Balancetonquoi 4,707 Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 Dont mind my grammar im a beginner So I change my mind too much and I like to negociate to make things easier for me before thinking about others So for example if I see that it will make me in trouble I will change my mind or if I see that im too tired to go out I will cancel the date (friendship date because I dont have a boyfriend) i personally dont care if someone cancel a date at the last minute I dont get mad at all but when I do it people get mad ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur Morgan 3,556 Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 oui Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balancetonquoi 4,707 Posted August 14, 2017 Author Share Posted August 14, 2017 oui :'( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vocalmonster 3,603 Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 It depends If it's a special occasion or smth you've been planning for a while I would be mad But if it's some last minute meetup I wouldn't get upset over it It also depends on how far you live away and how often ye meet up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pessego 2,194 Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 No I can't read it let me fix it sis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arthur Morgan 3,556 Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 :'( honnetement , the negotiating thing isnt that bad. Im in business and we negotiate all the time, its not bad, its just you taking advantage of your skills in an ethical way. The cancelling last min depends on the context, but if you cancel often on friends, theyre eventually gonna stop inviting you to places, so if you care about that then dont cancel too much, its better to tell them from the start you cant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pessego 2,194 Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 No I can't read it let me fix it sis Dont mind my grammar im a beginner So I change my mind too much and I like to negotiate to make things easier for me before thinking about others. So for example if I see that I will be in trouble I will change my mind or I will say I'm too tired to go out so I'll cancel the date (friendship date because I dont have a boyfriend) Me personally, I dont care if someone cancels a date at the last minute. I dont get mad at all but when I do it people get mad ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adelightfulsong 1,656 Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 Dont mind my grammar im a beginner So I change my mind too much and I like to negociate to make things easier for me before thinking about others So for example if I see that it will make me in trouble I will change my mind or if I see that im too tired to go out I will cancel the date (friendship date because I dont have a boyfriend) i personally dont care if someone cancel a date at the last minute I dont get mad at all but when I do it people get mad ... You sound like a narcissist. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
L'ASSE 141 Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 I don't think it's that bad, but I know many will think otherwise. My advice is just try to stay true to your words. If you don't think you can change, talk to people and warn them beforehand. See if they can tolerate your behavior and adjust accordingly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balancetonquoi 4,707 Posted August 14, 2017 Author Share Posted August 14, 2017 You sound like a narcissist. Not at all I love helping people thats why I still have alot of friends even if I am like this lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balancetonquoi 4,707 Posted August 14, 2017 Author Share Posted August 14, 2017 I don't think it's that bad, but I know many will think otherwise. My advice is just try to stay true to your words. If you don't think you can change, talk to people and warn them beforehand. See if they can tolerate your behavior and adjust accordingly. Thats what my father told me ! I think the "last minute" part is what people hate the most so Ill try to fix it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elvenjade 1,179 Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 The negociation thing isn't necessarily bad unless it ends up badly inconveniencing your friends and family. The last minute cancelling is big no no for me though unless there is a very good reason (like an accident or something). A friend who cancels on me at the last minute multiple times is untrustworthy and selfish to me, and it also shows that you lack the ability to plan ahead. If you think you'll be too tired to go out on the meetup day then refuse the invitation when it's first given or at least a few days before (around 2/3 days before if it was planned a week ago but at least a week before if it was planned for longer). That's especially true if the meeting was planned for a long time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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