Avee 60 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 Uhh so I've gotta write a paper until the 28th for university and I don't know what to do since I'm kinda stuck in a cycle of depression and anxiety and now it's only getting worse with the pressure of writing that paper. It's actually a subject I'm interested in and I've always enjoyed writing papers, but I'm way too depressed to do anything but stare at my phone all day. It's hard to sleep and eat and take care of myself. Don't even know how to start on that 20 pages paper. I've called a psychologist but gotta wait until the end of August to get an appointment. I could talk to a counselor at uni but I don't have a car at the moments and can't get there by public transport. Which is also why I can't even go to the library to get books on the subject (and don't have access to the online library for different reasons). I'm too anxious to ask my friends to send me the books in pdf format because they will think I'm a huge idiot. Also my H key isn't working properly. I'm a mess. I've thought about just sending my professor an email that I can't do it and try again next semester, but not even trying will only make me feel more shit. Anyone experienced something similar in the past? How did you deal with it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nsfwwww 5,298 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 Yes I was in uni and was fine and then got severely depressed and it only worsened with the stress. So I dropped out and got a job and I'll go back in a year or so because now I am going through therapy I know how it feels trying to do something like that while feeling bad... Maybe try going somewhere where you feel most inspired and try writing there? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovesound 4,053 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 depression and anxiety is real, couldn't even write or think about anything Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SugaJam 3,634 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 Drink a beer and sit down and write for 5 minutes. Just the act of starting something is difficult, and exponentially worse when you are emotional. The feeling is not going to go away, might as well drown it out by doing something else. Life don't stop because you do. Nobody going to help you but yourself. Even with others' help, most of the work is you. Don't run and just face it. 2-3 years from now you will be glad you did. Just think of it like you doing a favor for yourself that's all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dux 3,142 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 try scheduling yourself to get it done bit by bit. and after youre done the bit for the day reward yourself, do something you love. maybe write a page then watch a great tv show after ( try jane the virgin im hooked). remeber that even though it seems daunting now, if you start today you can get it done and never have to think about it again. think about what there is to lose if you dont do it, will it cost you to have to redo this? make the font 15 and arial and double space the paper, include a title page and an end page. good luck with whatever gou plan on doing! rooting for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Electric 392 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 At least you can go to school. My depression made me fail school and unable to get a job. But I hate working so It's okay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tearose 1,193 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 What's the subject? I'd just try to stare blankly at information related to it and it might jumpstart your mind to be slightly interested in writing about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Avee 60 Posted July 11, 2017 Author Share Posted July 11, 2017 Yes I was in uni and was fine and then got severely depressed and it only worsened with the stress. So I dropped out and got a job and I'll go back in a year or so because now I am going through therapy I know how it feels trying to do something like that while feeling bad... Maybe try going somewhere where you feel most inspired and try writing there? I've thought about doing that too but my parents who I'm financially dependent on won't support it since I already switched majors and universities a few times. I wish you all the best for your therapy and your new start! And yea I might do that if I can get a friend to come with me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Avee 60 Posted July 11, 2017 Author Share Posted July 11, 2017 What's the subject? I'd just try to stare blankly at information related to it and it might jumpstart your mind to be slightly interested in writing about it. Uhm it's for economic psychology and the subject itself is hard to translate, but it's about how you can make certain jobs more attractive for young people and stuff like that. And yea lol I might just do that. At least you can go to school. My depression made me fail school and unable to get a job. But I hate working so It's okay. lmao nvm but yea I should be Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweet Cupcakes for Twice 360 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 Uhh so I've gotta write a paper until the 28th for university and I don't know what to do since I'm kinda stuck in a cycle of depression and anxiety and now it's only getting worse with the pressure of writing that paper. It's actually a subject I'm interested in and I've always enjoyed writing papers, but I'm way too depressed to do anything but stare at my phone all day. It's hard to sleep and eat and take care of myself. Don't even know how to start on that 20 pages paper. I've called a psychologist but gotta wait until the end of August to get an appointment. I could talk to a counselor at uni but I don't have a car at the moments and can't get there by public transport. Which is also why I can't even go to the library to get books on the subject (and don't have access to the online library for different reasons). I'm too anxious to ask my friends to send me the books in pdf format because they will think I'm a huge idiot. Also my H key isn't working properly. I'm a mess. I've thought about just sending my professor an email that I can't do it and try again next semester, but not even trying will only make me feel more shit. Anyone experienced something similar in the past? How did you deal with it? Yes, last year I was so depressed at work that I became borderline suicidal (my job was highly stressful at that time). Luckily my professor is a great person and step by step he helped me out of it. He signed me up for three counseling sessions, talked to me on the phone even at 11 pm when I called him just to cry because I messed up everything, he told me that he forgave me and asked me to forgive myself as well. That hit me hard. I realized that shit happens, we just have to accept it! My only advice is, always remember that EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT, the suffering is only temporary. Forgive yourself, allow yourself some time to reflect and relax. Eat good healthy meals and exercise regularly. Talk to family or friends, listen to your favorite musics (avoid fan wars please). About your paper, have you heard of "snack writing"? It literately means writing short sessions (around 1 hours to 2 ) but write them regularly/everyday, trying to put the words down no matter how silly they sounds at first. It's more effective than "binge writing" or writing big chunks of words at once. Try snack writing, and you will get your motivation again. For now, just spend all day tomorrow relaxing first Time will heal , TRUST ME. Hang in there, I know you got this! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Avee 60 Posted July 11, 2017 Author Share Posted July 11, 2017 ( try jane the virgin im hooked) (omg i love that show but i watched all of it already i'm trying to catch up on modern family atm) and thank you for your kind words! Life don't stop because you do. Nobody going to help you but yourself. Even with others' help, most of the work is you. Don't run and just face it. 2-3 years from now you will be glad you did. Just think of it like you doing a favor for yourself that's all. yes you're right thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5th_wall 1,042 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 Uhh so I've gotta write a paper until the 28th for university and I don't know what to do since I'm kinda stuck in a cycle of depression and anxiety and now it's only getting worse with the pressure of writing that paper. It's actually a subject I'm interested in and I've always enjoyed writing papers, but I'm way too depressed to do anything but stare at my phone all day. It's hard to sleep and eat and take care of myself. Don't even know how to start on that 20 pages paper. I've called a psychologist but gotta wait until the end of August to get an appointment. I could talk to a counselor at uni but I don't have a car at the moments and can't get there by public transport. Which is also why I can't even go to the library to get books on the subject (and don't have access to the online library for different reasons). I'm too anxious to ask my friends to send me the books in pdf format because they will think I'm a huge idiot. Also my H key isn't working properly. I'm a mess. I've thought about just sending my professor an email that I can't do it and try again next semester, but not even trying will only make me feel more shit. Anyone experienced something similar in the past? How did you deal with it? God, don't I know this. A few bullet points: - forgive yourself When you miss a day, don't beat yourself up over it. You won't gain the time back and it will only make you more anxious. If you know that you positively can't write, do something nice. If you can't do that (hang in there, I know it is hard) fulfill a small, singular task with a clear beginning and end. You will be surprised how much better any sort of accomplishment will make you feel. Even if it is 'just' doing the dishes. - change of place Go to a library. Lock away your phone. Mark a page and do not leave until you have read until there. - write when you write, read when you read Just write but don't reread what you've written until the very next day. It helps to keep your inner voice from being overpowering. The next day, start with reading and then continue from there. - eat good food, fruits and veggies Your body will feel better and so will your mind. - Don't hit snooze. Never hit snooze. Good luck. Write an e-mail to your teacher if you feel you won't finish in time and ask for an extension. If you come early (not too early ofc) they might agree to it. Don't do this last minute though. Hang in there. You can get through it. And if you decide that it is too much, then please know that it's okay too. You are your own first priority. Your well-being trumps everything. Just retake the course. Sent from my HUAWEI VNS-L31 using OneHallyu mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dux 3,142 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 (omg i love that show but i watched all of it already i'm trying to catch up on modern family atm) and thank you for your kind words! yes you're right thank you LMAO flopp its just me thats behind! im binging season1 atm im obsessedi hope u got enough modern family episodes to last you to the 28th! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aegyo Chorong 35 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 Have you tried getting h!gh??? Seriously just relax, think about some happy things, and you'll eventually get the job done... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SugaJam 3,634 Posted July 11, 2017 Share Posted July 11, 2017 Uhm it's for economic psychology and the subject itself is hard to translate, but it's about how you can make certain jobs more attractive for young people and stuff like that. And yea lol I might just do that. lmao nvm but yea I should be i might be able to help. Maybe you can elaborate on the subject/objective and what u need to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-masayume- 3,749 Posted July 18, 2017 Share Posted July 18, 2017 I'm in a similar situation. I'm a thesis away from being done with college and I have no idea how my future will look like (you never know that ofc, but I have like zero idea of how will it look like) and if I'm even gonna succeed in achieving my dreams.In my case, I'm just writing things when I feel like it and how much I feel like it. I usually write maybe 1-2 hours per day, and anytime I feel tired I take a pause. And I keep reminding myself how feelings and things are temporary and how I can't always be down or feel like nothing is going right in my life, since life per se is a circle of good and bad things. Idk if you'll see this answer OP, but - hwaiting! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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