Do you want to have kids?

[Auri]

I don't think I do. I feel pressured by society, but the more I think about it, the more sure I am that I'd be making a mistake. I have a 7 year old younger brother and the amount of attention he needs and energy plus money he demands makes me wonder why my mom ever wanted kids. Sometimes I have to babysit him and it never matter that he's my brother and I love him, those moments really made me dislike him. Now he's older and he's going through a veeeeeery annoying phase and I don't even like being around him anymore.

 

Now after reading this thread on Reddit, I've realized that it's worse than I imagined. So many parents regret having their child. They need to sacrifice so much - from sleep to money to their very own relationship and happiness. Idk, it doesn't seem like a decision that'd make my life better. I don't want to have a child if I'm not able to fully love them and support them while still maintaining a great relationship with my partner and good quality of life.

 

Plus, I don't even like kids that much. Hbu?

[JSDOJDODJU]

i don't even wanna get into a relationship lmao

[impromptutraveler]

yes

[Matthew]

Hmmm ,seriously ,maybe a kid or 2 only

[JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY]

i don't even wanna get into a relationship lmao

 

in the future

[bellendciaga]

yes I do, I deffo don't feel ready to have them anytime soon though, maybe in like 10 years or so

 

and I see what you mean OP, one of my younger brothers is going through his annoying phase as well and I just want to punch him all the time 

[✧ Quinchana ✧]

Yes, a lot! Idc it takes so much time I would do anything to see someone I ''made'' grow up into a beautiful human being, and sure they can get annoying and you don't get a lot of sleep the first 2/3 years but if you have people like your parents or sibling who can sometimes babysit and support them so you can get a break it's hardly as bad. 

[mint.]

Not really. But maybe 1 when I get older.

[Ji-Lovely]

not now.. but I sure want them in the future..

[Marshmallows]

In the far away future yes.

[King Jaejoong]

I want to have kids. Don't judge by what people say to each his own experience. some people just don't know how to handle a child and can't raise him , then they blame it on the child. 
If you know how to deal with him, he'll love you and he'll become your whole world . I've seen people taking care of their old parents and who , despite having suffered because of them before, still cherish them and love them just because they gave birth to them.
I've seen happy families where children love and respect their parents and vice versa. 
Every relationship requires sacrifice, whether it's friendship, love, parent/child relationship, those struggles are what make the experience worth living. 
PS: My younger siblings have had their tough teenage days , especially my sister , she used to be so bratty and annoying but with time , she changed and now she's so sweet with mom and they love each other dearly, now we laugh at her silliness whenever we remember those crazy moments

[Pleasure]

No 

[RiseLikeACrowTit]

I don't think I do. I feel pressured by society, but the more I think about it, the more sure I am that I'd be making a mistake. I have a 7 year old younger brother and the amount of attention he needs and energy plus money he demands makes me wonder why my mom ever wanted kids. Sometimes I have to babysit him and it never matter that he's my brother and I love him, those moments really made me dislike him. Now he's older and he's going through a veeeeeery annoying phase and I don't even like being around him anymore.

 

Now after reading this thread on Reddit, I've realized that it's worse than I imagined. So many parents regret having their child. They need to sacrifice so much - from sleep to money to their very own relationship and happiness. Idk, it doesn't seem like a decision that'd make my life better. I don't want to have a child if I'm not able to fully love them and support them while still maintaining a great relationship with my partner and good quality of life.

 

Plus, I don't even like kids that much. Hbu?

Me personally no, but I can totally understand why people would want to sacrifice sleep, money and their owns to have kids, specially at certain age; yesterday the twins of my cousin ( 6 yrs old ) came and trashed the house, and I don't know how to express it but kids ground you, they give you perspective and they'r hillarious, they'll tell you that you'r ugly, smell, or talk like a sissy on the spot, I love that, but yeah, some people are really good aunts / uncles rather than moms or dads

[Auri]

Yes, a lot! Idc it takes so much time I would do anything to see someone I ''made'' grow up into a beautiful human being, and sure they can get annoying and you don't get a lot of sleep the first 2/3 years but if you have people like your parents or sibling who can sometimes babysit and support them so you can get a break it's hardly as bad. 

You seem so optimistic. If you have kids in the future, I hope it turns out as good as you're planing. I think only people who really want kids should have them tbh because that's the type of person that's willing to sacrifice what they need for their child and not become unhappy. You seem like you really want them, so good luck! 

[Ihavepopcorn]

Nope, not at all. I look at a lot of situations in a pros vs cons basis, and so far I've come across zero pros of having kids and enough cons to fill a novel. Plus my personality really wouldn't work with the demands of raising a child.

[mischievous]

Yes, more than anything in this life I want to have kids

[Electric]

No. I can't even get kids since I'm a lesbian, so whatever.

[Auri]

Nope, not at all. I look at a lot of situations in a pros vs cons basis, and so far I've come across zero pros of having kids and enough cons to fill a novel. Plus my personality really wouldn't work with the demands of raising a child.

Yeah, that's me right there. I've been analysing the pros vs. cons and so far, the only pro I've found is the far possibility that this little person makes you proud in the future and the small moments of joy they can provide. But that's only two very unsure pros vs a huge amount of concrete cons.

 

And as an introvert, I really can't imagine having to spend every single moment of my day with another person who can only cry and poop. 

[NovembersChopin]

No. Too much time and money. I'd rather spend that time and money dedicated to travelling, feeling free, personal development and hobbies.

[PrazzyJazzy]

I don't think people deserve kids if they don't have the financial or emotional stability to support them. It's not fair to the kids or yourself.

 

I personally don't want kids because I'm not the most patient person in the world, and there's a lot I want to do in the future. My mum is insistent that I'd settle down with a husband (but I'm super gay???) and have kids. I don't feel it. Not everyone as a natural maternal instinct. 

[Mini Robot]

Why not xD

[Baechu]

yes...i want 2 kids for my future

[shocking blue]

At the moment I'm kind of ehh. Like I think I could handle being a mom and I wouldn't mind having kids but I wouldn't be devastated if I didn't have any? I guess I will leave it up to my partner.

[BAEK JJANG]

No. In my culture its kind of a norm and is expected, so im sure my parents will pressure me to have em anyways :((

[Oli London]

Nope. I've had to babysit so many cousins and nephews and nieces in my life, I'm honestly so fed up with it. I don't want to look after kids ever again because it makes me think about killing myself.