feel like I'm going back to that dark place and I feel scared. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atsuko 216 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Release your anger girl, trash his car his everything lets go!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~CinnamonBuns~ 2,259 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Do you need someone to talk to? You can always PM me. You are NOT stupid. This is NOT your fault. It's okay to be scared. This is out of your comfort zone. Someone you just trusted just betrayed you. Please surround yourself with people you love OP. This will keep you out a dark place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teru 22,363 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 there's nothing wrong with you, many dudes are just trash baguettes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Ayy Big Gay 8,172 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 i dont know you, but i love you ♡ i hope you feel better in time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoopBoop2 519 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boba 3,795 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 there's nothing wrong with you. don't hate yourself for this, it is absolutely not your fault Release your anger girl, trash his car his everything lets go!!! DONT do that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atsuko 216 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 there's nothing wrong with you. don't hate yourself for this, it is absolutely not your fault DONT do that He deserves it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atulvells 2,265 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Don't worry, that guy is way past his expiry date. You, on the other hand, are non-perishable. Ignore that son of a cow, he is back where he belongs. He doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve such a horrible partner. If you need someone to talk to, my PM is always open so feel free. Stay safe and don't do anything silly. You can do it, OH is supporting you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Königin 386 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Do not blame yourself because of his actions. There's nothing wrong with you. He is the one that cheated and now no longer your BF. Surround yourself with your real friends and family members. If you're struggling with depression you should seek help. Men can always be replaced and there's plenty of them. It's just difficult finding the right one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 You just need more self confidence, it is bad when someone cheats on you but that's just something you can't control and there's nothing wrong with trusting people even if they disappoint you. However once someone violates your trust you just have to get rid of that person or stop giving them more opportunities and move on. Like I hope you aren't talking to that guy anymore, and while it's normal to be depressed and feel like shit you will have to move on eventually. My only advice would be to judge people by their actions and how they treat you and don't get swayed by compliments or them telling you nice things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Many dudes are trash. Its okay release your inner self Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 He is responsible for his bad actions, not you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kizute 797 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 I'm so sorry for what happenned Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nev Schulman 7,948 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 So I've dated this guy for several months. Not only was he was my bf, but my best friend. Before I dated him, I was in an abusive relationship with someone who has cheated on me multiple times, degraded me verbally, and physically harmed me. After this relationship, I was in a dark and depressing place I thought I couldn't ever get out of until I met my recent ex. Out of all my exes he treated me the best (or so I thought). When I was sick, he comforted me, when I was depressed he listened to me. I told him so many things about myself I never told others. I trusted him so much and even thought of marriage with him. We broke up like a month ago because we were starting to argue a lot but it was an amicable break up. We remained friends until he told me he was feeling guilty about something and confessed he had been cheating on me with his ex girlfriend and now I'm in complete shock. I don't understand..why do people hurt others like this? Why couldn't he just told me he wanted to break up with me because he didn't love me anymore? Maybe I'm the stupid one for trusting him so much or maybe there's something wrong with me if guys treat me like crap for some reason. I keep thinking if I'm a bad person to deserve something like this. I'm just so hurt and depressed right now because I honestly believed he would never treat me like that. I believed he sincerely loved me but if you love someone, why would you hurt them like that? He even cursed out the abusive ex boyfriend but they both ended up cheating me on..I feel like I'm going back to that dark place and I feel scared. Wheesung sang about this before do listen to this song as he can relate. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tuiMDKgULh8 @1:05 For the chorus, I'm sure you can relate to the whole song. Hope the song help you soothe your pain. You don't deserve it the guy is an ass for portraying someone he was not. Cheaters are the worst but all I can say is time will heal you. Never blame yourself for other people's wrong decisions. Cheating is not something that can be prevented, he chose to do that, but you need to choose to continue to stay strong and not to blame yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oli London 1,762 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 I'm so sorry. You deserve better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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