CrayCray 2,636 Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 She used to be so nice in the beginning as my manager but lately she's been kind of bullying me. I don't know what I did for her to hate me but each time we meet for the day she doesn't greet me nicely like how she used to. She would pull my hair when I'm not looking while she's passing by my area. I have to pretend like I don't care when I really do. When I'm sitting and looking down on my phone, she'll push my head down. She jokes around a lot with the guy workers but only verbally. I never see her physically do those things she does to me to them. Today, I dropped this long METAL thing we use for our food making table, and she said "you break it, you pay for it." That made me so mad because that fucking metal CANNOT break. I don't know why she's only been getting on my ass when I'm basically the hardest worker there and she knows it. All my other coworkers half ass everything and all they do is have long ass conversations together (most of the time with her) when they could be working. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jiraishin 1,276 Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 Maybe she likes you and tries to over-hide it? Your body is your territory, if you don't like her touching you, say so. Catch her after work and discuss it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim Seolhyun 7,303 Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 I have no advice but I hope things get better for you. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 Maybe she likes you and tries to over-hide it? Your body is your territory, if you don't like her touching you, say so. Catch her after work and discuss it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delirium 4,237 Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 Maybe she likes you and tries to over-hide it? Your body is your territory, if you don't like her touching you, say so. Catch her after work and discuss it. This especially needs to be addressed. She has no right to put her hands on you. You aren't her child or her toy and she's taking advantage of the difference in power. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceSmile 895 Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 Most probs she is threatened by your good performance and wants the seniority for herself. We can say too that she is testing you but those only happen in Kdramas hahaha Confront her! Politely if she is older. Maybe it's just her bad sense of humor since maybe she feels "closer" ? Well that is a scary thing to do but don't let her oust you just because of this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrayCray 2,636 Posted July 29, 2017 Author Share Posted July 29, 2017 This especially needs to be addressed. She has no right to put her hands on you. You aren't her child or her toy and she's taking advantage of the difference in power. That's exactly why I get angry because I'm just an employee, I feel like I shouldn't smack talk to her face. When she told me I have to pay for that metal thing if I break it, I couldn't control myself and said "I ain't paying for it" loud enough for her to hear and my supervisor was right behind her too. I have no advice but I hope things get better for you. <3 Thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrayCray 2,636 Posted July 29, 2017 Author Share Posted July 29, 2017 Maybe she likes you and tries to over-hide it? Your body is your territory, if you don't like her touching you, say so. Catch her after work and discuss it. Thanks for the advice. I dont know about her liking me when she used to be so nice and smiley around me. Now she gives me that face that says "the fuck you looking at?" when I interupt her chat sessions with other coworkers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 I think she likes you and for whatever reason she decided to behave like to get your attention or because she doesn't know a better way to act herself; like maybe she's trying not to be obvious but in doing so she turned into a bully or some messed up shit like that. I say this because I remember having a bad relation with this girl and she was acting like this girl you're describing like she was being a total ass with me all of a sudden and being very physical about it. It got progressively worse as we were classmates and could be around each other without being at each other's throat all the time. I got so fed up with her one day I just confronted her, called all her bullshit and started to ignore her from that day on. It went like this for some weeks and I think she realized I was seriously pissed at her and reflected on her attitude that she made a drastic change and started to talk to me but being very nice and gentle, it was like a complete different person I was blown away she could be this nice when before she was acting like a total bitch out of nowhere. So with her being your manager it's more complicated but I do think you need to try to confront her on her attitude while trying to be professional and composed. You can't let this pass by any longer and if it's necessary you could report her with her superior or something like that. However as you state you had a good relation for her and if you wish to things to be like that again you could try a different approach before confronting her; like inviting her for a coffee and discuss what the fuck is wrong with her and ask her about why things have changed but this depends on how close you think you were at some point. Either way you need to stand up for yourself because this it the type of thing that will keep on going unless you do something about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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